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I have a son who will be 13 this oct. My problem is his attitude & he says really shocking things to me. Today is my 1st day of reaching out ... I need help!!

Leah - posted on 05/25/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I feel so alone & confused about how my (soon to be 13) son treats me.

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Shortygal205 - posted on 06/15/2012

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Rest assure that you are not alone. My son & I went through so much from the time it he was 14 yrs and up til he turned 18. We ended up in counceling and I had to take a New Horizon parenting class. It helped me to deal with what they call "a strong will child". It may be the friends he is surrounding himself with or what he watches on tv, the kind of music he listens to. Either way, pray for peace in your home and also try not to be too confrontational with your son. Things will get out of hand quickly. Sometimes they know what ignites your fire. Let him know you have house rules and he will obey them or you will need to take something from him he likes. Dont let him controll you or disrespect your house rules because things will only get worse. Try to nip it before it gets too bad. It was a long road and he ended up on probation. So you have to do tough love but be firm. Keep the faith.

Lisa - posted on 06/04/2012

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Maybe you are a lenient mom and he is not used to being corrected? then you have a situation. You might get some books that teach discipline for children whom have had none and it has led to this. (not condescending here) Hopefully, though he is just going thru a stage. This stage should be discouraged and given consequences. DO NOT back down or give in because it will only encourage this behavior.

Beth - posted on 05/31/2012

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Renee your are right on! Also reach out to the school-- there may be a teacher there that he connects with that can help him talk out some of the things going on in his life.

Renee - posted on 05/25/2012

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Leah, Your son needs to know who is the boss in the house, Don,t let him start showing you disrepect if he feels he has control over you he will run with it. In the coming years he will be going though so much at school,Friends and life. Do not let anything he says or does shock you because he will know he has your full attention and that is way to far to go with him. Love him but show a very firm response to his attitude. Life for kids is so hard these days and we can not aloud them to get out of hand with us. Watch and pay attention to the kids he hangs out with and how they talk and make sure to know all the parents of his friends. That will be a big deal for you to know that. See how his friends treat and talk to there parents, that might be where he is picking up this new problems that are arising in your life. Thanks for reaching out and I hope this helps.

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