Ginamarie - posted on 02/10/2011 ( 13 moms have responded )
I feel alone and am wits end! I am the mother of two young adults- ages 19 and 23... they are both away at college. Meanwhile, I live with my elderly parents.Mom is a breast cancer survivor and has RA. Dad is a cancer survivor and has been on dialysis for 10 years. Dad will be 80 soon ( tomorrow!) and is rapidly going downhill- he is losing his memory and can't get around by himself or walk ( he is an amputee) Mom and I try very hard to take care of him, but it gets harder with each passing day- I don't have a job-- and am afraid to get one because Mom can't do it by herself and won't put my dad in a facility. It has gotten to the point that dad can't be left alone without someone on the same floor. I am sympathetic to both of them, but they need help and I need help dealing with them-- I have no siblings to commiserate with... is anyone in this situation? Does anyone know of support groups that deal with this issue-- I want to be very supportive of both of them-- but I just find myself losing my patience. One more thing- I have no legal standing to change things- mom is still pretty sharp and would resent any interference on my part.! Help Please!