Hello I need Help

Sophia - posted on 10/18/2012

girl you have time to be old.. so enjoy being young.

Anne - posted on 01/15/2011

Melissa you did not say how old your "little man" is. if he is a pre-schooler have you tried googling to see if there is a "MOPS" group in your area? MOPS stands for Mothers of Pre-schoolers. Our children were past this age when the group became popular but I have friends that have been part of this group and they have really enjoyed the group. Is he is Pre-school or Kindergarten? Could you trade pay dates or host play dates with the other mother staying and chatting when the children are playing? I in part can understand what you are going through. Our daughters are now 22 and 27 but when they were about 15 and 12 my health started to cause me with limitations. It is not easy being the mom when you feel like you are old before your time.

Cindy - posted on 01/14/2011

To Francis I to have a bad thyroid! ! I don't just get cold, I also get hot. ..and for Debbie advice I to take the! B-12 vitamins. You have some good advice here Melissa, now lets see if your son thinks so! !!???

Frances - posted on 01/14/2011

One winter when I had problems with the cold, I later got my thyroid checked and found out that my medication needed to be increased. Have you had a thyroid test? Low thyroid can make you very cold natured.

DEBBIE - posted on 01/12/2011

grand kids cant wait fo rthe day i have grand kids !! i just have to raise mine first lol

Cindy - posted on 01/12/2011

Hi Melissa. .. I am a 50 year old mom and grandma. ..my kids are all grow up, now I have my grandkids to play with. I understand your greaf or anger what ever you want to call it... I started out as a very young mommy, started when I was 16 by the age of 21 I had 3 kids and I was very active with them!!! Now I'm just plain tire to do the same thing with my grandkids. !!! I feel all you need is to humor your son tell him we will make play dates... you ask him to pick one or two days a week to go out with him you both get the calendar and deside when. I know it will be hard at first but it will get easier! ! The more active you are playing with him or her outside it wont be as cold for you. Kids get bored real fast so I don't think yo will have to be outside to long! ! I wish you luck Hun.. and I know you will work it out: )

DEBBIE - posted on 01/11/2011

hun im the same way thank god im not alone lol its hard but i do have an avantage i have a 19 year old that loves his younger brother and very active little brother ! i just use energy when i get it not often but sometimes i do . i do get a b-12 once a month and it works for a day or so . you might wonna check into it good luck

Sharlene - posted on 01/10/2011

I too have a very active son who is 12 [I'm 54] . . . and I think I'm going thru/past menopause.....my gynecologist told me when I went to her because I have no more energy like I did a couple yrs ago that I should probably take some low-dose estrogen and some progesterone to counter-balance it. She insured me that I was not going to get cancer from it, in fact, it would help prevent cervical cancer! So I'm going to give it a try now that my heart Dr. gave the OK too [my heart went into atrial-fib a year ago and I didn't even know! They shocked it back into rhythm and now its ok]. I will go outside with my son [in the MI snow and cold] and watch him snow board or sled down the hills with his friends or sometimes I'll drive them to a sliding hill or the ski resort so they can go tubing . . . and I stay in the car and read. It gets better as they get a little older I'm finding out.

Edith - posted on 01/08/2011

I am a 62 year old mother of a son with the mind of a five year old in some ways and more sense than his brother in his 30's at times. I have trouble with heat and cold. If he had his way he would stay outside rain or shine hot or cold. His body is 17 years old but in many ways thinks as a 5 year old. We can not let him go out at all alone. We have woods behind our house then a row of houses with woods behind them. He has gone to the woods a number of times when we let him do things like take trash out. My greatest fear is he will cross to the woods behind the row of houses and get lost. This will be the first year we have not had state provided help with his summer activities. I hope his brother will go with him to some of the ball games but have very little hope of that. I fell I am not a very good mother because I have major problems with both cold and hot weather. I have had to learn to trust God in all areas of my life and my child's. There are times I fell I am beating my head against a brick wall when asking for help and getting none or little. I do the best I can do with him and his activities and hope for the best. God will see us and you through the good and bad times if we trust Him. You will not do any major damage to him keeping him in more than he wants to stay. Just do the best you can and enjoy your child. That is what we do with this one and his big brother!!!!!

Kelly - posted on 01/03/2011

I am 45 with 4 and 5 year old sons (and expecting another). My energy isn't what I wish it were. We do a lot of soccer inside the house. It requires minimal movement out of me and maximum movement from them. The hardest part for me is to stop cleaning house or cooking, and really focus on playing with them. Once I get pointed in the right direction, it really is fun.

