Can you conceive natrually after 40?

Angel - posted on 01/19/2011 ( 131 moms have responded )

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Should we stop trusting our bodies to conceive naturally after 40? An often heart-breaking journey, filled with hope. I had given up on getting pregnant with my own eggs naturally at 44. I even visited a fertility clinic and they basically sent me packing. Little did I know I was already two weeks pregnant with my daughter.
There's a lot we can do to help our bodies conceive and I wanted to give other women hope. Here's a great reference article.
http://achildafter40.com/pregnant-after-...
Has anyone else conceived naturally after 40?

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Lisa - posted on 06/16/2013

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I am 49 still i have regular period and can i be pregnant if i have sex on my fertile days

Wendy - posted on 06/10/2013

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im 46 and trying to conceive again after 2 years any easy tips to help

Juliana - posted on 01/05/2014

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Im 48 soon to be 49 and never thought I would NOT be a mother. Is it just over for me? IVF is so expensive and it scares me. Am I just out of luck?

Kimberlee - posted on 11/03/2013

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Statistically, we are told that a third of the population starts to see significant decreases in fertility. By age 40, that number increases to about two-thirds! I had my first child, a healthy energetic baby girl, when I was few months away from 40. I had conceived just a few weeks after I had miscarried and had prayed about whether it was my creator's will to conceive or not. A year later, I miscarried again! They told me that a woman who reaches that "magical" number of 35 is what they call in medical terms "advanced maternal age", so they don't really try to understand what really happened and why. They just say it was most likely due to a "chromosomal abnormality". I am sure that the multiple tests they did--6 vaginal ultrasounds before the miscarriage (another one after the miscarriage, or 7 altogether) didn't help either! To top it off, I developed a bacterial infection and had to take a round of antibiotics. That week when I started these, was the very time the bleeding began, and that was when I knew that the inevitable was coming--the baby wasn't going to make it! I opted out of the usual procedure of D. & C. (glad I did, because it can potentially compromise the wound and cause problems for carrying the baby to full term later). Honestly, I think my body or mind wasn't ready yet at the time. Instead of giving up, I developed a game plan: start exercising, eat right and lose weight, and re-approach this in a year. A year later, I conceived again at 42 (delivered at almost 43). Praying again about whether it was my creator's will to get pregnant, I awoke my husband at 2:00 a.m. and said it's now or never! I knew instantly that I was pregnant and did a home pregnancy test that week to confirm it, but refused to go into the clinic until I knew I was around eight weeks or more, to give the baby a chance to develop on its own a little before submitting to a vaginal ultrasound again.. My answer in short (too late, for a short answer!): the body AND the mind work so closely together (inseparable really) that you have to really WANT the pregnancy, I think! Then, the body follows suit and helps to make it become a reality. Faith in God helps too.! If it is meant to be, I pray that you will be blessed with all your heart's desire! I now have a healthy baby boy, as well as a little girl. They are far from perfect, just as I am! Actually, the older I get, the MORE I realize perfection isn't the key to happiness; perspective is!

Alyne - posted on 04/22/2013

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Yes you can! I conceived when I was 44 years old, all naturally! Was off birth control for a bit over 3 years and told my husband in May " I am going to be 45 in June and if we are not pregnant by then, we are not having any children". Low and behold, I found out I was 6 weeks pregnant the beginning of July. What a blessing it was. No problems at all and we had a healthy baby girl 4 weeks before her due date, but she was perfect. And 9 years later, she is still perfect and healthy. So keep on trying!!!! God Bless you.

