Anyone trying/have become pregnant at 44 or 45?

Michele - posted on 09/08/2010 ( 317 moms have responded )

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I have an almost 3 year old daughter conceived more or less easily at 41...delivered at 42. I am desperate to have another one to give our daughter a sibling. I did get pregnant last cycle but promptly lost it. I superovulated with an IUI. Ancient eggs! Anyone dealing with this issue now? Apparently there is a big difference in womens' fertility after 41...even though 44 is just a few years older. What a hard journey. Anyone successful or do the donor egg route? My heart isn't quite where it needs to be for donor egg but I would be interested in talking with anyone who did go that route. Thanks! Glad to be back to Circle of Moms. Been away a long time!



Michele

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Brenda - posted on 11/03/2013

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Allison -- I'm 44 and am trying to get pregnant. What do you think allowed/improved you ability to get pregnant?

Susan - posted on 09/06/2013

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I had a healthy son at 48 naturally conceived. I wasn't living to healthy either though I quit smoking ages ago. I had an easy pregnancy and delivered naturally with no drugs or medical support. He's 6 mths old now and I'm still breast feeding him and enjoying it. He's an easy, sunny child and a great blessing!

Tammy - posted on 07/11/2013

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I will turn 44 next Tuesday and found out I am 4 weeks pregnant..naturally...excited!!

Annie - posted on 05/04/2013

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I conceived my 4th child naturally at 45, gave birth (VBAC) at 46. On my first antenatal visit, the doctor asked if I was a smoker. I said I had never smoked and he said "Then your cardiovascular system is the equivalent of that of a smoker 20 years younger than you." Pregnancy was trouble free, labour without complications in spite of obstetricians trying to put fear in me about the Caesarian scar from my son's birth 13 years earlier rupturing. (As if!!!!) Fortunately when I arrived at the small country hospital to give birth, there were no obstetricians in attendance so I was able to work with a lovely midwife who respected my experience. Recovery after the birth took longer than with my earlier pregnancies. I had very heavy bleeding for the first few weeks and was still bleeding a little at the 6 weeks check up. My daughter born healthy and normal, is now 11 years old, and at 57 I'm still getting periods, though they're spacing out a bit now. The sad part is that my daughter is ashamed and embarassed at having an older mum. She wants our family to be "normal".

Angel - posted on 09/11/2010

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Hi Michele:
I got pregnant at 44 and gave birth just before my 45th birthday. It can be done! Diet has a huge influence on fertility and you may wish to look at having a fertility enhancing diet.
I support and advocate for women having children after 40 at my site: http://www.flowerpowermom.com. There is a back catalogue of blog features there on enhancing fertility. You should also visit: http://www.mothersover40.com which is a site run by Jan Andersen in the UK--a very supportive lady!
BTW, I'm very interested in personal, inspirational stories of over 40 moms. Would you like to share with FPM readers why it's important to have a sibling? I very much felt that way about my son, who was born when I was almost 42!
Let me know,
Blessings and good luck,
Angel

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Kimberly - posted 3 days ago

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I'm 44 years old and my husband is younger than me. we decided to try to have a child together. I have three from a previous marriage and If God is willing I would love to give him one.

Kimmie - posted 5 days ago

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Thank you for the great info! I just turned 46 and have this overwhelming yet crazy desire to have a baby! Am I nuts?


Kimmie email: kimtweiler@gmail.com

Teresa - posted on 03/19/2014

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Hello Lisa Ward, I have been praying for myself and all of older moms who are trying to get pregnant successfully and also praying that God will give us healthy children both natural, foster to adopt parents as that is one of my daily prayer request list.

Lisa - posted on 03/11/2014

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Hello I've just found out I'm pregnant at 44 conceived natrually 5 w 6d really nervous

Nette - posted on 03/05/2014

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I am 44 and pregnant naturally after a tubal and an ablation in 2009. Yes you can get pregnant it is possible.

