Is a Hysterectomy a good or bad thing?

Elaine - posted on 05/11/2010 ( 136 moms have responded )

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hi everyone,

i am in the process of being referred to a gynacologist to have a hysterectomy. well ur all probly wondering why the heck im even looking at doing this to my body especially at my age. well its because my partner of 20 or so years will not go for a vasectomy which i think is really stink on his part. i am also quite fertile an my family is complete and it would be cruel to bring another child into this world, as i have a 5yr old who has a disability an he needs alot of my concentration and a 1yr old who was a product of my iud falling out, but i love em to bits. please give me some feedback on this i'd be greatful..

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Lisa - posted on 06/25/2010

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I had my tubes tied after the birth of my twins. One year later I had to have a hysterectomy because my period would not stop. It was the best thing I ever did. I have never taken any hormones, I am just starting to enter menopause and the surgery was 12 years ago. Occasionally I might have some mood swings, but maybe only 2 or three times a year. I recommend it to anyone having problems or who doesn't want any more children. It was very liberating for me. Good luck with yours Elaine.

Angela - posted on 05/14/2010

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Are you seriouse,a hysterectomy done soley as a form of birth control.I can't believe you can even find a Dr. willing to do it based on the reason.NO don't!!! Get your tubes tied if it's just for birth contro. I want you to know for years the medical field has done hysterectomys for variouse reasons but there is a new procedure that is becomming more widley used in lue of doing a hysterectomy. They use this to treat the areas in the womb that have dysplaysia & other cell changesrather then take out the entire womb or cervix. It's a laser procedure. I have had a total hysterectomy 5 yrs. ago & I'm 42 now I'm having to get surgery due to bladder & other organs dropping. This is not as uncommon of an side effect from hysterectomys. Please do not consider this option soley for reproductive puposes,even the medical communitty is looking at it as not the 1st or only option when it's high grade or low grade dysplasia & even cancer pr cursor cells. Do more research,family planning should be what the two of you decide that is best for you both.I had my tubes tied & it worked fine 9 yrs. ago. Good luck

Marianne - posted on 06/02/2010

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I am 2 months post surgery for me at 46 it was a great chioce. Find a DR. you trust and follow their advice and you heart!

Maureen - posted on 05/17/2010

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Hi there, I had a vaginally hysterectomy when I was only 29, due to a spine injury. It was the best thing I every did. I actually found my sex drive increase, I guess cause there was no fear of getting pregnant. I did wont more children, bnut knew with my back it would never happen, but am very grateful for the two beautiful daughters I have. Yes the recovery period is long, but it was a nice restful mostly pain free time, with lots of help from my girlfriends, bless them. It is 13 yrs since I had mine done, and I'm pleased I did. Good luck with your decision.

Lee - posted on 05/13/2010

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Why OH WHY do you feel that you need to rip out the whole caboodle rather than simply having "tubes tied" or something along those lines? It IS pretty tragic that your partner isn't prepared to have a vasectomy, it is a much less invasive procedure and all my male friends who have had it done (and their female partners obviously) have ended up having a great deal better sex lives afterwards - less issues with hormones and also the 0% pregnancy risk. Do you know any other guys whom your partner respects/admires who have had a vasectomy? Enlist their aid in encouraging your partner to rethink his (in my opinion) rather selfish stance.

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Camille - posted on 08/13/2013

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No need to do domething so drastic. Talk to your doctor about caterizing your uterus. It is fone with hot water or electricity, it is outpatient, and for me the best decision. I had it done 10 years ago. Best part, not only does it make you unable to carry a pregnancy, but aftet there are no more periods but you still have all your plumbing. :)

April - posted on 08/06/2013

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Do not tie your tubes I can cause post tubal syndrome and heavy painful periods among other things