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Shara - posted 2 days ago

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Update at 36 weeks of pregnancy:

I got pregnant this year 2 mos. before I turned 47. I still had regular periods, no fertility treatments. This is what has transpired since I posted in March:
My pregnancy has been uneventful except for the scare tactics of the perinatologists. If they want you to go to one, please take an advocate or hubby. My husband was there and witness to Dr. Nazi who repeated that my baby could have Down's because at 19 weeks they thought they saw a "Pulmonary Sequestration" and a "VSD" or whole in the heart. Although the doctor admitted that these usually resolve in the womb he was wholly disheartening. He prescribed steroid shots and ultrasounds every 2 weeks. However, he replied that there was nothing they could do inutero and so I put my foot down and refused the steroid shots (which only prevent pre-term labor) and an ultrasound every 2 weeks. I also refused the amnio but got the blood test which was "low proabability" for Down's. I have refused to return to the perinatologists.
(Interestingly enough I hear countless stories of women who are 20-35 who have had babies 3 months early whose lungs ruptured upon birth and required surgery etc. etc. have not been sent to high risk centers in their subsequent pregnancies. Who is considered high risk anyway? Me and the drug addicts??)
Now I just completed 36 weeks and there seems to be no fluid in the lungs of the baby but my OB who can only see 2D imaging wants me to return to perinatology because they have 3D. My OB is completely unwilling to comment on the lungs, yet they look fine in the ultrasounds according to my own eyes and to the sonographers. And although my OB sees no fluid in the lungs she has been very careful only to say that "I cannot comment on the lungs, I am not a specialist".
I am only going to accept if I can visit another perinatology center. Last night I researched Pulmonary Sequestration again, and although it is rare, if there is no fluid in the lungs then it most always resolves by 32-36 weeks.
I feel very confident in this baby's health because I have prayed a lot.
I do suffer from INSOMNIA due to just being pregnant. However, the doctors also increased the level of possible danger in each conversation in their attempt to scare me into accepting their treatments have caused me more sleepless nights, loss of appetite and horrible anxiety.
Bottom line is that they treat you like an old person ready to kick the bucket who has a 1/12 chance of severe birth defects, but I don't believe this is the norm. I believe after much research that the numbers are so far less of women over 45 giving birth that they have very little data to go on in the first place. So, take courage and when you think "well, this is the last year, I should just move on" then you may get pregnant!

Cheryl - posted on 10/15/2014

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yes mam I had my first baby at 36 another at 38 and my last at 43 all natural I also had 2 other failed pregancys both within 6 months between the first and second baby all born natural breast fed all 3 for 15months so it happens good luck, id have 1 more but too scared now that my youngest is 4 and soon to be 47, I did get gestatinal diabetes but it was the last month and everything was fine

Jennifer - posted on 06/30/2014

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I just turned 40 in March. I just found out I'm pregnant. I had given up in my mind and I was just about to give all my baby books away. I have had several miscarriages in the past so right now I'm praying everything goes well. I really feel this is a gift for God and I am keeping my faith. Never give up! Never!

Rose - posted on 05/27/2014

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Dear Ladies,

My best to all of you. I married and had my first child at 36 and then had two difficult miscarriages at 39 and 40. I had almost given up and then at 41 conceived my second child who was born at 42. I was told I only had a 10% chance of conceiving naturally at 41. Never give up!

Julie - posted on 04/23/2014

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I had 2 mises after 40 and at 43 decided to go the egg donation route. My FSH levels were not good and my chances of having a live birth were about nil. You can take care of yourself and try all different types of herbs, ovulation kits...you name it, but still not conceive a child after 40. I realized what I wanted was a child and that is how we were able to have one. My sister-in-law got pregnant at 42 after having 3. I also went into menopause at 49, which is on the low side of normal. Not sure if that played a part. My father was born when my grandmother was 45 and my mother was born when her mother was 36 so I thought I would not have a problem. We paid for my son with no-interest Visa cards!

I now have a wonderful 11 year old son. The process was costly, emotional and scary at times, but I am so happy to have a child...and I was ambivalent about becoming a mother. After I met my husband and he wanted kids and my 2 mises

Brook - posted on 04/08/2014

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Yes. I got pregnant naturally with my daughter when I was 42. I had a 6 year old daughter and was told I had secondary infertility. We decided to adopt a sweet son from Taiwan, got home said internally to myself "Life is perfect this way" then BAM, got pregnant.
I was told the reason I didn't get pregnant was because I wasn't relaxed. Who can be relaxed when you strive so hard to get pregnant? I like Joanna's comment that you should think of your ovaries as healthy and pink and it will come.

