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how do you switch gears from parenting a 4 year old and then to a 16 year old. Does anyone else feel like there's just not enough of you to go around?

Elizabeth - posted on 09/12/2010 ( 1 mom has responded )

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It's a bit like speaking two different languages...well three if you count mine! It is a totally different mind set dealing with my 4 year old and my 12 and 16 year olds. I feel like my standard of parenting is diminishing because I don't feel as engaged. Simply because I can't be sincerely interested as to the where abouts of barbie's pink brush and the importance of my teenagers outrageous outfit at any give moment in time. Am I in the teenage phase of parenting...or maybe I need to not worry so much.

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Louise - posted on 09/14/2010

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It does get better I promise. I have been through this stage and I am now out the other side. I was dealing with an 18 year old doing A levels a 16 year old doing GSCE and a 1 year old teething. Not an easy job to be all things to all people. You just have to prioritise. My sons tended to come and chat to me at 12.30 when my toddler went to bed and then plonk themselves on the end of my bed when I was trying to sleep. It is a tough time but it does get better. I now have one son at Uni in Scotland so he has left home and one at college but living at home. My daughter is now approaching her terrible twos and I have started to go grey with juggling nappies, uniforms rugby kits and shirts, packed lunches and playgroups. I am sure it will settle down again soon. Hang in there eventually every body learns that mum needs a rest and the penny drops how much you do for them on a daily basis.

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