Rae - posted on 08/26/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )
Hi I am nearly at my wits end. I have 3 girls still living at home (my eldest boy has left home and has 2 kids of his own), and they all have very distinct and different specific needs.
My eldest is 17 and, unfortunately, very immature for her age. She seems to be jealous of her 2 younger sisters. She seems to be quite *mardy*, crying at the slightest word of correction or arguement. We were all discussing First Aid scenarios last night and because she disagreed with something my husband said she started crying even before we had a chance to talk it through and talk about their different ideas and the pros and cons of each; saying we always said she was wrong and never let her be right ... in actual fact it was something that had no *right or wrong* and was a personal opinion point.
My middle daughter is 15 and very very bright and intelligent (she has done the mensa test and come out with a score of something like 190 which puts her in top 1% of the country), unfortunately because she is so bright she gets bored very easily and often *lords it* over her sisters a bit and tries to take control of every situation. She often tries to act like an adult in correcting and advising her sisters. She has a very *rapid* temper and can at times get very aggressive - though she has never hit her sisters.
My youngest daughter is 11 and has Generalised Global Developmental Delay (which basically means she is way behind her peers in most areas - socially and behaviourally as well as academically). She also has various other minor health problems which means she sometimes needs physical help with her *Activities of Daily Living*. She is due to start secondary school in September and will be going to a special needs school. She can be very annoying sometimes as it can be easy to forget that she is basically a 5 year old in an 11year olds body; this is because physically she looks *normal* and at times *behaves like an 11 year old).
They all argue as to who is best at looking after me if I have one of my epileptic seizures (these are completely uncontrolled and happen on average 4 or 5 times a week), and they have actually been known to fight about who should treat me and who should go and find their dad etc, apparently they've even fought over what they should do for me during a fit!!!
They don't seem to *be happy* unless they have managed to get one of the others into trouble. I know this can be considered *normal* for teenagers, but surely not literally 24/7.
If anyone has any ideas please help as I really am at my wits end and the stress of their fighting actually causes me to have more seizures - which merely gives them more things to argue over.