grandparents caring for grandchildren

Gayle - posted on 01/14/2010 ( 73 moms have responded )

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Are there any other grandparents out there who are caring for their grandchild. Ours is 17mths old he has been living with us with his dad since he was a born. His mum left when he was 8mths old and hasnt been back. Dad doesnt help out very much is very frustrating but we love orin and will do all we can for him.

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Lisa - posted on 01/30/2010

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Carla, the bio mom of our daughter (born our granddaughter, now adopted) is also bipolar and refused to be in treatment for it. This was a major factor in her losing custody of her 3 children. I also refuse to lie about the things that have occured on the bio mom or my stepson's side. For now, at age 6, she has been told her mom was sick and not able to care for her, so we took her in. This satisfies her, though I am sure more questions will follow as she gets older. I figure we can explain she was mentally ill, in time when she can grasp it. We have court paperwork I have kept that shows what the conditions were that lead to her living here full time, who said and did what, etc. Someday, if needed, she can read it. We are trying to allow the other grandma's contact as long as it doesn't create issues here. Bio parents split when our little one was 7 months old, and both live 600 miles from us, which is rather nice in my opinion. I don't regret being in this role, and this little girl is the apple of my eye. Even on days my butt is dragging. 8-) Email me at funnyfarm1995@hotmail.com if you would ever like to.

Yvonne - posted on 01/20/2013

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My grandchildren never lived with me however of the 9; I watched 8 of of them weekdays from the ages of a few months to about 12 yrs old. Because my regular line of work was daycare (which I gave up to watch them); I was paid for watching my grandchildren. Of course I charged a lot less than they would have paid to a regular daycare provider. My youngest 3 grandchildren are all 8, and they still come after school. Over the years a lot of people (including family members) have remarked that I shouldn't have been paid. I feel I did deserve pay because I gave up my regular daycare work to be there for them. I also (along with their parents & other grandparents) fed them many bottles, rocked them, got them to take their naps, changed many diapers, potty trained them, provided their meals & taught them to behave. I am very proud of the way all of my grandchildren have turned out. I only see a place on the profile to list my children; I would also like to see a place to list my grandchildren.

Lisa - posted on 02/21/2010

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We've adopted our 6 yr old who was originally our granddaughter. Courts placed her with us right after her 2nd birthday and it took 44+ months to get the adoption done, but I'm thankful it is. Bio parents have almost zero involvement and live 600 miles away. It's easier that way I think.

Rita - posted on 01/29/2010

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Thanks Lisa..will contact u..i never thought i would be in this situation!. i raised my kids better than this,BUT the judge wouldn't let my son have custody BECAUSE HE LIVED WITH ME..dud..like he couldn't find a place for him and his son..after all Chace has always lived with me and my now x husband. and then when I went 2 adopt him the same judge said NO..he's been traumized enough..no way r u and a black man adopting him..OMG..so I called some people I knew and we when to the next district judge..my lawyer called and said " can u b there @ 7:30 am and meet in Chambers with the judge?? NO PROBLEM!!.. we drove down and stayed overnite and were there @ 7am!! lol took us 15 MINUTES to make it final!!..don't mess with me..i'll go over ur head!! looking 4ward to writing u..and Thanks again!!

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DARLENE - posted on 01/29/2013

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This advice was kind, loving and so on target. I don't know who you are but I so respect your advice and wisdom.

DARLENE - posted on 01/29/2013

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I am so sorry but what does the 15 mean that I got after posting my information. I hope it ment something good because I only want to help. Thank you. Darlene

DARLENE - posted on 01/27/2013

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Thank you for your loving advice to these grandparentes. My husband and I are busy helping my daughter raise her beauitul little girl but at times get upset with the dead beat dad who left the state so he can work under the table and keep all his monies. I wanted to go back to school after I retired but that is now out of the question. I could get angry but when you see your own child come home after working 10 hours a day, you just try to give loving support to her when she pickes up her baby. We have tryed every avenu for years to get dead beat parents to stand up and adhere to the mandates of the courts but it is just so often ignored. What recourse do these moms have but to seek help from the moms that raised them. My husband has opened up a blagg to see if we can't get the Governer, sherif, 101.5 radiof or anyone else who can help to bring these neglects to the surface. I would send the webb to you but I don't know if we are alowed to on this web page. Thank you again. Love and Light, Darlene

Tee - posted on 01/23/2013

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Love your grandchild and make his dad responcible. You have to set some rules and some time lines for him to meet. He has to grow up and take responcibility for his child. Share in a few family activities to let them know you are all one family but set some goals so that he can be a real dad. You are the grandparent and it is time for you to enjoy your grandchild not to start parenting all over again. Set some time up for you and let your son know you will only take care of your grandson when it is in line with your schedule not his.

