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Michelle - posted on 03/10/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Hi I am Michelle I turned 40 last December and cried!:) I have two awesome girls Cassie 13 and Tori 10. I am always looking for suggestions on raising teenagers! especially girls!

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Jeanne - posted on 03/11/2009

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Hey Jeanne, yes I agree it is tough but I wouldn't change it either. I LOVE my girls w/all my heart. The biggest problem my husband & I have w/our 13 yr old his her MOUTH! She does not know when enough is enough, we had an inncident tonight where she was sent to her room at 7:45 and she screamed and told us she hated us and wanted to leave, she just kept on arguing w/us. She is a great kid otherwise, she has the biggest heart and cares about others so much but I swear she would argue w/Jesus if he came down in front of her. I am at my witts end w/her. Any suggestions? We have taken everything away from her at this point.


I also learned the hard.....but I think we all do! It came to point with one of my twins........my son Matthieu was full of anger, and everything was everybody else fault never his.



"Summer July 22nd 2008 Matt gave me no choice, because he was not happy at home..........trouble is his middle name.......I did everything in my power to help........nothing.......worked..........( last year he was in grade 10 during his 15 & 16 yrs old, had trouble at school, + trouble at home lying on the top of his lungs, blaming everyone for his actions, but himself...........during those two tuff years.........then he stole a bike that did not belong to him "This was his last chance & I had to take action because he had a twin sister & 1 older brother..........." he stealling/lying/taking my money/drugs  and saying he wanted to live somewhere else besides here @ his home" Then I took big action I finally kick him out.........he was gone for 7 months...........I THOUGHT I WAS GOING TO DIE and I NEVER THOUGHT IN A MILLION YEARS THAT I WOULD KICK MY OWN SON OUT THE HOUSE.............I told him that he could come home to eat , but that was it..........and that's all.........he would stay to long, and I had to ask him to leave again.........even harder.........I TOLD MY SON THAT I DID NOT HAVE HIM and I WILL NOT GIVE UP ON YOU.........YOU MUST FIND YOURSELF..........COME BACK & YOU HAVE TO MAKE IT BETTER.......noboby else.........



I'M PLAYING TUFF LOVE...........and it is working



Matt was gone for about 7 months..........just before Christmas.........we wrote a contract...........and he must respect everyone in house.............because if do not fullfill your contract you will have to leave again "Not coming back, but it's all in your HANDS and ONLY YOU CAN CHANGE, and sky is the limit. so far so good his been home, but poke him & I still remind him of his contract that he sign before coming back home...........



Hope this helps! Let me know, and let's keep in touch! I would love to help you step by step or just here to vent!



SENDING YOUR FAMILY ANGEL BLESSINGS



JEANNE

Michelle - posted on 03/10/2009

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Hey Jeanne, yes I agree it is tough but I wouldn't change it either. I LOVE my girls w/all my heart. The biggest problem my husband & I have w/our 13 yr old his her MOUTH! She does not know when enough is enough, we had an inncident tonight where she was sent to her room at 7:45 and she screamed and told us she hated us and wanted to leave, she just kept on arguing w/us. She is a great kid otherwise, she has the biggest heart and cares about others so much but I swear she would argue w/Jesus if he came down in front of her. I am at my witts end w/her. Any suggestions? We have taken everything away from her at this point.

Jeanne - posted on 03/10/2009

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Hello Michelle welcome aboard to over 40yrs old mums..........sorry to hear that you cried on you 40tj birthday, but WHY? Sounds like you have two wonderful girls!





My name is Jeanne I have 3 children my older son Sylvain is 19 years old with Twins Matthieu (ADHD) & Natalie will turning 17 years old on the 3rd of March. I'm a single mom over 40 will be 45 this coming May. Yes it's tough but I wouldn't change it or change them for the world!





As for me with 3 teenagers............tuff...but I tell them I will not tolerate that kind of behavior or that is not acceptable in this house.........that's the main thing, because with teen years then want to be 20 years old and they know everything. Another trick I did last year I changed all my portable phones and know I 2 desktop phone.....with help I can keep track how long they're on the phone......(shhh I partially listen to there conversation this helps a little) I also have about 4 calendars in my house each with there name on it .........and I keep track of dates such a prepare for test, when project are due. I have a lot of little tricks up my sleeve...ect...lol



Hopes this help & let me know if works....Jeanne



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