Joanna - posted on 04/03/2014

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Helen,
Sorry for your loss, My Gyno told me to relax and think my ovaries were healthy and pink and it will come . It worked for me so I am trying again at 41 plus I am using the fertility sticks that tell you when you are ovulating you just pee on them. Good Luck

Shara - posted on 03/26/2014

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Thank you, Kim! I am still pinching myself because it is hard to believe that I am pregnant!

Kim - posted on 03/21/2014

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Shara- CONGRATULATIONS! I am so happy for you, what a miracle! I'm 43 and have been off birth control for about 5 yrs and nothing. It was really nice to read your story.

Shara - posted on 03/19/2014

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I just got news that I am pregnant naturally 2 months shy of my 47th birthday! We had been trying for a second baby, but not blessed until now.(I had my first child at 36.) I also prayed a lot and consoled myself with the thought that "God has either planned or not planned another baby for me since the foundation of the world". I did not have any fertility treatments or drugs, I try to do everything the natural, healthy way. I don't take any antibiotics and have never had the flu shot.
I am so happy I waited! (Also, I recorded my periods, but stopped thinking about ovulation times and gave some baby stuff away. I accepted that I wasn't going to have a second baby, even though I found myself still disappointed each month and asking God to take away the desire. So, letting go does work and let God do what He has either planned or not planned for your life!

Anne-marie - posted on 02/04/2014

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I am 49 and would so love to be pregnant again----I had my son Joshua who is now 5 after 2 failed attempts at IVF then really just a 5%chance of ever conceiving I guess because of my age at the time. I understand that the chances are lower however I don t feel quite ready to give up on us as I wasn t ready to do so when the Dr told us that our chances then were pretty grim. I am trying to enhance my fertility but to be truthful not sure if I am still ovulating and off course whether producing eggs. I did see fertility specialist 18 mths ago lower AMH, and failed artificial insemination-----------------eeeeeeeeeeeeee

Candy - posted on 11/05/2013

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Angel, My parents tried when they were in their 40, but now they couldn't because my parents went to this place and they tried everything, but then the doctors called and said that my mom couldn't make one. So do you know what they can do, because me and my sister really want a baby brother or girl, but they still can't make one. Is it because of theirstress or what. Please reply back, and Thank You

Kimberlee - posted on 11/04/2013

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When I was going to a Christian Science Church, they had a saying they said often: FEAR--acronym for False Evidence Appearing Real! In other words, the more we hold up fear and choose to bow down to it or succumb to it, the more we make it more of a reality for us! For example, physiologically speaking, when you are pregnant, your hormones are operating at an all-time high. You have twice the blood volume as well. Now, fear enters the picture and starts to work to make your blood pressure go up and you feel out of sorts--losing your mental clarity, because all you can see is the negative picture! Now, close your eyes and begin to focus on your breathe--taking longer inhales and longer exhales. Begin to imagine that as you exhale that you let go of all that negative stuff ( I.e. negative energy, whatever you want to call it). Then, with each inhale, you feel a rush of oxygen come through your nostrils and a feeling of warmth like the gentle sunlight on your face and radiating through your body. Stay with me and continue focusing on your breath, refusing to let any negative pictures take shape in your mind. Now, you will start to feel your blood pressure go down and your heart will not have to work as hard. Your breathe is coming to you more easily now and you begin to experience more mental clarity and can focus now. This technique is called Creative Visualization (the book was written by Shakti Gawain), I just adapted it to make it work for me. When I was close to giving birth and shortly thereafter, I found my blood pressure start skyrocketing to 150--160 or more (Systolic reading). I used this, along with prayer, and it made all the difference. I hope it will be of some use to you now, and maybe, you can teach it to someone else to you in the future!

Lee Ann - posted on 11/03/2013

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Hi
I was desperate searching the Internet (no always positive reading) I just found out I am pregnant at 44 (45 in January but don't tell any one lol) . This is a surprise since all statistics say "no", we had our first son when I was 37 (9 lbs 11 ounces), and our second son when I was 40. Shortly after his birth I was diagnosed with lupus ( not sure how that affects pregnancy) but have chose not to take any medications over the last few years choosing a meat free, yoga loving life, it has been painful at times but I really did not want to be on those "multiple meds". I realize I am rambling but I am full of doubt and worry over pregnancy and reading all the statistics which are negative does not help. Okay that is my ramble for this morning as I sip my half caff coffee - didnt have one yesterday we t cold turkey and had a migraine plus have been feeling very nauseas as I did with both my boys.

