Asperger Teens

Claudia - posted on 04/10/2010 ( 30 moms have responded )

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Hi, I am a mother of a14 year old boy who has Aspergers. I'm looking to find other Moms who have asperger children.

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Meri - posted on 11/05/2012

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Hello there, I have a son, 16, diagnosed with Asperger's when he was 6. There is another circle of moms group called Autism/Asperger's/PDD Awareness. You could check it out to find more of us!

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Lizl - posted on 02/06/2013

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Hi I have a daughter age 13yr Lives in Plattekloof,Cape Town area! We are not sure if she has Aspergers/add/pdd-nos OR if its all or n bit of each! No singular test available! We seen pschologists,remedial teachers, Audio-blok,extra reading at Tina Cowley! I don't have a medical aid,hence we struggle forth! She is in the 3de Primary school-currently been taken out of "Elsen Unit" due to intergrated school systems! Basicly Parow-north has done away with these skill clases! What is to becone of our kidds! Sure that's a Question on many parents lipps! Please share advise! Is it a question of coping skills our kidds need to develop! Where do I apply for High school? Knowledge changes attitudes which in turn can change abilities and circumstances! Stay in touch momms!

Jan - posted on 02/04/2013

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How can you tell if this is a problem? She was a sweet kid until 12 and then everything seemed to change. She doesn;'t seem to have a clue that her actions affect others, she seems to live in her world, is not very helpful when I can use a helping hand or two, I don't know why she is like this. She won't go to counseling.

Mary - posted on 11/12/2012

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Hello. I have a 16 year old grandson who has asperger's. He has no friends at all and tells me that he feels like an outcast at school. I am wondering if there are any other mothers or grandmothers with teenage boys who would be interested in having an e-mail correspondence for the kids so they could at least make friends online and not feel so alone?

Jane - posted on 11/05/2012

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Hi Claudia, my son, also 14, has Aspergers too as well as ADHD & sensory processing disorder. He was diagnosed at age 3. He is in 9th grade plus I've got an 11 year old neurotypical son in 6th grade. We like to joke that he has "ASS," Autistic Sibling Syndrome! (Got to laugh sometimes.) We're in NC. We have been trying various medications since we are dealing with aggression, among other issues. Do you have other children?

Dawn - posted on 11/04/2012

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thanks so much I will definitely look into the letter. actually there is a company that has all the services we need but they don't take our insurance, this area is so tough on servicing the young. basically just the elderly in which why I'd like to move up north.

Dawn - posted on 11/04/2012

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thanks so much I will definitely look into the letter. actually there is a company that has all the services we need but they don't take our insurance, this area is so tough on servicing the young. basically just the elderly in which why I'd like to move up north.

Molly - posted on 11/04/2012

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If you write a letter and ask for her to be retested, they have to do so within 60 days based on the law. (IDEA) there are good sample letterd on the net. Since your daughters health is effecting her ability to learn, she is covered under the law. The question becomes not IF the school can help her but HOW. is there an advocate in your area? Find one. They should accompany you to any meetings you have. They know the law and can help you enforce it. Be strong! Let us know how you're doing!

Dawn - posted on 11/04/2012

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I hav a 16 year old daughter who was just diagnosed with Aspergers. When sh was six she went to the University of Gainsville for a range of testing and they diagnosed her with ADHD. SHE was on a few different meds for that but nothing seemed to be working. I always knew that there was something else going on with her, the mood swings, potty accidents, lack of social behaviors. But nobody ever said anything to me. She has always struggled in school and was always sent to the next grade. Just pushing her through the system, I felt and still do to this day. Now that I know exactly what she has I find myself very frustrated with the school system here, Florida. I feel like they are working against me. Example.....it actually took her to attempt to commit suicide before she got any help. She was hospitialized for a few days then back to school. They (the school) made her sign a safety plan and so on. After I got her diagnois I requested her to be retested and had another IEP...they basically refused to test her and have her as other LD. They are treating her like a rebelious teenager which is not the case. Example # 2 since she was put on anti-depression meds and was told to open up more and let others know how she is feeling...she did just that to her school guidance counselor, they wanted me to baker act her, I refused, picked her up and headed straight to the hospital where she was admitted again for 3 days this time with mood disorder and aspergers. She was and is doing well on rispidal. Again she went to this guidace counselor and in confidence told her some things and they immediatly baker acted her, with out my consent!!!! I am beyond furious with this school at this point but we do not any other options in this area.



WHAT TO DO NOW?



Being that I am a single mother of two and working full time just to get by, I have no options here in the county of Florida. I would love for her to attend a different school but that takes money in which I really don't have. I do have the McKay scholarship for her but no schools close by either take it nor have the services she needs



I am so ready to pack up and move up north where I know she will get everything she needs. I feel like I'm running out of time here!!!!

Tora - posted on 09/01/2012

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I have 16 year old son with Aspergers. He has been receiving therapy, OT, PT and interventions at school off and on throughout his life. It's always been a very difficult but interesting thing to grapple with, for different reasons at different ages. Now that he's a teen, the two sources of difficulty are social issues and teachers. He has a very difficult time understanding the increasingly complex social cues and dynamics he's encountering every day (don't even get me started on dating--that will definitely take some time for him to untangle. We've found that some teachers "get it," but others just don't. They have an extremely difficult time understanding that a kid who is so bright can have such problems being successful in school. No matter how many reports from the doctor they get or info from the special ed folks, it doesn't make sense to them. They think that if he doesn't have ADHD and is so smart, he should just be fine.



