Anyone out there with teenagers? I'd like to hear from you about getting homework done

Rosetta - posted on 02/25/2011

Homework has had it's ups and downs in my household, my daughter has excelled in English, Foreign Lang and writting, my sons were good in Math and Science. We were blesssed in that our kids especially my baby boy has been afterschool help which is a good thing for parents. He's in special ed progrm for autistic children, he's 17, and I have learned to be patient, one important thing is to keep the line of communications open with their teachers, even try doing some it at yr lesiure so you can get the hang of it. I know the homework kids have today is waaayyyy different from we had when we were in school so much has changed. But, please don't feel like it's a lost cause, you get all of it, but some you will get an understanding of. Hang in there, it will get better. i ususally am by their side when they do home, especially is they ask for help.

Vickie - posted on 02/17/2011

We have three teens. All are good students. They are all encouraged to do some extra curricular activities. They have each found something they love. Sports, Band, Journalism, and Spanish club. Now they have to keep their grades up in order to continue these activities. We also give them a quiet, comfortable, space with all the supplies they need to do the home work whenever they choose. Only rule lights go out at 9pm. There will be consequences if grades drop and they know this. We will take the cell phones. Not allow a sleepover, or friends to visit. Say no T.V. or radio till work is done. Will not go out with friends on weekend. My husband and I are united on this. We find what works with each child, they are all different. and will remove those privileges. At the same time they understand that these same privileges are a reward for getting homework done on time and getting good grades. Also chances are better to go to a college of their choice. Our kids also have an understanding of what their lives might be like if they do not go to college. On occasion we have them help with extra chores around the house. such as yard work or landscaping. They will go to bed with tired and sore muscles. They know that if they don't want to feel like that every night after a hard day of manual labor then they need to make a better choice and get the home work done. We are not afraid to explain to our kids the difference between a right and a privilege. They have a right to food clothes and shelter. The television, radio, Cd's, i pod, computer, phone, and a car are all privileges and we are not required to provide all that for them. Make the punishment fit the crime. Restrict the use of some of these. If they don't miss it. They don't need it and find what works for your child. At the same time reward your child for the desired behavior with something that you know they like and enjoy. Be consistent and fair. Make sure your expectations are not too high, or too low. Make sure they know the plan of rewards and natural & logical consequences that will follow the choices they make. This should help end the battles. One more thing, be sure there are no learning disorders. Give extra help with reading or math if they need it. Get a tutor if you are not available.

Jennifer - posted on 02/14/2011

Yes I have a teenager she is 14 and I have different issues with her all the time she is like the original Drama queen and everything I try to get her to get done whether it is doing homework or cleaning her room I always have to deal with dramatic attitude but hopefully she will grow out of it soon LOL

Pauline - posted on 02/07/2011

Oh yes Teenagers they are a joy and a breed all of there own. What ages are yours, mine are 14 and 17

Jane - posted on 02/07/2011

I've probably tried about every method there is over the years. In the younger days there was a lot of crying, now she just whines. I try and get it done as soon as she gets home otherwise it will never get done. She has ADHD so that makes it a little challenging too. I often help keep her organized and show her what to do first. The best reward is when she comes home with a good grade and she can actually see the benefits of the homework/studying. I love Circle of Moms so another mom and I actually started our own blog to just chat about tweens and teens. Check it out if you have a chance: www.motchat.com and good luck with the homework. I think my next article will be this as I have struggled for so long.

Lori - posted on 02/05/2011

i give my daughter a 1/2 hour to do what ever then homework time Lori

Sharon - posted on 01/27/2011

hi , well i have 2 teenagers and a pre teen. they started out where it was pulling teeth, and lots of crying, but wow, they outgrew that and they either do it right after school or after supper. without me saying a word. impressive hey~! when they've been at school all day, they need a little brain break, so letting them chill a bit by doing something else like sledding, or if in spring, riding bikes, playing b.ball. hope this helps.

Dina - posted on 01/27/2011

I clean up after dinner and we sit kind of facing each other over the kitchen table.

My 14 year old son is learning disabled and had a life changing concussion (TBI) in Kindergarten. We recently moved to VA, and he has not found his footing yet. I've had a teacher tell me to improve his study skills. Heck, after 5 or 6 hours of homework, I have to read everything out loud to him, when do we study the four core subjects?

I know this was no help. But that is working for us for now! Projects still don't get done, especially when the expectations are through the roof, and he refuses to do it!

Kris - posted on 12/08/2009

Homework and teenagers UUGGG unless there is a cherry at the end of the homework its a pain in arse to get him to do it. His older brother was accepted to do college and high school but that was the last year if funding so I pulled out my 16 year old at the time to do both its due Friday - Thursday night he is cramming to do it but it is just is like pulling hair where as his brother I never had to say anything to. So its a bad thing I know but I do say if you get this done you can have the car to see the girlfriend 2x a week since she lives 40 minutes away. What can you do. Anyways that's my rant :))

Julia - posted on 12/07/2009

my two homeschooled 4 5yrs. once they went back 2 school, I had a problem w/ my daughter. I met every teacher & told her & them I wanted a small notebook with assignments, dates due, and teachers signatures r initials. It did not take long 4 her 2 not want her friends 2 c her treated like a 1st grader. I also threatened 2 sit n EVERY class w/ her; if above doesn't work!