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Sandra - posted on 08/25/2009
I know how you feel I am 43 and I have two young children. I am to going through the same thing. Peri menopause sucks!
We are at the prime of our lives we should be having fun and not going through all theses items: 35 symptoms of menopause.
1. Hot flashes, flushes, night sweats and/or cold flashes, clammy feeling
2. Irregular heart beat
4. Mood swings, sudden tears
5. Trouble sleeping through the night (with or without night sweats)
6. Irregular periods; shorter, lighter periods; heavier periods, flooding; phantom periods, shorter cycles, longer cycles
7. Loss of libido
8. Dry vagina
9. Crashing fatigue
10. Anxiety, feeling ill at ease
11. Feelings of dread, apprehension, doom
12. Difficulty concentrating, disorientation, mental confusion
13. Disturbing memory lapses
14. Incontinence, especially upon sneezing, laughing; urge incontinence
15. Itchy, crawly skin
16. Aching, sore joints, muscles and tendons
17. Increased tension in muscles
18. Breast tenderness
19. Headache change: increase or decrease
20. Gastrointestinal distress, indigestion, flatulence, gas pain, nausea
21. Sudden bouts of bloat
23. Exacerbation of existing conditions
24. Increase in allergies
25. Weight gain
26. Hair loss or thinning, head, pubic, or whole body; increase in facial hair
27. Dizziness, light-headedness, episodes of loss of balance
28. Changes in body odor
29. Electric shock sensation under the skin and in the head
30. Tingling in the extremities
31. Gum problems, increased bleeding
32. Burning tongue, burning roof of mouth, bad taste in mouth, change in breath odor
33. Osteoporosis (after several years)
34. Changes in fingernails: softer, crack or break easier
35. Tinnitus: ringing in ears, bells, 'whooshing,' buzzing etc.
I can't even begin to say how many of these items I have. LOL. I love my hair please don't thin out, now sex better not get any worst. Oh gaining weight, we gain weight to have babies then we loss it and now it says it going to come back again. Yahoo. Just kidding.
DO MEN GO THROUGH ANYTHING?
Because my husband nags me all the time, What's wrong? So I printed the list and said don't ask. Read it then ask me what wrong! He never said a word again and he helps out alot more now knowing I can't control what I am going through.
I don't have hot flashes yet just alot of the other things.
Pam - posted on 08/31/2009
You are funny!!! I'm 48 and have been having hot flashes since I was 38. I just got divorced and met someone so I went back on the pill. It has completely stopped my period. And I will say I'm not upset about it. The hot flashes stopped, as well as the night sweats. I haven't had any hot flashes or night sweats for four months and I haven't had a period in 2 months. Yeah, that was a little scary, but I'm not pregnant. The only other problem is that I have turned into a total bitch. I still have PMS and cramps, but the "curse" never comes around. I think I can live with that. The pill that I am on is called a POP. It's progestogen only pill. There are side effects, like moodiness, like we don't have that anyway!! Breakthrough bleeding, which I went through for 2 months and now there is nothing. There are options out there that will take care of the hot flashes and night sweats. I just happened to come across the one that worked for me.
Sandra - posted on 08/31/2009
Don't do it! I had a hysterectomy about 10 years ago, due to painful periods, adhesions, etc. I'd rather have the pain than go through what I'm going through....dripping sweat all the time, NO sex life..dry everything, weight gain, all the symptoms on the list above. No creams, pills, etc works! My life is miserable and not getting better. My daughter had to have a hysterectomy and I advised her to have the doc leave at least 1 ovary, so she would still have some natural hormones, it worked well for her..wished I had been advised before I had it done.
Holly - posted on 08/30/2009
I would say do your study on hysterectomy and the after effects before you decide to have one! I had one at the age of 39 and regret it horrribly. Have had really bad issues since then. You name it it is happening to me! Now seeing a Dr. that believes in bio identical hormones which are all natural. But it also comes with a very strict diet and lots of vitamin regiman. Very expensive. So study before you do any more thinkin about it ! I wish I would have!
