Lynn - posted on 06/12/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )
i have 5 kids 2 grown up with there own kids who live near by and 17 year old daughter planning on going to live in spain with her best friend next year and 2 more at home a daughter Olivia whos 16 and son 14 they are all good kids iv been bringing up the younger 3 for over 3 and half years on my own and try being a truely good supportive mum. Im always there for them when im not working my part time job, and im very open with them. They all know they can come to me to talk about anything. The problem is my 16 year old daughter who has just finished her gcses in high school she has applyed for college to do catering which she is really looking forward to she is a good girl but has been constantly bullyed in high school she is so happy those times are all behind her, she has been going out with a 18 year old lad who when i first met him he was homeless jobless and moneyless iv treated him like he was myown helped him get somewhere to live in a hostal at the moment iv tried getting him motivated to look for job iv helped him get his benefits for money sorted out in this way i feel im helping my daughter Olivia too as she asked me to get involved in this way. now since leaving school she has been comming home at all hours very very late with no remorse for doing this i try explaining she is not grown up yet and i need to know she is safe at home before i can go to bed and i put a time of 11.30pm to be home unless she is going for sleep over at a friends last night she was not home after midnite and on phoneing her she yelled at me she was on her way home i knew from the way she came in the door she was in an argumentative mood but as a mum i have to find out how she is and if there was anything wrong so i asked her why she was so late and she was yelling at me to leave her alone she told me she was not a child any more after 10 mins or so of this she ran out of the house i ran after her in bear feet she is fast i could not catch up to her i shouted after her come on home lets talk whats wrong, she just yelled back she was not comming home she will be staying at a friends for a few days when i asked her what friend so i knew she was going to be ok she would not say now im left worried and wondering wots up as in the argument at home when i asked her whats wrong she kept on replying whats the point in telling you cos you will never understand i consider myself to be a very understanding person but i could not break though and get her to open up and tell me i even asked her if she was pregnant and she just yelled at me no im not but all the thoughts going round my head are upsetting me and she wont answer my phone iv left her text messages and messages on facebook but nothing back from her have any of you been though simila and how did you cope what am i doing so wrong i feel like im being punished for something i dont know iv done.