Linda - posted on 04/08/2013

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Hello there i definitely would never ever utelise the very serious and permanant Procedure/operation known to us all as Hysterectomy now there are various formations of the op granted there are some with an ovary left some without etc etc however I cannot condone its use as a contraceptive however fertile you are I recomend you try other things rather than a hysterectomy as the body is changed forever and there are various wimmen on here speaking of the many resulting lifechanging experiences mentaly physicaly sexualy and hormonaly so please do not try to do this to yourself unless there is absoloutely no other option because there is permanant life altering side effects for most wimmen as Iam sure you have all read.I believe hysterectomys are best left to deal with life threatening circimstances such as cancers and diseases of the womb such as edriometriosis etc etc so many different tumours out there benign and otherwise that can cause us immense pain bleeding and discomfort so we need to get the hysterectomy I needed it after developing 5 tumours benighn nonetheless they were there and I let drs cut them out and within 6mths I had to return to get the hysterectomy as the cutting them out was not fruitful and more tumours developed in the old oes places so it was an absoloute necessity for me as I had bled constantly for 2yrs straight and was 29yrs young at the time it was a hard decision however as it turns out it was also the best decision for me and yes I had side effects such as tiredness grumpy moods and I did feel a sense of loss within myself of my femaninity to an extent it wasnt bad not like I felt masculine or anything I just for a few months felt lost in myself and unsure of what the future held for me so with much anticipation and anxiety I went through the few yrs following without too much hindrances also ended up having the best ever sexual drive ever although not straight away also had even more abundance in orgasm as well however I had the best help in my loving husband and the kids helped me too and now that Iam 50 its been 29yrs since my hysterectomy I haven't yet looked back with regret and feel a freedom that is endless which added to my sexual drive in a huge way may I add so as you can see we are all different and all have things that someone else or another may or may not have had this is a good topic and always good to hear from others .I would emplore you not to go seeking out a hysterectomy for birth control purposes,always best to talk to your Drs especialy if you are still quite young there surely has to be many other avenues one can take to avoid unwanted pregnancys and dodgy menstruation cycles than a total hysterectomy.Good luck whatever happens I mean you no ill will and hope you get the solution that is correct and best for your health.regards from Linda Macdonald .

Linda - posted on 04/08/2013

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Oh my I think perhaps you may have suffered some post op depression or hormonal imbalance Patty,Iam sorry you are suffering in many ways it sounds like you are perhaps depressed or emotionaly drained or something Ive never heard of anyone thus far speaking of loss of orgasm I had my hysterectomy at 29 and have had abundance in the many yrs thereafter my op,Iam currently 50yrs old now and have slowed down and yes theres a huge drop in sexual drive etc however Id be inclined to send you to your Dr to discuss the probability of depression of some sort because you sound very sad and sort of darined inbetween the lines of your writings just a fellow pardon the punn a fellow post op Hysterectomy survivor well at times it was a battle emotionaly and physicaly draining as well as hormonaly challenging too so it is not without the ability in my book to actualy cause depressions of differing levels just a thought good luck hope you feel better asap Patty & as far as all other ladies out there having survived or fearing hysterectomy please do think long and hard about the longterm consequences which I now realise is very important to ones mindset.regards Linda macdonald.

Patty - posted on 04/08/2013

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There are good things and bad things with a hysterectomy. The best thing no menstral period. My biggest negative about it is that I lost my sex drive. Yes lost it and 3 years later I still can't find it. This causes much contention between my husband of 16 years and myself. I'm 48 years old have a 6 year old special needs daughter and a 4 year old son. They take so much of my time that at the end of the day I am exhausted. O the worst part is I no longer have orgasams with my husband. We make love in various situations but never an orgasam. It was never like that before, we had a very healthy sex life before i had the dreaded hysterectomy now it is no existant.

Maye you should read this to your fella and see if he wants a sex life for a couple of little snips.

Bernadette - posted on 04/02/2013

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hi iam a mom of three boys and iam wondering a hysterectomy and no doctor's won't do it for me as i bee having problems with my peroids every month and all i get from the doctor's iam to young iam not to young i want it done as iam done having kids as my boyfriend does not want kids so i told him i will go for a hysterectomy i was wondering if anybody have any ideal how i can get one done as i don't want no more kids and plus havin to much trouble with my peroids want it gone i am sure no more kids as my last child needs all my attend so if anyone have any clue what i can do please drop me a message

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If you are having a Hysterectomy as a form of birth control its not a good idea. I agree with some of the other responses such as having your tubes tied. I had a Hysterectomy many years ago for health problems (cancer and massive fibroids), and I feel great and healthy. But i would never have it done just for birth control there are too many other things to use out there.

Geraldine - posted on 06/11/2010

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you may feel some remorse if you have no medical reason other than the fear of having children with disability. If you are 100% certain that the child will come into the world with some lifelong challenge than it is a good choice. However, i had to have a hysterectomy for saving my life, i had no choice and even though this was a live or die choice it took me two long agonizing yrs of thinking. After my operation i knew, i will never have another child in this lifetime, this is it. The fact that it made my life 99% easier and i chose life, did not make that fact any more easier. You could use clips, that is reversible, and you may think its more comfortable for you conscience.