Holly - posted on 08/30/2009
Oh how funny that is and how true! Had a hysterectomy 3 yrs at the age of 39....and all I have to say is I want my uterus back! I had no clue how menopause could affect a person. There are times I feel crazy....angry....tired....bloated.....then I think I am having a heart attack...or maybe a stroke.....I can's sleep! Have gained about 75 lbs. since the surgery! Why do we have to suffer so?
Greetings Ladies :)
I'm Shannon -- just joined the Mom Circle here. Karen -- your video made me SMILE, I loved it. Briefly I will say about myself that I am 49, and have experienced some hormonal signs -- but nothing heavy duty yet, and no hot flashes. Where I work there are NO men -- just a bunch of friendly, outgoing, women. And we joke about hot flashes ALL the time. Because that's our day to day reality. It's also a subject that always comes up every day with the women in our community that we serve. So we are used to talking about it, and we understand. I work at a coldwater creek store, and the clothing/layering options that you choose to wear during this time can make such a huge difference. So I don't plan to be talking about my work all the time here. But today you all sounded so much like the Circle of Women that I'm in contact with each and every day and I support all of us in this Journey -- 100%. :)
Janice - posted on 08/29/2009
Girl I feel ur pain, I can be in the midst of a conservation about cooking and start to sweat...the covers are on then off man I cant take it...I cant believe I was created, born and live to end up like this, like sucks right now...
Lucy - posted on 08/28/2009
Karen Welcome to the hormonal club. YES I understand. I too am a Biatch in heat. Try explaining that to my 6 year old son. I have found some comfort, though. Green Tea!!!! I drink caffeine free at nights and the strongest type in the mornings... after my cup of coffee, of course. I also found that exercise relieves some of the "cold sweat" outbursts.
And you're soooo right ... about people looking at me when Im breaking into "heat". I walk away or go to the bathroom. I won't take hormones to relieve the symptoms. At least not yet. Feel better=)
Keri - posted on 08/28/2009
First you are a hoot!!! My name is Keri and I am 48 years old. I had ALL my female organs removed 7 years ago and I think it was worse than going through it naturally. Because you go to sleep ok and wake up a raging idiot. You wanna talk about hot flashes and mood swings I thought about killing someone. I lived in Wisconsin at the time of the surgery. It was late October when it was done. The day my husband took me home it was 25 below zero. That night was the worst thing ever. I had all the windows open and fans blowing right on me and there was a pool of sweat on my stomach and the bed was soaked. My husband said we needed to close the windows before the pipes broke. I told him he better not touch them if he wanted to live. He said my body was cold and I sat up like I was possessed and told him in no uncertain term that my insides were 2000 degrees and no matter what my body felt like I was burning up. Then, I proceeded to tell him to never touch, talk, or look at me again. That has finally eased up for me and I still have to deal with mild night sweats. I don't take pills but I use a femring. This has helped me a lot. I hope you find relief soon because this crap is hard to deal with.
Tammye - posted on 08/28/2009
With my cancer I had to have a radical hysterectomy. So, my menopause is full blown no holds barred. Right now I am using Meno-ease from walmart. It actually contains progesterone!! As far as "not being in the mood" my hubby wishes I would get out of the mood sometimes. My mood swings are not to bad but if i get ticked off everyone leaves.
I hate not being able to laydown with out sweat pouring. My hubby used to love to cuddle at night but not anymore!!! he says he will cuddle when he needs a heating pad!!! I hope it ends soon for me. But I have only had 7 months of full blown.
The meno-ease seems to help better than the pill for progesterone. And I am using the estrogen cream as well.
Marie - posted on 08/28/2009
Been perimenopausal for 5 years. Had mild hot flashes and moody but nothing severe yet. Just had a period for 3 weeks which is unusual even for me. Looked into tying tubes last year but never went thriogh with it. Now I'm thinking about hysterectomy to just get everything over with. My concern with that is the thought of lack of sexual interest.That would bum me out seriously. Anyone got advice on whether that's true??
Barbara - posted on 08/27/2009
You are sooo right Hormones suck. I am in full blown menopause and it's horrible. They tell me it gets better but; unfortunately for me I haven't seen the light at the end of the tunnel. Just wait until you get up in the morning shower and get ready for work and by the time you're dressed and you're soaking wet from sweat then have to star all over again. NOT FUN!!