Paula - posted on 01/02/2011

Oh sweetie..do not feel bad. I hate the cold weather and the snow. I have yet to take my 4 year old out to play in it as well. I just turned 42 years old this past December and sometimes feel like I am 82. lol.. I have 4 children ages 22,19, 13 and 4. Oh and a 4 year old grandson. I have found that exercising helps. I had a hysterectomy and total pelvic floor reconstructive surgery 10 months ago and have felt like my energy has been zapped. I have my good days and also have my bad. I get on the treadmill, do some light lifting, and I love Zumba. I go at my own pace with the Zumba until I can get back into the swing of things since my surgery. Maybe you can find a different activity to do with him in the winter. Or maybe find him a play date with a parent that does not mind the cold and snow. I hope that this has helped.
Hang in there and keep your chin up!

Julie - posted on 12/29/2010

Hey Melissa ~ Let's swap houses! I'm in Florida and would love to get the kids in the snow! : ) You are not horrible or an old fart! My mom was older ~ 45 when she adopted me. I never remember her rolling in the snow with me, although she did absolutely everything else with me. Could you schedule a play date so that the kids could play in the snow while the mom's watched from the comfort of inside the window with a smore's cocktail? Prepare lasagna's for all the moms to take home as you socialize. : ) You'll get some mom time, dinner is done and he will go to bed early. Merry Christmas - Happy New Year!!!

Vanessa - posted on 12/28/2010

Dont feel bad! I dont like the cold either...I'm a summer girl all the way! I feel myself low on energy too, but I know it's really about lifestyle change. I am fixing to (next week when school starts back) join our local gym and really start watching what I eat. I know excercise will make me feel better and give me energy. I am a 48yr old with an 8yr old. We just adopted her from Russia, she has been home 6months. so, I'm like you, I want to enjoy her by feeling like going outdoors and 'playing' with her. I want to start riding my bike again and she loves her bike. so,that will be one of our things to do together. I also take vitamins. Supplements are very important also. You can excercise at home if you cant join a gym. Even as little as 20min a day will help! Have fun with your little man! :)

Christina - posted on 12/28/2010

Hi Melissa! I am 53 and have an active 10 year old and 14 year old (both boys). I know when they're little it's more difficult because it depends on YOU going with them. I now can let them go out and play around the front yard without having to supervise, but I do recall the times I couldn't do that. I gues first question is, can you join an inside activity group? Not sure where you're located. We have Gymboree, the YMCA and a few other resources where they can be inside and have fun being active. There is also gymnastics for little ones at the local gymnastics school. They take them as early as 3! Is this possible? If you have scheduled times that you can take him to some of these? You could even do an inside roller rink at 3 or 4. The earlier for that, the better so that it becomes second nature. As they get older it's harder for them to learn.

I hope this helps.

Warmly,
Christina
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Marie - posted on 12/22/2010

Honey dont feel crappy i am a granma of a 3yr old whom i have had custody of since he was three months. some time we must make are selfs do thing we dont want to i am 46 raising now a 3year old. Yes they are very wild he is a handful but i would not take a million for him, Just do the best you can and he will love you anyway..

Louise - posted on 12/22/2010

There are lots of things you can play inside. I don't know how old your son is but I will guess about 6. Play treasure hunt with him where you hide something really small and get him to run around hot or cold until he finds it. Buy some craft materials and get him making festive decorations. Buy a soft sponge ball and play football or skittles. You do not need to go outside to keep a little one active. I only go out a couple of times a week with my 2 year old as it is bitter cold. That does not stop us having fun at home. I try and do some sort of play with her in the morning wether it is playdough or paints or even mega blocks. Then she watches play school for half an hour and by the time we have cleared away it is lunch time. I play pretend play with her alot too like tea party or shoe shops and she loves it. I can sit and let her make the tea and just pretend to drink it and she potters around on her own. This is not energetic and she is having great fun. She also has a car she rides around in in the house and she loves to dance to music. As long as your son is stimulated in some way he will expel energy. Just try and plan something for him every day and then you will both feel a bit more energised. When the weather is warmer take him to the park and out into the fresh air as this is a good way for him to get rid of all his pent up energy. Hope some of this helps.

HELEN - posted on 12/21/2010

Melissa what you are going through is completely understood .It is natural for you not to have the sane energy as when you had your first kid BUT you junior needs you as much as the others . sometimes we have to put our nedds and wants on the side for the kids sake .Remember that his childhood won't come back and all of a sudden he will be a big man so enjoy it as much as possible. us womwn do not get old we just let our selves get there !!! wish you the best and will be around to hear the best from you.Merry Xmas and Happy New Year !!

Helen