Thank goodness we've found a special program for him at school that allows a more flexible learning plan that allows him to excel and gets him out of classes that don't work. Also, a specialized therapist and anti-anxiety meds have helped a lot. It's clear that kids who don't have these kinds of interventions can end out being very, very unhappy or worse. So we're working hard to help him learn to cope and succeed now so he can do it on his own when he's older.

Hacer - posted on 08/30/2012

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i would love to talk to you my son did nq in animation this year he hopes to study digital designing. i would love any thing to do to help him

Hacer - posted on 08/30/2012

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i would love to know what sort of things to do to help them. My son is 19 and three weeks ago I was told by his girl friends mum who works at an autism centre that he may be on the spectrum in a very scary way . I would be grateful for any suggestions as to what to do, expect. All I have been told is that he is in the borderline.

Brenda - posted on 04/24/2010

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I have a very good friend that has a son who is now 21, with Aspergers. He is now going to college, engaging in conversations, always has a smile on his face, and come such a long, long way. He was diagnosed at age 2, has been on some of the strongest meds available, but today is currently off of everything thanks to Shaklee nutritional products!!! I have seen and watched him over the last 15 years, and I have noticed a HUGE difference in his overall person! He is doing things socially that he would never do in the past. If you want to check out the products, go to: www.energized-wellness.com and if you would like to talk to my friend, she loves to share her story and success... I can connect you to her.

Mary - posted on 04/23/2010

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I have an almost 12 yo who has Aspergers, Bipolar, and several other comorbid conditions

Cori - posted on 04/23/2010

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I have a soon to be 5 yr old who is in a pre-k class mixed with 40% spec ed kids and 60% typical kids he receives speech and OT and has not received a diagnosis. What were signs you saw at this age?

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I have a 17year old son who was diagnosed this past summer...when he was 16. Early intervention would have been nice. I'd love to hear from other moms about how they motivate their Aspie sons to do school work or anything else besides playing on the computer.

Monica - posted on 04/20/2010

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WOW !! I would love to talk to so many of you. I have a 17 year old son, diagnosed with Aspergers in grade 8. He also has ADHD with anxiety. He went to a private school for grade 1-8 and it was always like they were trying to put a square peg in a round hole. We wanted to pull him out, but after many tears and talking, we let him finish there. It was only when he entered high school that he began to flourish. It has been such a struggle, yet he is such an amazing kid and very bright. I am thrilled to find a forum where there are other moms experiencing the same things as I am. I know many moms with children with aspergers, but no one with teenagers and young adults.

Theresa - posted on 04/20/2010

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I have a 19 yr old son who was recently diagnosed with Aspergers. He has had several other issues along the way, ADHD, Reactive attachement, FAS/FAE, ODD (opositional defiant disoeder, etc. we are just now looking at what some options might be available for him to be able to help him be independant and productive....you are not alone Theresa G

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Hi My son has Aspergers and is just coming up 21, he was finally diagnosed at 13 and although I already knew what was the problem and work with children and young adults with Aspergers and Autism it has been such a challenge to see him struggle. All I can say is it keeps life intresting and I frequently have a house full of autistic/asperger teens/young adults they are reasonable happy, well meaning and beautiful boys...I would not swap them for the world! I would however wish them and your selves a less challenging existance. Sara x

Molly - posted on 04/20/2010

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I have two...one who is 9 and the other who is 17. Both have adhd too. the 17 year old has never recieved services but he's adapted well. His friends have always said he was odd but lucky for him, they like odd! He has gained so much confidence as a runner on the HS cross country and track teams and much of his identity is tied to that. I have to say that I am terrified of him going to college. His adhd is more of a concern for us than the Asperger's. The same is true for my 9 year old. In 3rd grade, he's just starting to make friends and find those kids who like him for weirdness! His adhd is much more of a problem for him altho the Apergers comes out during class parties and field days. The noise and activity swirling around him are too much for him. He read a book during the last class party and his teacher didn't know what to make of it! For us, the Asperger's make my kids smart and quirky and we celebrate that here. Their confidence is striking! What's going on with your son?

Elaine - posted on 04/20/2010

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hi my son tom has aspergers he is almost 17 and at college studying art and design would like to chat to you

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I have a daughter who has it and just turned 23 yr old. Monica Mathias pretty much said it all for me. I don't cry anymore but I do worry. She has had a terrible time getting a job. She wasn't diagnosed until she was 20 though. The earlier you get help and work with them on Social Skills, the better!

Monica - posted on 04/20/2010

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My almost 20 year old son was diagonosed with Aspergers when he was 15. Too late for him to be successful in school - he was not like the one other asperger child in his grade and the school system had too little experience and seemingly no desire to recognize the difference. It has been a challange - sometimes I see the other young people his age, being successful at a university or community college, or with a job, and I cry. But, that also keeps me motivated to work harder with him to be successful.

Karen - posted on 04/20/2010

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Hi Claudia,
I have a 19 year old son with Asperger's. He just finished his first year of university and it was a great challenge to say the least! Have gone through many struggles over the years,and would love to chat sometime.
Karen

Debbie - posted on 04/19/2010

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I have a 28 yr old aspergers and have lived with this for a long time . Would love to chat sometime

Claudia - posted on 04/10/2010

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Do you have any suggestions about support groups or any tips on dealing with my son?

Kathy - posted on 04/10/2010

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I have a daughter with Asperger but I did not find out until she was 7 years old. She was a lot of problems but to look at her she looks like any other kid I should not say kid she is twenty now. It is really hard taken care of her.

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