Sheri - posted on 02/28/2014

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Yes Jesus is coming soon. Praise God!!! I have been looking on the computer they have a monthly chart that you enter your last date of your period in and it lets you know when your most fertile days are. I dont know how much you can depend on it but im going to try as well as see my doctor next week to see if i can take clomid to help my chances of getting pg and staying pg. Look into it. a 60 year old woman gave birth for her daughter and she had already stoped having her periods. she took hormones and clomid and gave birth to a daughter then 3 years latr did the same for her other daughter and had twin baby girls. There is hope for us. Prayer first then medican then our babies! If god gave a baby to sara and elizabeth and hannana and ruth was around our age he will do it for us if we just ask! have a blessed day to all.

Teresa - posted on 02/27/2014

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Hi Sheri, It was great hearing from you! You and your hubby are in my daily prayers. Remember the Bible stories that there were several of older moms such as Sarah and Abraham and also Elizabeth and her husband. You and your hubby are in my daily prayers. I am so sorry about your loved ones who have passed away, I do feel for you, I lost my dear mom on August 21 2011; I truly do miss her so much! Jesus is coming back soon to take all of God's children home with him so we will be happily living forever with him and with his Father in Heaven!!

Sheri - posted on 02/27/2014

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Thank you so very much for your respond i too have been dealing with anxiety and pantic attachs. But praise god I did have my daughter at almost 40 and she is such a blessing. My husband wants another child so bad I do too and I am very open to adoption but he wants one of his own. I think it would be great to have a son or daughter around the same age as my baby who is 5. But again he wants me have have a child. I have a lot of stress in my life that Im trying to get out of my life. I do believe god can give me another baby. I will also pray for you and all of the other women who are trying to conceive as it is the will of God for us to multiply. I know of many women who have had babies at 47 and even 53 and conceived naturally. I have to go for now Im dealing with funeral arrangements a fiend passed away the day before yesterday. Jesus please help all us us who are trying to conceive and help those who have conceived to carry their babies without problems and to full term amen.

Teresa - posted on 02/27/2014

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Hi Susan, that is wonderful that you had your son at your age 48! I am so happy that God has given you a child! There is nothing impossible with God. I am 49 as my birthday is on December 3rd. I am in great health. I was sick with PTSD and severe depression for a while as that was when I was working in a negative job situation with the federal government. I am no longer in a negative situation as I left my job in two years ago on January 2012. I was so very glad that I left the government. I would not have time to be with my future children, not enough time to be with my hubby, my families and friends and would not be able to stay focused on Jesus on a daily basis. I had a lousy psychiatrist who have neglected my medical needs and he did not help me leave the negative job situation. I am no longer sick with PTSD and severe depression, I just have a mild depression as that is family hereditary. In my daily prayers, I pray and ask God to give me and my hubby natural children (twins) and even to be a foster to adoptive parent. No one deserve to be in a negative situation on a daily basis, God does not want anyone to suffer with illness such as PTSD and severe depression. I hope to hear from you soon. May God always bless you and your families! Please give your son love from me daily, tickle his little feet from me and kiss his feet too!

Teresa - posted on 02/27/2014

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Hi Brenda, this is Teresa Hewitt. I do agree with you when you say that God does help ladies to have children from ages 35 to 50 years old, nothing is impossible with him. The most important thing is to take good care of yourself, pray daily, stay close to God on a daily basis and be in great health.

Jody - posted on 02/27/2014

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Hi dee,
I've been taking fertileaid which contains vitex. My periods we irregular and wasn't even sure I was ovulating. Been taking it for 1month. This month I ovulated. I checked with Okp. I'm pretty olds had a baby at 39 with no issues but now I have just turned 48. Keeping my fingers crossed