Angel - posted on 10/17/2013

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Don't give up hope, Nicole! There's a lot you can do to prepare your body. We just posted a new article yesterday by Dierdre Morris, M.Sc., M. Ed., on how part of getting pregnant after 40 can be "mind over matter". Once you hit 40, and want to conceive naturally, you need to consider all options, including your frame of mind. There's a whole host of reference articles in our "Pros & Cons" section if you're interested in learning more. In the meantime, here's Dierdre's take on it: achildafter40.com/get-pregnant-over40-using-mind-over-matter/.
Focus on the positives and on what you CAN do now to enhance fertility!

Nicole - posted on 10/17/2013

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I am 41 last year told my dr I wanted to go on depo for 4 months then go on pill so I could conceive just after I got married. Well it has been 6 months and still nothing. Been online and it says may take up to year to get depo out of system and dr never told me this so I am thinking I am out of luck. My husband keeps saying it ok babe next month.

Nicole - posted on 10/17/2013

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I am 41 last year told my dr I wanted to go on depo for 4 months then go on pill so I could conceive just after I got married. Well it has been 6 months and still nothing. Been online and it says may take up to year to get depo out of system and dr never told me this so I am thinking I am out of luck.

Angel - posted on 10/10/2013

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Sue, congratulations, I'm really delighted for you and your little girl! :)
I'm interested regarding the comment the fertility clinic made about fertility over 40. Research has shown that using IVF does not significantly enhance a woman's chance of getting pregnant if she's older. (In other words, its not a panacea for aging.) Recently, a psychology researcher from California, Jean Twenge, created a big fuss by stating that existing fertility rates for women over 40 do not accurately reflect the reality--meaning, that we are more fertile than we think.
The New York Post interviewed Jean (and me!) on the subject of "panic" over our ability to get pregnant after 40 and you can read more about her arguments here: http://achildafter40.com/ny-post-angel-l...
I think the key is that each woman--and her fertility--must be viewed on a case-by-case basis. We're all different, with different fertility genetics!

Michele - posted on 09/24/2013

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o yes a friend of mine in Chile is 43 years old and has 3 kids and now gave birth to TWINS : A BOY AND A GIRL!

Angel - posted on 09/13/2013

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Great story Megan! I used to think that I was a rarity because I gave birth to my last child just before turning 45, after conceiving her naturally. However, I'm hearing a lot of stories from women mid-40's onward who are getting pregnant naturally. I've got one mom who is trying for her 4th child after 40 and will writing her story for us at www.AChildAfter40.com to give inspiration to other women trying (and praying) to conceive after age 40. Watch this space! In the meantime, here is one of my all-time fave uplifting "hope" stories about pregnancy from a mom who got a big surprise at the age of 45, after losing a whopping 140 pounds! http://achildafter40.com/pregnant-at-age...
Please keep your pregnancy over 40 stories coming! I love them and really appreciate the hope you are giving others! Megan, please let us know if the stork comes again. :)

Victoria - posted on 09/13/2013

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Megan Mayer - excellent! Did you do anything different to make it happen, especially this time at 45? Please tell us more - wonderful to hear your story!

Victoria - posted on 09/13/2013

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I really love reading the success stories here, thank you for sharing them, ladies! It is very encouraging to read that other people had years of not getting pregnant and all of a sudden, they did. I would love to read more of those stories! I often think about the comment someone made, that this is a numbers game and you have to keep trying to get to that good egg. Who has an opinion on this? I am 44 and still trying.