Jeannie - posted on 08/27/2009
i started menopause when i was 39 and now im 50 and its really bad. i sweat all the time. go into walmart hotflash,go to sleep nightsweats. it never friggin ends. nights are the worst. sometimes i feel like someone has poured water all over me. my husband drives me nuts, he says i drive him crazy. i tell him if he could feel what i feel all the time he would know what im going through. my daugther laughs at me and i tell her shell be next. i take cold showers in the middle of the night just to cool down and get the sweat off of me. i cant wait for this to be over with, i hope im in the home stretch of this thing they call menopause. i just call it torture.
Jeanelle - posted on 08/27/2009
I REALLY MUST BE WEIRD CAUSE I'M ACTUALLY ENJOYING MY HOT FLASHES AND THE ABSENCE OF MY MONTHLY PRESENT AND MY HUSBAND HASN'T BEEN SUFFERING ANY EITHER EVERYTHING IS WORKING IN REVERSE SO FAR FOR ME. I ACTUALLY HAVE BEEN SURPRISING MY HUSBAND WITH ALWAYS BEING IN THE MOOD. BUT LET ME TELL YOU ONE THING WITH I'M IN A BAD MOOD "WATCH OUT" I TAKE NO ENEMIES. I'M LOVING THIS PHASE OF MY LIFE
Michele - posted on 08/27/2009
Peri, Post, Pre WHATEVER!!!! I JUST TURNED 50 IN MARCH OF THIS YEAR AND CANT GO ANYWHERE WITHOUT THE OLD DREADED " KLEENEX IN MY BRA TRICK!! " I sweat everywhere I go!! I can't wear make-up anymore unless I apply it with crazy glue!! Everytime I go anywhere thinking that I might look somewhat pretty for a change....Someone always has to come up to me with a look of pity on thier face and ask me if I am ok.... Or whats wrong Michele, can I help?? Or the worse case scenario...hand me a tissue to wipe the now dripping mascara from my chin!!!!!!! Try sending your Pit Bull out the door with a lunch box at 7 am and then putting your two yr old in the dog house with a dish of alpo!!! AND LIKING IT THAT WAY!!!!! Instead of wine...I think I need a recharge and some coolant, whata you think?? :)
Tracy - posted on 08/26/2009
My Peri menopause started at age 37. I didn't know what it was at the time and had symptoms that were strange....hot and shaky, anxiety, interrupted sleep for hours at a time etc. By 39 I hadn't slept through the night for 2 years and so decided to make some big changes. I cut out sugar completely for a while...now I have it as a treat, started to eat lots of fruit, veg and salad, and run for 25 mins. most days. I'm not completely symptom free, but I'm close. Don't know if this works for everyone but I'm glad I made the change.....I was going to change anyway, may as well get fit doing it!
Good luck and may you have many 'cool' days to come!
Toni - posted on 08/26/2009
For men it's called mid life crisis. I guess I have been pretty lucky. I had a hysterectomy at around 33 so I was pushed into early menopause. But I haven't really suffered any ill side effects. No weight gain, moodiness, teary etc.. I can't offer any advice but I will pray for you.
Sandi - posted on 08/26/2009
Am in full blown menopause right now. Showering numerous times a day. Forget about putting make-up on, or doing hair. Feel like an old sweat hog. And I won't even mention about drying up down there! Disgusting. Have been going thru the hot flashes for 4 years now. I can see why some menopausal women lose their minds. Barely hanging in there.
Julie - posted on 08/25/2009
You are absolutely correct. Perimenopause sucks! Estroven or whatever generic brand is out there helps me out a lot. My husband, who won't go near my cart if I have feminine products in it, has gone to the store to get Estroven!! The only positive I can see is the stopping of the period, oh and the alone time I get when I get really cranky.
Tammye - posted on 08/25/2009
Well HOT FLASHES do SUCK!! My hubby says I try to freeze him out. I only have to have the A/C on as cool as it goes and at least one fan on HI. ills and creams do help some but I wish the hot flashes would completely stop! They make me nuts.. So, yes someone else has to suffer to
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