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My stepdaughter will be 15 in March and boy she's a lot of work. I have another daughter of my own so know the hardship's with a girl teenager, but i have had a very difficult 10 years with her. She's nice when it suit's her, she loves me to bits when it suits her, and makes trouble every now and again between her dad & me. Her mom gave her to us since she was 5 yrs old, and only sees her & is friends with her dad & myself when it suits her. Her daughter and herself had a fight in Dec 2008 and she hasn't seen her mom since. She has only just gone to her mom this year but only because she made trouble between her dad & myself over xmas. now i am the shit again. i am sick of trying and get so dispondent, will it ever change. I have tried everything, but her dad takes her side most of the time and is very fraustrating. i have 3 children, daughter of 28, son of 25 and a son of 19, when i try suggest something then it gets thrown in my face that "oh sorry.... he doesn't have 3 kids and i know everything". My husband & i have had a very hard 10 years tog and have been on the verge of divorce more than once. He almost died last year Oct of a bleeding ulsar and has changed his attitude a little so we are trying to get on better but his daughter is being difficult & he sides with her most of the time which doesn't make things easier for me. I have brought her up like my own and tried to teach her what i tought my own daughter but most of the time i get flack from her. She can be very spitefull & inconsiderate to me but will do anything for her dad. Im sick of trying to be a family but the wall that my husband & her just doesn't want to go away. Im 45 yrs old and do not see chance to start all over again with someone else...... but...... does it stay like this forever?