Angel - posted on 09/04/2013

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Apparently, Chinese medicine says we can slow down the biological clock and enhance fertility after 40 through diet. There's also stuff you can do to stop accelerated aging of your reproductive system. This article outlines the lifestyle factors that hurt fertility (like stress) and how they affect the biological functioning and what you can do to repair your body for peak fertility: http://achildafter40.com/real-reproducti...
I'm really enjoying reading this comments and hearing how many of us have been successful at getting pregnant over 40!!! Yay for everyone!!

Megan - posted on 09/02/2013

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I have conceived naturally twice after 40. My husband and I tried IUI (4 times) and, when that didn't work we decided to take a "break". Two months later we were pregnant at 43! We had a beautiful little boy just after my 44th birthday. This year we have a surprise pregnancy at 45 and I will deliver our daughter just before my 46th birthday!
It can happen - believe!

Quintana - posted on 08/29/2013

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Im 28 weeks pregnant and Im 40..I conceived one month after the father and I got back together..it was a big shock because it happen so fast..

Angel - posted on 08/27/2013

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Hey, many of you on this thread might be interested in knowing that, by all accounts, aromatherapy can help you get pregnant after 40. We just had an article from this over-40 mom who is on her second marriage and trying to conceive after 40. She's also an aromatherapist and has come up with a plan for enhancing her fertility using essential oils. http://achildafter40.com/increase-fertil...
I've been using oils for years, but did not realize it can help conception. Wish I'd known that when I was trying to conceive at 44!!!

Anna - posted on 08/27/2013

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Had my 4th baby a few months before I wad 42.it was a big surprise as my other kids were 18, 14 and 12 at the time.healthy pregnancy and healthy baby.

Kathy - posted on 06/15/2013

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I had a baby girl at 40, it took 3 months of trying to conceive her in 2004. I thought that I was done having kids, but ended up pregnant at 48. On March 29th 2013 I gave birth to a beautiful healthy boy Matthew. I thought I was in menopause for the first four months.

Ginna - posted on 06/15/2013

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I am 42 and seven months pregnant! The baby was conceived naturally and has no known problems for far. My older sister also had a baby aged 42 that was conceived naturally, and by accident, and my niece is completely healthy and happy.

Angel - posted on 06/13/2013

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Hi Mahila,
It is ok to work on conceiving a baby at 42. I had mine at 41 and 44 after conceiving naturally. You should just be aware of the increase in genetic anomalies and adjust your diet to maximize the health of your baby. This includes removing caffeine which can negatively affect fertility. Here's an article on enhancing your fertility after 40: http://achildafter40.com/pregnant-after-...
Dr. Ayla Wilson talks about diet here, including coffee: http://achildafter40.com/5-tips-increase...
And another on the pros and cons of motherhood over 40: http://achildafter40.com/challenges-bene... (including having a single child)
It is increasingly common that women have have children after 40 are more likely to having singletons or "only children". My 10 year old son has a best buddy who is an only child and he's happy and well-adjusted! His mom just ensures he has lots of playdates and sleepovers! :) Good luck! Hope you'll keep us posted!

Maliha - posted on 06/12/2013

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Hey all,

Im Maliha and have one son who will be 4 yrs on 26th of this month. Im a working mom and will be 42 yrs in November.

Initially i was happy with one child but somehow i feel my son needs a sibling as i have noticed during my sister visit with her kids and my son enjoyed their company and was very unhappy on their departure.

im just concern whether i can have a baby at this age and will it be naturally or i will have to go through some medication. my periods are normal usually last for 5 days and have not taken any precautions lately to avoid conceiving but im afraid of my habbit of drinking black coffee in the morning after reaching office that might have affect my chances of conceiving, which i have stopped only few days back.

I need all the help/suggestions to make me take the decision:

1. its ok to have baby at this age (i has my son at 37 yrs) and can it be naturally
2. should i go for second child or not
3. if i dont go for second child will it impact my son in any manner in future years.

looking for all the support that come from the moms out there
thanks

Tricia - posted on 06/09/2013

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some women have a boost in fertility in late 30s and 40s. my sister-in-law did.this was done without ivf, which can have embrios that aren't ever born.God bless everyone always

Marice - posted on 06/07/2013

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Depends on the individual. Me, I got pregnant at age 40 within a month of trying. On the other hand, I have several girlfriends who had trouble for years in their 30s. My doctor told me that most women who have trouble conceiving later in life probably would have had trouble earlier in life too -- it's just that if you find out early that you need help, you have more time to get that help. It's such a crapshoot, too -- so many things have to be working in the right way for conception to occur. Good luck!