Julie - posted on 10/16/2012

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Hi Gayle my name is Julie Evans I have my 11 year old Grandson in my care his mum had learning disabilities and although she coped in his early years she was getting into difficulties as he got older, the concern was that he was becoming the parent so even though I'm disable he was placed with me. He keeps me on my toes he just started in Seniors. At the moment he is trying his boundarys so I have to be on my toes lol it makes me laugh lots of time when he thinks his tricks are new lol well did'nt we when we tried the same tricks. look forward to hearing from you.

regards Julie

Pam - posted on 10/15/2012

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We have been there where u all have been. It is so hard on you I know. I have had a long road with my granddaughter which now is our daughter. We had to take it to a lawyer but it was very much worth it. I know a lot of you are wanting full custody of them you can get it if you want to adopt them was the way we went. Just stripe them of there right and then you can adopt them. My daughter and her hubby sign the paper when we did this. We all are very special people for taking on the load of more children in our life but I wouldn't have it any other way.

Lynn - posted on 10/15/2012

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I sure understand your situation. I had my grandson ( drove him here from A













I surely understand your situation. I drove my grandson at 7 days old from AZ to CO because CPS had taken him away from his mom (my daughter) when he was 3 days old. He was here for 4 months in our custody. She moved here and proved she could be a good Mom so we gave custody back to her. It has been a trial of patience, love and sacrifice. We watch him often when she works and support him in many ways. She is going to jail sometime for drunk driving with him in the car. ...we don't know when. The court system is slow! It is her 4th offense. Blessing to you for all you do!

Louise - posted on 10/14/2012

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myself and my husband have just taken over the care of our 10wk old twin grandsons. my daughter is 19 and isnt able to care for them due to associations she has with people. we are going for residency of the twins which means i will have to give up the job i love after 10 years but we need to put the boys first and we also have 12yr old son too. im so tired right now!!

Cynthia - posted on 09/19/2012

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im a grandparent also but i have full custody since he was born my daughter 22 yrs wasnt ready for kids yet its hard but im coping

Eleana Michelle - posted on 06/25/2012

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i get accused of giving my 4 year old grandson his way all the time but he doesnt give any problem at all well to a certain point but he is 4 but the parents come to pick him up and its like hes a different child i know i spoil him some hes my only grandchild of course thats how it works however i feel i give the attention he needs always commend him on things he does well very positive thats what children need to here instead of negative all the time so they say spoil i say i love him very much and i want him to have a happy life so if that is spoiling i am guilty

Cindy - posted on 06/17/2012

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Dad needs to pitch in or let the raising to u and find his own way in life.set down tell him what he need to be a daddy. not just a father there is a difference. Any man could be a father it takes the bigger one to be his daddy. sometimes we need to step back,teach,and yes demand,they do the right thing,if that doesn't work you might need to ask him to leave and go a lawyer and take custody your self. that's the way we handle things here. but my daughter still only vist at her own time sad but true 13 hour last year.my grandson is better off with two loving adult in his life regaurdless of their title. his mama and papa love his to pieces. good luck

Ellen - posted on 06/14/2012

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We have two of three grandsons. They are all my daughters children. I am 44 and my husband is 34. Our boys are J, 4 (five this month) and M, 2 (this past Feb.) We love them so much, but caring for them is difficult as we don't have legal custody, and don't have the money to get a lawyer to go to court over it. Their Mother lives out of state, and has had another child since she left. The oldest boys Father is not a good parental candidate as he treats J like a playmate when he happens to come around...it's been three months again since he came by last. We prefer he stay away as he just upsets J with his visits. And M's Father is unknown. We would love to adopt the boys eventually, as they are ours anyway. We have had them full time since Oct of 2007, when my Daughter finally just up and disappeared. She hasn't been back since, and has never contacted me to ask about them. She'll never be able to take care of them, as she is too wrapped up in herself. I worry about the third child, but have told her Father that he'll have to step up on him, because we've got all we can handle financially with J and M.
I tried to get my Daughter to sign forms giving us permission for medical treatment and such before she took off. She wouldn't sign them. So we've had a really hard time with getting them care and both are behind on shots. With J getting ready to start school in the fall this is a real issue. And I worry about them both constantly.
I'm always so afraid to reach out and try to get some help, so afraid that it'll bring my Daughter or J's Father back into the picture. And I don't think that would be good for either of the boys. M doesn't know any different than his Mawmaw and Pawpaw. My Daughter coming back into his life would just confuse him, and he's such a happy boy. J has major issues because of the abandonment of his parents, but at the same time he'll never get it worked out if he is kept confused by their entrances and exits.
If anyone knows any kind of fix it for the legal side of at least getting De Facto and permanent custody I could sure use the help.

