Eating disorders-more than not wanting to eat

Kathleen - posted on 06/03/2009

my daughter has been scared of her room for some time now, but it only seemed to happen after the second was bron before that she was fine, she also worries me because she is not a big eater, she is only 4 years, how old was your daughter when you first notice these thing happening?

Roeleta - posted on 06/03/2009

Oh dear! why would they ask her to leave? I think talking about our deceased loves ones is a way to help us heal. After all, they were a part of our life , our dreams ,and our future til death took those dreams away.

Amber - posted on 06/03/2009

Thank-you Roeleta for replying. One of the other members in our group mothers of Angels was asked to leave this group she said because she talked about her daughters suicide.I dont really want to label my kids either, but ran across the starseed stuff 1 1/2 years after her death, there are sure alot of similarites there.Tell your daughter for me that she is beautiful and to try and accept that she always will be no matter what,xo Amber

Christine - posted on 06/03/2009

amber, i'm very sorry for your loss. i also have a daughter that has struggled with an eating disorder. when she was only 4 years old she used to cry because she was afraid she was going to get fat. i remember hoping that we would not end up dealing with an eating disorder. she is also an extremely bright child and an identical twin. she was never tested as to the level of her intelligence, but my daughter below the twins is considered gifted, and another of my older children was in the gifted program.
i also have a higher than normal IQ---though not gifted. there is a connection between higher IQs and mental problems. i have dealt with depression and anxiety for many years. i also have an older son who is very smart and battles depression and anxiety.
my daughter with the eating disorder was hospitalized almost a month before her 15th birthday at only 67 lbs. she spent 3 months hospitalized trying to get well. she had also been cutting on herself before being hospitalized.

i don't mean to offend you, but when i looked up the info on starseeds, star children and indigo children----it mostly sounds like people trying to explain away mental illness because it is easier to look at a child as being "special" rather than acknowleding what is really going on with them----especially when i read the part about how if they are not able to achieve their goals of a war free society and no junk food they become murderers or school shooters---or something to that affect. it is certainly more comforting to look at a troubled child in this way, and even if there were any truth to it---they would still be a troubled child regardless of their "origins".

any counselor that says cutting does not concern them---is not a good counselor. i am so sorry you were not able to find the help your daughter truly needed, and i am so sorry that you had such an insensitive neighbor that could not see that you needed support.

once again---i truly do not mean to offend you. having dealt with several children with mental problems and dealing with them myself, i would much rather think of us as being special---and in a way, i think we are--because i think that God gave us more challenges in this life because he thought we could handle them----and that would include you as a grieving mother.
my family is also familiar with suicide as my half-sister and my nephew both took their own lives.

many hugs your way!!!!!

Roeleta - posted on 06/02/2009

first let me tell you how sorry I am for your loss. I can in no way imagine your grief and pain. Thank-you for caring enough about other children to share your story.

Amber - posted on 06/02/2009

Please post this, as it may help save a life it may be your kid,sincerely Amber Wood.On facebook and my daughters page is RIP Falon Urquhart