Chris - posted on 06/03/2010

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If your having the hysterectomy just so you do't get pregnant, why not just get your tubes tied? I had a hysterectomy (complete) almost 2 years ago because of problems. The up side, like Gina said, NO MORE PERIODS, but I still have the mood swings. My Dr did the bikini cut so you don't see my scar & it didn't effect my sex drive either, I think thats just a myth. I have numerous medical problems other than female things, but I'm still doing what I can. Good luch with whatever you decide

Elaine - posted on 06/02/2010

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thank u all for ur wonderful comments..i have decided after much destressing an agonising thinking that i will not go ahead with the hysterectomy..i am a busy mum an i cannot see myself being any good to myself an to my disabled son if i go ahead with it, as the healing process will take a very long long time..and yes i may have been taking the easy way out having a hyst because of birth control but thanks heaps everyone for opening my eyes..take care xox

K - posted on 06/02/2010

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If your partner won't have vasectomy and wants you to have a hysterectomy, maybe you should get couples counseling first.
I have a endometrial ablation to take care of my fibroids and it has the added bonus of making pregnancy extremely difficult, so be sure you are done having kids. I have 4 and still wanted more, but my body couldn't handle it. I have had a child every 7 years since I was 18 years old. My boss told me I was a career mom, or a serial mother.

Lizette - posted on 06/02/2010

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Hi Elaine. Well, I think you want to have the hysterectomy for the wrong reason! There sure are other ways to prevent pregnancy. The Dr, if he is a good one will surely not do the hyst. on that grounds. I had one because I had no choice as it was enlarged with lots of myoma's growing on it. Having a hyst. also comes with premenopausal symtoms and other side effects. Think carefully before you consider this drastic step.
Hope this was of some help.

Kimberly - posted on 06/02/2010

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Why not get your tubes severed? A hysterectomy seems a bit much. Personally, I would hold back full-on sex unless he got a vasectomy. His would be on an outpatient basis and he would be back to work the next day.

Michelle - posted on 06/01/2010

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if you can, get a partial Hysterectomy. this leaves your tubes so you will not need to take hormones!

Carla - posted on 06/01/2010

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I agree with most, discuss a tubal with your doctor. I had a hysterectomy in my early thirties because of medical problems, I recovered very well and everything is fine. Except for medical problems I am not sure I would have had it done. Think about it

Debra - posted on 05/29/2010

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The other thing, if you do have a hysterectomy, you can have it done vaginally.

Debra - posted on 05/29/2010

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The best option for you would be a tube tie. Get your gynecologist to do a smaller operation, having a hysterectomy for pregnancy prevention is over the top. It is very unusual for an IUD to fall out also. I'm a nurse in theater, I give the doctors all their instruments, the biggest thing to tell your partner is that you are going to have to take it very easy for 6 weeks. NO lifting or washing, standing or stretching. You will have your insides played with and pushed around. If he were to have a vasectomy, it's very small compared to women. But on the plus side for him, and maybe a swaying point, You will not feel like sex for that time, but if he has his done he has to have more sex for the first 3 months to make sure he no longer produces sperm. Then he has to be tested, and you can help him with that also. Use your female perspective to encourage his decision.

Kristine - posted on 05/27/2010

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Hi, Elaine, I had my tubes tied after my second child in 1989, because my husband refused to have anything done...about 6 years later had to have a hysterectomy done do to a descending uterus....and one bad ovary, no hormone replacement, so I was 32 yrs. old and No More Periods...I almost jumped off the table when the Dr. said, those wonderful words to me...but, if you have a tubal, its not just tying them anymore, they cut them and burn both ends...that's it...no going back...and if that is all you need, that is the less trauma to your mind and body...Good Luck...

Roxanne - posted on 05/27/2010

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I had a hysterectomy when I was 31 (14 yrs ago) because my periods were too heavy,I would stand up and bleed really bad...I had staples across my whole stomach, which isn't fun, but I have seen ladies who have had them recently and I noticed a big difference.I was stapled across the whole tummy, they had a little scar , almost like the one you would get to get your tubes tied ( which I have that scar as well at the age of 22).You just have to be careful not to lift anything heavy, no vaccuuming..My children were 12 and 9, and both my girls were so helpful that it was not that bad,but I won't lie to you,. Back then it hurt real bad but not sure now adays seeing the whole procedure is totally different now.....BTW, I still have my ovaries so no hormone pills or shots and they are still good to this day.....Hope this helps and GOOD LUCK !!