Tuesdee - posted on 04/15/2012

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My Husband and I are 44 and have our 7 week old Granddaughter, she has been with us since birth and we are the only parents she knows. We are working on reunification with our daughter through the State, I hope my daughter can do this and yet I am so attached to my Granddaughter I worry about how I will manage my emotions when she leaves us (they estimate she will be about 4 months old when her Mom can manage her on her own). At this time the baby only see's her parents twice a week for an hour each visit, so when I say we are the only parents she knows, I am not exaggerating. Has anyone had to deal with this separation issue? My daughters drug abuse during her pregnancy led to this and I am trying to deal with anger and fear concerning that as well. Any experiences or thoughts would be welcome.

Starla - posted on 04/04/2012

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yes, I am raising my daughters twins that are 2 years old. What a life change. My kids are 18 and 20. I'm starting over.... Hard to think about sometimes, but so glad the girls are with me and safe.

Joan - posted on 04/03/2012

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I am a grandparent raising one of my six grandchildren. She is ten now and I have been raising her since she was two. She calls me Mom and I refer to her as my daughter. She has asked me to adopt her but the bio parents will not consent, even though they don't pay child support or even send her so much as a birthday card. Best of luck and if you need to talk, I am here!

Pam - posted on 11/26/2011

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Hi I am Pam and it is very hard and wouldn't change raising our grand daughter for nothing in the world. We have a 4 yr old and she is a our baby girl we have Temp. Custody of on a financial Bury and it has been for 2 yrs on that we have had her over 3 and half yrs of her life.. We had her sister until the parents adopt her out to another family member and we still had tc of her . We want to adopt her and they say no they want her back, after we filed for child support. And the dad of her only wants to pay 25 dollars a week said that's all she needs. It is all messed up My baby girl will not live with them she said no NANA and only wants to visit to see her brother they had a yr later after we got TC.
So I feel all of your pain hurts and anger. Our grandchildren are our lives and we fight for what is right for them so why is it so hard to find help when we need help to keep these babies?

Jodi - posted on 11/20/2011

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Yes!! our (then ) 15 year old daughter had a baby and they lived with us for 2 and a half years. She was just too young and really didnt help alot. She has moved out and he wont go...i cries for grampie and grammy. I dont have any legal say over our grandson but i really think we need to do something soon. god bless you for raising his is not easy!!

Lisa - posted on 10/11/2011

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My grandson is 10 months he has been in my house since he was born , I have been the main caretaker even before my son and his girlfriend broke up. Neither parent live with us but do see him on a few time a week but his mother was given an ultimatum from her mother school or raising your son and she choose school and said she was not ready to raise a child and other grandparents feel they could not handle the responsibility of raising another child and I would not change having him here I love him more and more each day it is a struggle sometimes but will keep doing what I can for Jayden he is my life, my son is having a difficult time dealing with the breakup so he has been staying with his grandparents but he is an amazing daddy when jayden sees him he just lights up

Lisa - posted on 10/11/2011

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My grandson is 10 months he has been in my house since he was born , I have been the main caretaker even before my son and his girlfriend broke up. Neither parent live with us but do see him on a few time a week but his mother was given an ultimatum from her mother school or raising your son and she choose school and said she was not ready to raise a child and other grandparents feel they could not handle the responsibility of raising another child and I would not change having him here I love him more and more each day it is a struggle sometimes but will keep doing what I can for Jayden he is my life, my son is having a difficult time dealing with the breakup so he has been staying with his grandparents but he is an amazing daddy when jayden sees him he just lights up