Merewynne - posted on 06/01/2013

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I just did, despite many, many odds and setbacks! It all depends on how well you take care of your body and what your mental state is.

Stacey - posted on 06/01/2013

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I had my one (and only) daughter at age 41. I was married at age 36 and we tried conceiving off and on over the years. It finally happened when I was 41 and my pregnancy was great until the 6th month where I developed severe pre-eclampsia and HHELP Syndrome and had to have an emergency c-section to save both my daughter and I. Born at 27 weeks she spent 96 days in the NICU but has survived with only a few lasting health issues. It is definitely possible to conceive in your 40's, but please be aware that certain complications may be more prevalent that are age-related.

Katie - posted on 05/28/2013

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Victoria -
You asked about the "painstaking methods" that my husband and I used to conceive our son... We carefully timed the day of ovulation using the first day of the last menstration as a guide. We actually did not use an ovulation test, but that prob. would have helped, as my cycle was getting irregular. Then we went by a 4 days before / 4 days after (day of ovulation). See the following link for good advice: http://www.babymed.com/best-time-to-get-...
I hope that my posts have been helpful! I am sending good baby-making vibes your way...

Leslie - posted on 05/27/2013

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Victoria,
It was completely unplanned. I've never had a miscarriage, thankfully (that i know of.) My cycle had not completely regular for much of my life but had become regular. The month before, i got pregnant, I had an unusual period with heavy clotting but I was not late. And that was the last period I had until after my daughter was born. I also found out during my first sonogram that I have at least one fibroid in my uterus.
I don't know if this helps you but I wish you the best.

Victoria - posted on 05/27/2013

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Leslie,
That is so interesting. Thank you for sharing your story. Were you trying at 44, or did it happen when you least expected it? I would be very curious to know also if you had any miscarriages along the way. I was able to get pregnant easily at 41, but now it is really difficult, and I can't really understand why things are so completely different at 44. I have had a couple of miscarriages since being 42, and lots of months where it doesn't even get that far. Would love to hear from you again. Thanks!

Leslie - posted on 05/26/2013

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I got pregnant naturally (and unexpectedly) and gave birth to a healthy baby girl at age 44. I had a 23 year old son and a 16 year old daughter at the time. While very shocked, I've never stopped being grateful for the chance to be a mother one more time. I'm almost 51 now and still have pretty regular monthly cycles. I'm more than ready for them to stop, though. It can happen past 40. I know 4 people who had children past 40 and both of my grandmothers had children past 40. (One was 45!)

Victoria - posted on 05/24/2013

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And please tell us, what was your painstaking method??? How did you figure out when your fertile days were when your cycles were irregular? I have the problem that the cycles seem to be very short, not long, making ovulation happen on day 8 or so, instead of 14, as it once was. But on day 8 the egg is not likely to be viable, apparently, as it emerges too early to be mature. Do you think the times you were late were pregnancies that ended very early on their own, because something wasn't right? That is the feeling I have when my period comes late and then quite heavily, as if the body had been briefly working on being pregnant, but then gave up. Thank you so much for responding!

Katie - posted on 05/21/2013

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Victoria, in response to your question, I did have irregular cycles after 42 or so. After many times of being "late," I thought I was either pregnant or going through menopause (I was pretty sure it was the latter). You can imagine my surprise when I saw the two lines on the test strip. I showed my husband to see if he saw the same thing I did, and he sure did. He was just as surprised as I was. We both couldn't believe our painstaking method actually worked. The nurse was surprised, too. The only one who wasn't surprised was my OBGYN, who always had faith that it could happen (not just to us, but to any woman over 40 [45?!]). I hope this gives hope to all!

Victoria - posted on 05/21/2013

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I love Katie's story too, and I wish she would return to this thread and tell us a bit more about her success!!

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