Patty - posted on 05/26/2010

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Good responses... absolutely DO NOT get a hysterectomy for birth control. It alters your whole system, hormonally. It should only be done to save your life. I'm writing to add that the person who wrote ablation as a form of sterliziation is incorrect. You CAN get pregnant after ablation, it just isn't likely. I've had ablation, which was to correct heavy bleeding and to avoid a hysterectomy....why you would do it is beyond me. Your doctor is nuts..get another one. I've done alot of research. It is possible to get pregnant after ablation, just not as probable. Don't believe read the various link responses to this:

http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Maternal--C... It is also in the fine print of the documents about the procedure that you STILL need to use birth control. Wanted to correct the misconception put forth in that post.

Morna - posted on 05/26/2010

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For me it wasn't a decision that I took lightly but I had no choice! It literally did - save my life. So in MY case, I'm glad it happened or my family would not have a wife or mother. Nothing else matters to me. I'm here and that's what's important. I'm not telling anyone else what to do with their lives. It was just a suggestion.

Hannelie - posted on 05/26/2010

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hi there

You don't have to feel quilty, as you are the boss of your own body. And there is nothing wrong with having a hysterectomy... and you are doing it for a good purpose aren't you. Well, my husband doesn't want a vasectomy either. I've begged him, but he does'nt want one. You are lucky to have a hysterectomy, cause my doc does'nt want to give me one. And i really want one, because i have 2 kids and i think i'm done to... There is nothing wrong with you wanting a hysterectomy..

Julie - posted on 05/26/2010

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I agree with all the ladies that say having a hysterectomy as a form of birth control is wrong. I had to have a hysterectomy during my sons birth, I was left with my ovaries so I could go through menopause naturally, unfortunately I then got a tumor on one of them and was told that it could also happen with my other ovary so I had to have a 2nd operation to remove them both. Having a hysterectomy shouldn't be taken lightly, the recovery period is 6 weeks and having a disabled child (which I also have) is very hard and tiring work most of which you wont be able to do yourself during that period. Please please consider having your tubes tied instead, my friend had it done and it can be done in day surgery and the recovery period is far shorter. Good luck in your decision.

Morna - posted on 05/25/2010

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My Dr "Hatasaka" saved my life! He works out of the U of U Hospitall In SLC, Ut and also out of Provo, Ut. He will get right down to the nitty gritty of your problem. He certainly did for me.
Goodluck!

Kim - posted on 05/25/2010

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Hi I had one when I was 37 years of age due to heavy bleeding and pain and didnt wont any moe children It was the best thing that I could of done No more periods no more false Pregency It was totally liberating got my body back do it you wont regert it

I kept my overies so no early Menopause If you get your tube done you will end up having one done later down the track as I had to so save yourself double surgery They can do it virginally so less invasis them being cut open

Phoebe - posted on 05/24/2010

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A HYSTERECTOMY SOUNDS REAL NICE NOT HAVING ANYMORE PERIODS, BUT THE DOWN SIDE IS THE HORMONES THAT YOU HAVE TO TAKE AND THE TRANSISTIONS THAT YOUR BODY GOES THROUGH.I WAS 30 AND HAD TO HAVE A HYSTERECTOMY. I WENT THROUGH ALL KIND OF EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS. YOU CAN'T TELL WHEN YOUR GOING THROUGH MENAPAUSE AND ALSO PUTS YOU IN MENAPAUSE EARLIER THAN NORMAL. WITH ALL YOUR RESPONSIBILITY WITH YOUR CHILDREN I WOULD NOT RECOMEND IT UNLESS NEEDED FOR MEDICAL REASONS. GOOD LUCK

Joan - posted on 05/24/2010

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Why something so drastic? How about getting your tubes tied. The procedure is done through your belly button and doesn't leave a scar and your uterus is left intact. If you don't need a hysterectomy for medical reasons, why get one?

Lynn - posted on 05/24/2010

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I suggest you visit the website Hystersisters its a great site for women contemplating having a hysterectomy. I had one August 31 2009 but for medical reasons. my thoughts are if its not medically necessary I would not do it. I havent had any problems and the surgery was really not that intense, but I dont see it as a birth control option because you can have problems after. I hope you can find an even ground for your answer, One thing that is great white pants all summer!!! Yeah no pads no accidents WONDERFUL!