Michele - posted on 09/20/2011

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I have a 21 year old who has given me 2 grandsons. 3 years old and 1.5 years old. they are truely my life even though i did not ask for them. I DO raise them. My daughter moved out for a while but came back home. Now that she is home she still asumes I will raise them ( which I do ) but I do expect her to help. I had told her I woulod watch raise them so she could work and go to school but she has failed to go to school. She feels its her right to live the "teen years" she didn't get to cause she had babies. Well I think you all know my response to that.. Any ways, It is very hard for I am 43 and also take care of my ill parents and watch my 3 year nephew during the day. I have a full plate and never get time to me. I stay up until 3 AM becasue that is the ONLOY time I have tog et anything done and to just relax. How do I get my child to wake up and grow up and take responsiability of her children? I hate to kick her out because the boys do love her and know she is their mom and they do want her there. But it is killing me at the same time. They both perfer me most of the time when they are sick or tired and it just puts a lot of pressure on me. Ugh.... Any one have any advice or stories of their own to share? thank u.

Lynn - posted on 09/15/2011

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My daughter is 37 and I am 58. My beautiful grandson is 18 mo. We have taken care of him full- time when he was 7 days old and now again for the last three months. My daughter is not "getting it". Like you said, we made our mistakes when we were young but became more responsible as we got older. It is hard. I thought I'd be enjoying other activities at this age, not raising children again. I love Ethan and don't resent a minute of it. This little guy deserves a chance in life, not his Mom's lifestyle. Having said that, sure wish I were relaxing more these days.

Lynn - posted on 09/15/2011

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Yes, there are many grandparents raising grandchildren. We first had our Grandson at 7 days old till he was three months. Now we have had him full-time again for 3 months. Like your situation, we don't get much help but love Ethan (18 mo old now) and will continue to support him whatever happens with his mother.

Darlene - posted on 08/10/2011

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My husband and I are raising two of our granddaughters. Their mother and father don't care anything about them. Our son is the father. He is to busy with his current wife and their two, soon to be three sons. Their mother is messed up with someone who shouldn't be around children at all. That's why we have them. I'm looking for other grandparents in the same boat we are in. I would like to find out how we can get help. We aren't old grandparents, but we don't make enough money to pay for things like we use to. Anyone else out there with this issue?

Kaye - posted on 05/16/2011

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I raised one of my grandaughters until she was 2 and a half. we are still very close and she still spends at least 2 days a week with us. Mum was in a difficult place at the time but she is now doing very well. It was hard, but worth very minute

Tonya - posted on 05/16/2011

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I have my Grand daughter almost 24 / 7 while her parents sleep or work or whatever... even though they are just upstairs.,.. they saywe want to she her and spend abt 5 -20 minutes with her and then bring her back UNLESS her mom thinks she can show her off to someone

Cindy - posted on 05/15/2011

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I too rasing my grandson. My daughter came home told us she was preg. that was all most 5 year later. she gone and wee taking on the rule of parent to a wonderful 4 yr.old soon to be 5 in aug she only vist approx 2 hour monthly. so i under stand your frustration

Melanie - posted on 05/10/2011

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hi im 45 and raising my 2 granchildren aged 2 and 3 years i also have my own 2 youngest at home aged 6and 8 years my other 4 are 25 21 and 18 its very hard work at our time of life when weve raised our own but i wouldnt change it for the world

Kim - posted on 05/04/2011

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we grandparents caring for our grandchildren could really use a space on here ,we need each other for support have a hard time find moms in my area .sacramento,ca

Linda - posted on 01/30/2010

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Thank God he has you,You will be so blessed for what you are doing for your grandchild.Its really sad about his mother leaveing,but thank God you are there to fill that void for him.I don't raise my granddaugter,but I know if I needed to,I would do it in a NewYork heartbeat(thats fast)I love all my children and my granddaughter,you are very blessed with your son and grandchild,Keep up the great work!!!! my middle name is also Gayle,spelled the same and all,lol,thats cool.

Carla - posted on 01/30/2010

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Hi Gayle. I just read your message and I would like to tell you that I am too raising my grandchildren. They are 11, 9, and 8. I got the oldest one when she was eight mos. old, the second one when she was 1 yr old, and the third one, I brought him home from the hospital. The oldest girl is legally my stepgranddaughter and she is Autistic. The mother went into the hospital because of a bad back and she never came to pick her up. My son, the father, died six months after the youngest one was born. The mother died three years ago this past November. They both died due to overdoses. The youngest one is now starting to ask questions. The one that really got to me was "Why did you bring me home from the hospital? Didn't my mommy love me or want me?" This was the hardest thing to answer. I assured him that his mommy did love him, but she was sick and she couldn't take him home. When your little one starts to ask questions about his parents, ensure him that no matter what, you are there and that you love him very much. I decided a long time ago that I would not lie to the kids about their mom and dad. They will be told the good, bad, and ugly. My husband and I will raise these three like they are are our own, which they are. God bless you and best of luck.

