Are you mom or grandma

Cheryl - posted on 04/23/2009

Hi. I'm a grandma 55 years young. My grand daughter is going to be 7 on the 26th of this month. My daughter and grand daughter live with me. Just seeing her every day watching her grow is great. To all of you grandmas watching or raising their grand children you are all in my prayers. Keep up the good work.

Lafond - posted on 04/22/2009

I am a new grandma. My baby is 9 months old and she's the joy of my life.I know it gets rough at times but hang in there. You're not alone.

Liz - posted on 04/22/2009

My heart and prayers go out to everyone raising their grandchildren. God bless all of you. I am a grandmother of 2 and we almost had to raise our granddaughter but our daughter got her life straightened out.

Your grandchildren are very blessed to have grandparents that care enough to fight for them and to put their lives on hold to once again raise a family. Those babies that you are raising will have a special relationship with you forever.

It takes more than the donation of a sperm or egg to be a parent.

Shirley - posted on 04/22/2009

hi we are raising our grandson who is 3 now we got when he was 20 months old after his parents put him in care at 5 weeks it was a very long and costly time for us to get him . his so called mother see s him weekly but it s a effort for her he as no contact with his dad they have a little girl also who lives with her mother and she recently married her new partner and are trying for another child they make me sick and i wish they would just get out of our lifes for good and stop messing our grandson s head up

so i can understand where your coming from

Bonnie - posted on 04/22/2009

Hi Laura, Being a sperm or egg donor or incubator does not qualify one to be a mum or dad. I kind of seperated it in my own mind with my foster children by accepting there are biological contributors to the creation of the child called Mother and Father. "This is your mother", "It is your Father on the phone". I also did this when I was stuck in the middle of warring families while practicing within the family law rhelm. I accepted and appreciated the fact that the gifts that came into my life and were given into my care would always have a Mother and Father but Mum and Dad will always be known to the heart of the child concerned, and that, regardless of what the child may verbally call either set of parents, the souls that have bonded in such a manner will never change.

Anne - posted on 04/21/2009

I can not tell you I know how you feel in all of this because I have not had even the experience of being a Grandmother let alone what you are living with. Just know your grandmother is very blessed to have you.