Teresa - posted on 02/26/2014

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Hi Sheri, I understand you would love to have another baby. If God wants you to have another baby naturally or through foster to adoption, he surely will give you and your hubby another child in the right timing. I am 49 years old; my birthday was on Dec 3rd. My hubby and I have been trying to conceive for 6 years. I was sick with PTSD and severe depression for quite awhile as that was when I was working in the federal government job. I am no longer working in the government, I am so very HAPPY that I left there in two years ago! I am so HAPPY that I have left behind of all of the negativity! I had a lousy psychiatrist in the past, he did not provide me a good medical care and he did not help me leaving my negative job situation. With God's help, he helped me to get out of the negative situation. In my daily prayers, I pray that God will give me and my hubby children (natural and foster to adopt). I just do wish I would have a good psychiatrist in my earlier years. I have two wonderful Christian counselors now. I am deaf, but I can read lips and speak well. I will be praying for you and your hubby to be blessed with another child. Please give your daughter love from me daily. God bless you and your families always!

Cecily - posted on 02/25/2014

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Hi Kim 44 years, 4.5 weeks, and it happened naturally, have 3 prior healthy pregnancies...still worrield

Jodi - posted on 02/22/2014

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I'm 44 and just found I'm pregnant. I have a 13 year old and an 18 year old. This definitely happened naturally. We were not trying.

Coka - posted on 02/20/2014

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Hi Sheri, apparently the chances of becoming naturally pregnant at our age are around 1% max. If I were you I would talk to a fertility doctor to help you, since your chances of becoming pregnant keeps going down each month that passes now...he will help you and advice you. Good luck!

Sheri - posted on 02/20/2014

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I hope this post goes through as ive never posted before. I just turned 45 last week. im on my period now. i have a 5 year old daughter and im married to a younger man who wants a son if possible, i just want another child and my 5 year old wants a sibling. The doctors say no way but Gods says differently. I choose to believe him. Ive had 2 mc in 2013 and havent gotten pg since im trying. do you think clomid will help? what can I do to have another baby?

Coka - posted on 02/18/2014

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Hi Saba. I have twins that were product of a GIFT. I could never get pregnant by myself, even though I have been married for 21 years. I have endometriosis, so this affects fertility...

Saba - posted on 02/18/2014

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Hi coka congratulations for your pregnancy. Is this yours first?
Would you mind sharing what your fertility issues and what treatment you been on.

Coka - posted on 02/18/2014

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I am 44, got pregnant naturally, 5w, and delivering at 45. I Have teen twins but I did fertility treatments. Still in shocked and very nervous about this pregnancy...

Kirsty - posted on 02/15/2014

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Hi Kimber, great news for you. I agree that stress and anxiety are not helpful when ttc. However it is difficult to keep them at bay. Like you, once i quit the trying i became pregnant, the outcome wasn't great, but i can work on that to!!
There are several quotes in Jan Andersens book, " don't be afraid of the space between your dreams and reality. If you can dream it you can make it so."

Kimber - posted on 02/15/2014

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Breaks my heart to see women trying so hard! I am sending some positive vibes to you. I really believe that stressing out about it makes it harder, do other older moms agree? Once I 'gave up' a plus sign was there! I did however 'wish' upon my belly, saying if I can have you, I want you, as soon as I was 2 days late. I had irregular periods, had been coming down with a cold and didn't believe I really could be. I was beyond happy. However, no one else will be. I'm waiting until I'm about to show and I know everything is ok.

Saba - posted on 02/15/2014

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Kimber,good luck to u.
I am 43 trying to conceive since got married in November 2011.
Nothing wrong with me so far, husband 's sperm count 10 improved from 0 to 4 now 10. Not hopeful for IVF as doctor didn't gv me any of because of my age.

Kimber - posted on 02/15/2014

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Very old original post, but seen a few newer comments posted. I'm 45, conceived naturally, and only 6wks 4ds, so not out of the woods yet. How are all the moms doing here?