Jeri - posted on 01/29/2010

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hi my name is jeri and we are raising our 6 year old grandson we have full custody and my hubby and i love him to pieces any grandparents in the surrey bc canada area that we could meet and have play dates im 54 and hubby is 55 calaeb is the lite of our life but at our age did we plan this no but we will do it for him to help him

Rita - posted on 01/29/2010

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Tina..why is ur daughter living with u..ask her to apply for public housing,and to get out of ur home.. I had to take on my grandson,BUT his dad WILL NOT live in my house..neither do any of my 4 kids!!..they r grown let them support themselves or or BOYFRIEND can go work @ Mcdonalds!..Honey u have a full house and I think u need to CLEAN house! wish u the best of luck but u got to take back the power!!

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Gayle I have been raising 3 of my daughters children for the last 8 yrs. Their ages are 10 6 and 5. The 10 year old has lived here since he was 2 and the other 2 since birth. My daughter moved out when the 5 yr old was born and I have full custody. My daughter is bi-polar and refuses to take meds so she self medicates with drugs and alcohol. She currently has 2 younger children with her physically abusive boyfriend. I am thankful she doesn't live with us anymore. It was so frustrating and chaotic. Even though it is very difficult at times. I am so thankful I have the 3 that I do. I am 52 and once I accepted that I was the only parent these little kids were going to have it became easier. I must admit I felt very trapped and isolated at first. They are all in school now so I have a little bit of time for myself now. I was so torn at first wanting to keep them safe and loved but angry that my daughter kept bringing these poor innocent children in the world for me to take care of. I just pray for her and try to keep a good mind and when it gets tough I just look at my grandchildren and no it is all worth it. Hang in there and write me anytime

Rita - posted on 01/29/2010

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Marcy..Yes it's very hard to be a MOM and GRANDMOTHER @ the same time..2 of my Grand daughters don't understand why my grandson doesn't GO HOME? they have to leave and they no my son is his dad AND their UNCLE..and I feel it isn't fair to them because I do buy him more and do things with him as a parent..what choice do I have?? I couldn't let him go into Foster Care. and his dad is raising his girlfriends 3 kids and they have 3 DIFFERENT daddies! no child support from any daddy BUT they do get to come get them whenever they want .. cause there HER KIDS AND SHE SAYS SO!! there is never any way for this to b good.

Rita - posted on 01/29/2010

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Kathy,why don't u have custody of him? I'm 55(April) and my grandson is 9.yes it was easier the 1st time around..but I'm doing what I think is rite..but who'll care for the child if u go down?? his Mom or Dad?

Rita - posted on 01/29/2010

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why don't u try to get temporary custody? He lives with u,u support him,dad doesn't help..kick him out and go for TC.. ck with ur local Child Services. Good Luck

Lisa - posted on 01/29/2010

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Yes, yes, yes! LOL If you or any others that read this and are in this situation would like to write, my email is funnyfarm1995@hotmail.com and my name is Lisa. I also belong to a couple of online support groups for people in our situation that you might like and find useful. They offered me a lot of support, information, and encouragement while dealing with some very tough times.

I have now adopted our granddaughter who is now 6. She was 3 weeks past her 2nd birthday when the courts got involved and legally placed her with us as kinship foster care, but we'd had her much of her life prior to that anyhow. We dealt with DHS over 44 months, and finally adopted her in March of 2009. I would be glad to share more if you choose to write!

Rita - posted on 01/29/2010

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thank GOD!!! hope all goes well..I have my son's son.Have had him since he was born..had medical problems and his mom couldn't handle it..He's now 9 and never ask about his mom..AND.. his Dad is raising someone else's 3 KIDS!! He knows me as Nana-Mom and dad is Papa-Daddy.. I don't mince words when it comes to his parents..they SUCK at parenting(his mom has not 1 of her 3 kids!!!)..Just wish I had a support system when he was younger..lol My 67yr old sister adopted BOTH her grand son & daughter..NOW she is raising her GREAT GRANDAUGHTER -14 months old!! no way can I do that again!! wish u the best and thanks 4 letting me vent!!

