Divorce at 51, with adult children

Karen Voight - posted on 11/13/2009

Good Luck to you Donna. Divorce is hard for everyone, I'm sure when the dust settles your relationship with your boys will get stronger.

Marilyn - posted on 11/13/2009

i do understand its not agreat thing to go with iot still hurts after 7 years separeated he went with aso called friend and all my children have grown up i have 10-12 grandchilderen and it still hurts me when i see them asi was left without little finacial support yes i will keep u in prayer as you need it at this time

Anita - posted on 11/13/2009

Hi Donna I too was divorced after 28 years of marriage. It has been 7 years now since my ex walked out 6 weeks before our son was to get married. It was very difficult for my children who are now 33 daughter and a son 29 but they are doing better now. They don't see their dad much he has remarried in fact he remarried as soon as our 60 days was up. He doesn't speak to me he left me so I don't know why. The kids say he is miserable that suits me fine. LOL I remarried 2 years after the divorce and lost my second husband 7 months ago. He died in his sleep. Now I am alone at 54 and trying to make a living for myself. I just take things one day at a time some days it is only hours or minutes at a time. Stay strong you can do it. I will remember you in my prayers. Anita Foley Alabama

Sara - posted on 11/12/2009

Hang tight, this time next year things will be very different. Even adult children feel a need to take sides. Give it time. Your son is probably scared to death especially with his marriage in June. He is grieving the loss of "his family", just as each of you is in their own way. Perhaps talk with his fiancee. She may be able to help him easier than you. You are in my thoughts.

Cindy Berot - posted on 11/12/2009

you know I was in an abusive (mentally )31 years of marriage ,to a person I thought I was in love with. When he left for someone almost our daughters age, I thought it was the end of my world, but ten years laterI am having the best years of my life I can put my head on my pillow and not have to wait up for someone.I ALSO DO NOT HAVE TO TAKE HIS DISRESPECT .YOU KNOW MY KIDS RESPECT ME NOW

Jackie - posted on 11/08/2009

Hi there Donna, stay strong and stay focused, you are doing what is right and eventually the boys will see this , small steps and you will not stumble, I will pray for you and the difficulties you are going through right now , you have a right to lead your life and hopefully you will get a job, its a new begining for you , onwards and upwards ...........love from Ireland Jackie xx