Kirsty - posted on 02/11/2014

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Hi i have used the ovulation strips there is a company in the uk that sell them in bulk. However i found them not to help me, yes they detected a rise but i never fell pregnant.
I do use the natural method of listening to my body and watching for changes in the mucus and also any cramps mid month.
I recently went to a hypnotherapist who works with fertility and i was amazed at how traumatised i have become following my pregnancy with my daughter and trying ever since with 1 MC.
I am not sure but last week tested positive, no drugs, no plans. Sadly i MC again but i am going to follow the same pattern and see my lady again this time looking further into the pregnancy and finding ways to raise progesterone.
Hope this helps
K

Kirsty - posted on 02/11/2014

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hi Dee, i had my daughter with little problems when i was 37, using clomid for PCOS. The difference for me was that my ob.was always positive never once doubting me or my age. I think this is so important. When i moved to NZ i saw other Drs who seemed unable to move away from my age and contiued to tell me statistics...AHHHHHHHHHH. It became so frustrating.

However i did get pregnant 2 years ago to MC and was spouted statistics.
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So i deccided to go it alone, i started to see a hypnotherapist about 3 months ago and i am not sure but when we were doing the work around my history was was amazed at just how traumatised i had become. I can't say if this helped but i think it is ironic that i tested pregnant last week with no fertility meds. I also have now developed a more relaxed attitude to getting pregnant.
Whilst we are devastated at the loss i am thinking i can do this again and need to concentrate on the next stage of raising my progesterone.

My advice is not always to listen to experts, i think looking at diiferent cultures shows us sometimes here in the western world we don't always have the answers.
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TanyaSalinger - posted on 02/11/2014

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Hi All,
I'm 40 TTC number 5 after 12yrs. We've been trying by the ovalatiin calendar online and it hasn't worked so far. I take folic acid, vitamin E & C & Iron in the form of SpaTone. I get them never 28 days but I was 9 days late this period and bled for 10 days very heavy. It even came through my clothes and I was wearing a super tampon. I didn't notice any clots tho when I was going to the toilet. Really not sure if it was an early mis.
Has anyone tryed ovalation strips. I seen cheap ones online? Also do u test say 12 days into ur cycle? Then itturns a certain colour??
I understand everyones feelings here wanting another baby!:)) My neighbor had her 2nd baby at almost 45! My sis-n-law 41. It can be done but somtimes I feel soo stressed by my age!:( I know relaxing is important but its hard + Ive been under alot of stress. Can anyone recommend certain vitamins? My sis-n-law took folic acid for a yr before hand. Any tips much appreciated!:))

Dee - posted on 02/11/2014

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I'm 44 and wanting child nr 2, however my hormones are going crazy and making my cycle hell... lots of stress... but praying and having faith that we will having another child soon.

however I would like to hear from other women who has the same problem as myself... what would you do? any good info?

Dee

Kirsty - posted on 02/10/2014

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I will turn 44 next week and have 1 wonderful daughter who i conceived using clomid 7 years ago. I was diagnosed PCOS.
I am having at M/C at the moment having discoverd i was 4 weeks pregnant last week ( Naturally)
It does seem cruel, that there was a glimmer of hope and then it is gone, however i do believe that this is a window that we can get pregnant.

Kirsty

Mayra - posted on 02/07/2014

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Thank you Vivienne! Will definitely post again and will continue to be on! Blessings!!!

Mayra - posted on 02/07/2014

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Well I got the results earlier and it was negative. It's bittersweet, I'm not going to dwell on it. I'm just happy that I started spotting (a sign) after getting the results. Can't get pregnant without having a period so I'm thankful right now we get to try again!!!

Vivienne Frances - posted on 02/06/2014

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neat one Lisa!!! I am also 44,trying for #5.....LMP Dec 26th,so possible?waiting to do a test a bit longer,too nervous lol!!!!
best of wishes with everything

Vivienne Frances - posted on 02/06/2014

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Hi Sharon,i have 4 ,1 has left home...1 not far off,I am 44 trying for #5....(2 weeks late,never know)(youngest 6) who cares what anyone thinks!don't worry...usually just jealous anyway
just make sure you have a rest everyday,if you can.put your feet up!take it easy,you are truly blessed,take care of u :)

Vivienne Frances - posted on 02/06/2014

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Hi Mayra I'm 44,LMP Dec 26th....ttc #5(youngest is 6)....gonna wait a bit longer to test,fingers crossed to all,please let us know how blood test goes

Mayra - posted on 02/06/2014

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It is a wonderful thing to be doing!! My relationship is similar in that my fiancé is younger than me too but you have to live life!