Donna - posted on 05/24/2010

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why not get your tubes tied?? I had 7 and after that I turned 30 and they tied my tubes, It is unfair that we women must always take birth control as not to hurt ourselves or our children, why can't the man ever do something? how old are you ? there should be other options beside this dreadful thing!!!

Gill - posted on 05/24/2010

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Hi there,

Not only should you look into tubal ligation, but i had a 'marina' put in last year. Admittedly it was for severe bleeding but it also is a contraceptive as well. Just a another thought, good luck:)

Kris - posted on 05/24/2010

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why not just get your tubes tied...i have had a complete hysterectomy and i think it is great, i just wish i was able to keep my ovaries. i think you are being very responsible

Cheryl - posted on 05/23/2010

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Check out http://www.hystersisters.com. It's a Web site that has support groups and lots of good information for women who are considering a hysterectomy. Personally, I would never have a hysterectomy voluntarily after all the stories I've heard from women who've had them. (I used to belong to a Yahoo Group for women who have uterine fibroids, and many of those women have had hysterectomies.) Some women are fine after one, but many of them have consequences that their doctors didn't explain beforehand.

Judy Ann - posted on 05/23/2010

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I have had a hysterectomy two years ago due to health reasons because I had breast cancer and my cancer was feeding on my hormones. I was only 44 then. For your purposes, which is not to get pregnant, I would suggest tubal ligation. You are still young and an early menopause is not a favorable experience. It is also not fair for us women to shoulder all the responsibility of procreation. Please remind your husband it takes two to tango. There are also natural forms of contraception. However, both of you should cooperate to make it work.

Vanessa - posted on 05/23/2010

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I had to have a hysterectomy in 2005 for medical resons I had a 81/2 pound tumor they removed everything. everybody told me I would feel like a new woman in August it will be 5yrs I am still waiting for that new woman to get here. A hysterectomy is major surgery and all kinds of complications can happen. they had to do mine by cutting my abdomen and in the process cut a musle that started bleeding the cavity filled with blood whitch burst through after a week and made 2 holes in my abdomen ,had to go to the doctor everyday to get it flushed out for 2 monthes after that had to get the holes packed twice a day for it to heal they did that for 4 monthes the scar is horrible and still very tender nothing is the same gained weight that is hard to lose now because of the horomones that you have to be on. the sex drive is not the same. My doctor told me it was just like castorating a man you should think twice before you have this done.Get your tubes tied I would'nt advise anyone to have this done unless there is a medical reson.

Sheri - posted on 05/22/2010

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I had a total hysterectomy 7 years ago and I honestly think it was the best thing I've ever done. When you have one make sure that your doctor takes everything including your cervix or you may end up having more surgery later. My doctor told me that you never want to have a hysterectomy unless they take it all. Make sure you rest a lot afterward as it can be hard on you.

Kim - posted on 05/22/2010

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Hi elaine, i had a hysterectomy almost 14yrs ago and have never looked back. mine was for medical reasons but if all you're wanting is to stop getting pregnant you would be better looking into sterilization as a hysterectomy is a major op and leaves you unable to do the things you need to for quite a long time.

Dawn - posted on 05/22/2010

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Hi Elaine,
I had a hysterectomy when I was thirty due to some "female" problems I already had three children but did not want any more, we have three beautiful daughters, my husband went for vasectomy but I still needed to be done, it has been the best thing for me I am so grateful that I had it done.. Hope this will help you Dawn

Jan - posted on 05/21/2010

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Personally I believe hysterectomys should be reserved for medical purposes. Mine was a blessing because I had numerous benign tumors that needed to be removed and would have come back had I just had a partial surgery done. TO me to do a total husterectomy for sterilization is a bit drastic unless there is a real med need. Have you looked into tubal ligation?

Ginny - posted on 05/21/2010

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I had my hysterectomy 20 myears ago. I was having hard periods and I was through having children. I have never regret it.

Joleen - posted on 05/21/2010

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I had to have one when I was 28 years old. I'd had four very large babies and things just weren't doing what they were supposed to. I am now going on 55. While I would have loved to have more children, it wasn't in the plan for me.
If you have a husband who "will not go for a vasectomy" that's sad and I'm sorry, but selfish! Does he want more children??? If he says no, ask what he is willing to do? Buy him a box of condoms. I wouldn't get one just because he won't get a vasectomy. He's part of the deal too...

