Michele - posted on 10/09/2009 ( 22 moms have responded )
I'm 48 and my daughter just turned 13. I've raised her on my own (with the help of friends and family, of course) since she was 3 months old. She is a very bright girl who does very well in school, and consequently, thinks she "knows it all." My main concern to dealing with her defiance. She is very good at talking her way out of doing something when I request and telling me that she will do it "later" and then she "forgets." She still leaves dishes in the sink instead of rinsing them and putting them in the dishwasher (how hard can this be?) and throws her clothes on the floor instead of putting them in the clothes hamper (gee whiz!)
The only thing that works is to block her computer use until she finishes her chores, TV, etc. but I see this as temporary. How can I get her to do these things without being reminded or "rewarded."? When is she going to start taking responsibility for herself?