Mayra - posted on 02/06/2014

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I have three children ages 21,17 and 7. I am 44, I am 12 days late with a few negative tests. I took a blood test today and will get the results tomorrow. I was feeling symptoms early then nothing at all and now my breasts constantly feel full. I had my IUD removed December 13, had a normal menstrual period twelve days later and now nothing.

Donna - posted on 02/05/2014

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hi im donna im 44 would love another baby been trying for ages i have 7 children and me and my hubby have been together for 27 years so want to be pregnant but nothings happening.

Lisa - posted on 01/22/2014

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I think it will happen when you don't expect it. You are my age and I too have a 22 and a 15 year old. It can happen . I was in shock and probably still am but what I am coming to terms is , god must have a plan because for almost 3 years the love of my life and I didn't even think possible and boy were we wrong. I will pray that everything works out for you and yours.

Lisa - posted on 01/22/2014

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well I am 44 and found out I am 4 weeks pregnant. I have two boys ages 22 and 15 and I can just hear them when they are told, something like "really mom " I didn't think someone my age could even conceive , I didn't do fertility treatments or anything, Ive been with the love of my life for 3 years now and we are in shock.

Bernice - posted on 01/21/2014

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Congratulations your situation sounds like mine however every test i take is negative and i start everymonth. Just once i would love a positive reading . Hope you have a wonderful little baby :)

Bernice - posted on 01/21/2014

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Hello , im 44 and my man is also younger i have a new relationship he has no children i have had 3 , 22,25 and 11 , i also feel devestated everytime my period comes and it does like clock work , he believes in fate if its going to happen it will i dont want to give up hope but im afraid my days for babies are finished naturally i dont smoke im in good shape ive done so many things to prepare and everymonth goes by no pregnancy :( but lets hope we get that baby dust too :)

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This site gives me hope,I know its in Gods hands,the not knowing if we will ever have the baby we wish for is hard! Good luck ladies!

Sandra - posted on 01/06/2014

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dear michele, thanks for your lines! i got pregnant for the third time now at the age of 44 and i am really looking forward to my child being in the sixth month of my pregnancy! you can imagine how happy i am! my daughter (25!) helps me lot during pregnancy while i expect this darling child to give birth in three months. i conceived my child quite the natural way as ever. so give it another try also to get prregnant by making love over and over again till you get pregnant again! good luck to you and may your very wish get fulfilled pretty soon. happy pregnancy!
karin

Angela - posted on 12/20/2013

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Hi.I. am 44 turning 45 in February..I have a 2 yr. Old. I just found out I am pregnant with #2.Am scared and strapped financially. Confused. Good luck ladies, and don't give up .

Rachel - posted on 12/19/2013

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I am 42 (closing in on 43) and recently found out that I am pregnant. I got my first ultrasound yesterday and saw a hearbeat! My husband and I did it the natural way (yes he is younger than I am). I will be 7 weeks tomorrow. Dr said at this point we have an 85% chance of normal pregnancy from here on out since we saw the hearbeat and all looked great. Hoping this is true!

Nnamani - posted on 12/12/2013

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Thank you very much it is really helpful. At 43 I thought getting pregnant is a thing in the past. I took some of this Chinese medicine and for 14 days now I have not seen my period. With the joy I went for pregnancy test today and it came out negative. What do I do?. The person that gave me the medicine said that I should continue taking it. Please I need advice.

Sally - posted on 09/21/2010

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oops forgot to mention I was pregnant at 43 with my first and pregnant at 44 with my second. Hard road to get them here but I wouldn't change a thing. They are beautiful!!

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