I'm a mom with grown kids and grand kids

Piper - posted on 02/03/2010

i dont think you do stop helping your kids but it's down to you how much you help as the more you do for your kids the more they will take advantage, start saying no and when you do help they will appreciate it more.

Marie Sue - posted on 02/02/2010

when you are doing more for them than they are doing for themself.

Michelle - posted on 02/02/2010

I have a 24 yr. old who has ocd and a 22 yr. old who is separated from his wife. He has a 16 mo. old and when he brings my grandson over it lights up our day. I am there for them when they need someone to talk to and I tell them I can't fix all their problems and I don't expect them to fix mine. I just try to not take their problems on as my own.

Paulette R - posted on 01/30/2010

Shaun ,
You gave me a well word .
Thanks
Paulette

Shaun - posted on 01/28/2010

You never stop ..My oldest boy moved out ,not just out but to another state.I am so proud of him and us as parents that he feels confident enough to try it on his own. He knows if it doesn't work he can always come home and regroup and try again until he gets it right .As parents I think its our job to be the cheerleaders for our kids .I feel like we should be there for them as long as they are making an honest effort.Cheer them on!!And nobody knows your kids like you do...Parenting is NOT for the faint of heart!

Paulette R - posted on 01/27/2010

When they are young they sit on your Lap.
When they are grown they sit on your Heart .
We as parents will always be using our parenting skills .
It does not stop at adult unless they desire to stand on their own.

Rose - posted on 01/27/2010

I still help.You have to set limits and take care of your needs also.Sometimes its very hard.I also have a 3 yr old Grandson and a 83 yr old mother I try to help

Christine - posted on 01/26/2010

it would be very hard not to help them. when i can i would

Joan - posted on 01/26/2010

You never stop you just set rules and boundaries. If you do not do this you are in for a rocky relationship. An example is if they had lost their job and such and moved in with you for a time, you should say something like you can stay here for thirty days till you get a job and a place of your own again (or however long you think) that way you both know what to expect and there is no room for doubt.

Darlene - posted on 01/24/2010

not sure ,still helping

Kathy - posted on 01/24/2010

dear lesia,you never stop helping your kids no matter how old they get!

Sharon - posted on 01/24/2010

That is a good question!!! I ask myself that all the time. I have a 20 year old, single but already a dad. That makes me a grandma too. He does pretty well (going to college, living with his girlfriend, and working) but it seems I'm always needed. I sometimes feel like a doormat. His girlfriend doesn't work, doesn't drive, and has not even finished high school. She is much more demanding than my son. I also have a 16 year old who has ADD. I'm home schooling him and it is a real challenge.

BARBARA - posted on 01/24/2010

When they stop needing it,if you have done a good job raising them they find their independance pretty quickly after college.Thank God!!

Libby - posted on 01/22/2010

i think you stop helping them when they stop helping themselves and start expecting it. by all means dont make it to where they do not have to try and figure things out for themselves, eventually they will have to stand on thier own but what it really comes down to is your doing it for the grandkids at this point so they dont suffer.

Kim - posted on 01/22/2010

Never, I think. See, not only sometimes its just your children, it grandbabies too. The grandkids can't help it if the parents don't have it together. So you help.

Bronnie - posted on 01/21/2010

never. if your happy to do it and there not asking for things they can do themselves keep doing it. rule of thumb if you were in there shoes would you want the help if offered.

Donna - posted on 01/20/2010

Never. You just can't help them so much that it hurts you.

Betty - posted on 01/20/2010

Hi Lesia, I think that parents never stop helping their children..... It doesn't matter how old they get or what kind of job they hold they will always need something from us, it's up to us as parents to put limitations on how much we're willing to help.