Fredericka - posted on 05/21/2010

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What about a tubal instead of a hysterectomy? I had a total hysterectomy at the age of 40 and it was the best thing I ever did but I had fibrosis that had ruptured and I was bleeding non stop. You could also have a partial Hysterectomy where the ovaries are left so you will still have the hormones you need to keep bone mass. You would not have surgical menopause with leaving the ovaries.

Angie - posted on 05/21/2010

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I hve the mirena implant I have no problems and it can be taken out if I want kids with my partner

Ashley - posted on 05/21/2010

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Hi Elaine,
I think that your partner is being selfish. Enough said on that. I had a hysterectomy two years ago. It was actually a partial. This was the best thing that ever happened to me! I suffered my whole life with extreme cramps, long,HEAVY bleeding every month, irregularity( never knowing when it would arrive), etc. I now have no pain, bleeding, so far no hot flashes(although technically I'm supposed to have those). I've never felt so free! The surgery went well. I had no pain after and I was back on my feet within a week. By back on my feet, that means driving and leading a normal life. I tend to recovery from surgeries quite easily despite being diabetic. It is all in your mind-set! Think positive and it will be!
Ashley

Kim - posted on 05/21/2010

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Elaine,I had a hysterectomy about 9 years ago- for me it was a health issue- I had thousand of tiny blood vessals that had rupted on the outside of the urtues-? . Before you decide wait and see what the gynacologist has to say. For me it was the right decison to make, cause I also had a heavy dose of endermitis-?. It was a miracle that had my son- who is 14 years old now, when I did. It's your decsion and the doctor's if you have the hysterectomy or not. The emotions changes are the easy and sometime hard to detail with. The nice thing about a hysterctomy is there's no more periods ever, the down size is the push right into menspause- especaily the hotflashes. So ask the gynacologist about that as well and any questions or concerns you have. Good Luck ,I will be praying for you and your famil. Kim Schanbacher

Kay - posted on 05/21/2010

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You sound like you need some sort of contraception but as others have said, why not just a tubal ligation???? I had my son at 38 and desperately wanted another baby but it didn't happen. Then....my periods got very bad due to uterus problems [not cancer] and I became anemic and was in severe pain which got worse and worse as I turned 43 then 44 then 45...by then I realised my hope of another baby was over and my family begged me to do something to stop being so sick all the time from the incredible blood loss and pain. So...I gave in and went for the mirena IUD. It helped but only a bit so then the H word [hysterectomy] started being mentioned by doctors and family. But NO WAY. I am now 47 aqnd still will NOT have a hyster, because I feel like I will lose the whole purpose of my being ie. to produce children. I know it's not logical because I can't have any more kids anyway...but it's the psychological thing. I think I will feel less of a woman. Does anyone out there know what I mean? Anyway Elaine, these feelings are just mine and you may feel differently....Good luck with whatever you decide to do!

Darlene - posted on 05/21/2010

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Hello Elaine,
Just reading your post, and maybe you've already made a decision by now, but I just wanted to tell you that maybe your partner should re-think his fears about getting a vasectomy. My husband had one directly after we had our second child, and it was quick, painless, and he was not out of commission at all! In fact, we were in the bedroom the very next day! Our doctor encouraged him to go since it was I who had delivered 2 children, went through the pain of recovery after that and quite frankly, it was his turn to take some responsibility for birth control! Please reconsider a hysterectomy....it is quite drastic. I agree with the other ladies, that if he still refuses to do his part, a tubal would be much less invasive (or maybe you could just make him wear a condom for the rest of his life!!!)
good luck!

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I had a partial hystorectomy 5 months ago!! Still have my ovaries!! I had mine done by a machine called the Di Vicci. I have 4 small scars and it was done through belly button. It was a quick recovery. But I bet you mean a tubal ligation!! I find it kind of interesting that a doctor would recommend a hystrectomy just for birth control purposes!!! If that is the case I would get a second opinion!! I had one because I had extremely bad menstrations!! And even before I came to the decision to have a hystrectomy I was given at least 2 to 3 other options by my Dr. If this is the only thing they are recommending I would definitely get a second opinion!!! Good Luck!!

Miriam - posted on 05/21/2010

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If ur not having any problems, have ur tubes tied. Much simpiler than a hysterectomy.

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