Rita - posted on 01/29/2010

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This is for Kellie..go to ur local Child Protec. service and apply for guardianship of this child. asap..they have custody then they can walk n ANYTIME and take her! learned this the hard way.. You can't charge them with abandament because " THEY LEFT HER WITH SOMEONE THEY TRUST "..lol good luck.

Kelly - posted on 01/28/2010

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Thank you to all the caring Grandparents that have stepped up and loved the babies. Sometimes life deals us hands that are a challenge. Don't forget how lucky we are to be able to be here for them. The entitlement issues of our kids is a tragedy , be sure not to filter this mess down to our grandkids. The current generation continues to shock me daily with the lack of responsibility and grace. We are getting another chance to help these children to become responsible leaders of their generation. What a gift.

Patty - posted on 01/23/2010

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I had full custody of my 2 grand-nieces ages 12 and 10. Although they have now gone back to live with mom, we maintained joint custody which gives us a slight edge should things get ugly. Mom is doing great and the girls seem to be adjusting but I miss them being here. Although we see them daily, its not the same at dinner, bed time etc. We will always be here for them.

Marcy - posted on 01/23/2010

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My husband and I have custody and our currently adopting his 3 grandchildren, They are 8 and 5 and the baby is 16 months old. Do you have a hard time being mom/grandma? I have 4 grandchildren of my own and one on the way. It's hard for me sometimes to parent these kids as a mom, when I am memaw to my other grandkids. I wouldn't change things though, these guys are great.

Renae - posted on 01/22/2010

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I have a 4 year old son so I am no where near being a grandma yet! However my father's best friend had to adopt his sons three kids. Mom was a drug addict and he was lazy and irresponsible. He walks into his parents house one afternoon with the three kids and says "Its time for me to get on with my life." and out the door he goes. I was apalled that someone could do this. The grandparents had to adopt them otherwise they would have been sent to foster care. The funny part of it is that when the son comes to visit he criticizes the grandparents lack of brand name shoes etc. He has never offered a penny for the upkeep of his kids. These are retired folks that are just at 70 years old so money is an issue for them. The youngest of the kids really isnt their sons but they felt sorry for him so kept him too. They do the best they can and its very hard on them. One of my cousins also dropped his daughters off on my great anut and uncle to raise. They did a great job with them. I felt sorry for them because they never got vacations and their dad had remarried a woman that had a son and he treated that boy like his own child. They would go to Disneyworld and bring pictures back for the girls to see. So unfair! I salute all of you grandparents that are doing your childrens job!

Darlene - posted on 01/20/2010

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I have a 11 year old granddaughter that I have raised since she was 7 months. She is really a daughter to me. It's not easy with her mother in and out of her life and she barely knows her father (thankfully). But, she is so worth it.

Tina - posted on 01/20/2010

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I feel for you i have 6 children all with no dads 4 our mine 1 is my niece and my youngest charlie I adopted he was my nephew and now my son. My daughter lives with me as well as my 2 grandchildren and her boyfriend who is my age and does not work and no matter how hard they see me working or struggel to pay bills there is little response. I take care of my grandchildren and always will I love all of them but gont know how long I can take it

Pam - posted on 01/19/2010

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We r doing this now with our Two BEAUTIFUL GRANDBABIES GIRLS Its so hard The two yr old crys for her parents . Sometimes I feel so alone with all this but after getting on this site I feel alot better. There parents gave us Temp Cust. They couldnt support them. So now they come and see them when they want it can be a couple days to 3 weeks at a time. Any help will be most appreciated..

Michelle - posted on 01/19/2010

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Hi Im almost bringing up 2 of my 4 grandchildren (I have them more often than not) and at this stage I will be having my 5th grand child in my full time care when she is born in April, My daughter was assaulted and the baby is the result and she doesnt want it at the moment, that may change as the due date gets closer but at the moment she is sure that baby is going to be living with me.

Gayle - posted on 01/18/2010

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do tell him nanny, but he doesnt care just puts his head on my chest and says mum. will keep persisting. about the photo of his mum i dont know if i can as she is not in his life at all that is the hard part. plus i am still very angry with her for deserting him like she did. my son went through hell because of her and one week after she left in april last year she snuck back into our house at night and took orin during the night. the police were called but nothing could be done and thenn she brought him back a week later at 8at night in just a nappy and said she couldnt handle him (he was only 8mths). we took him to drs as he was very sick and was told he had pneumonia and i had to give up my job to look after him. best decision i ever made. to make matters worse this all happpened while my husband was away on holidays so had to cope with it on my own. but every thing good now. Just still very angry with her

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