Is it crazy to want another baby at 44?

Danielle - posted on 01/27/2010 ( 45 moms have responded )

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I'll be 44 in June and have a 4yr old daughter, 3 year old daughter and a 1 yr old daughter. How crazy it it to want another one at 44?

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Gabby - posted on 01/27/2010

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i was 43 when i had my last child i am now 49 and sometimes wish i never did!!! that is an honest answer on a personal level.

Jacqueline - posted on 07/08/2012

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I dont think so, as long as you have your health and a stable home life for the baby to grow up in. You know that you would be high risk and with that said you would have a greater chance of carrying a baby that may have some sort of birth defect. Knowing that though, if you feel that you want to share your love with another child, and are in it for the long haul no matter what, then why not? There have been so many medical advances in the past and women are having thier babies not only later into their careers but also well into their 40's. I myself am 44 and have a 3 year old. Hope this helped, Jacqueline.

Stephanie - posted on 01/02/2012

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Not crazy at all. I am 44. Will be 45 in in a couple of weeks. I have a 21 year old, 17, 7, and 3 year old. I am thing of having my fifth. I don't want to regret it when I'm older and really cant have another.

Susan - posted on 12/16/2011

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decided at 40 not to have more due to risk.I have three teens and adopted another child at birth (4 now).Two days after the adoption,I found out I was 20 weeks pregnant!I will turn 50 next month and have 16,13,13,4, and 3.True blessing from God and she is beautiful and perfect!Good luck.we weren't trying for one but i happened (won't happen again though.)

Lucy - posted on 09/04/2012

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If you are healthy and able you should try. I had my last baby at 42. I am a high risk pregnancy other wise I would have had more. She is 5 now and in kindergarten. I miss not having a little one. Plus they keep us young. when I look at people my age who have grandchildren older then mine I have to laugh at how old they seem.

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Darlene - posted on 03/17/2014

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I don't think your crazy going be 48 and want to try to! If u are happy and a new baby brings u joy go for it

Darlene - posted on 03/17/2014

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I'm going be 48 and have 2 adult children. And. I want to have a baby too! I am going to doctor hope they help me ! If having a baby brings Happiness go for it

Karen - posted on 03/14/2014

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I am 42 fixing to be 43 and ttc.We started ttc in Jan.2014.Please wish me luck:)

Kim - posted on 02/18/2014

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Not at all! I'm now 49 and had twins with IVF 10 months ago. I also have a naturally conceived 9 year old and 7 year old. If you want another baby, go for it. People are a little negative (if they kow my age), but who cares what other people think. There are no guarantees in life and longevity is one of them. You may or may not see another baby grow into middle age; but you sure can love him/her and be a great mom! And that is what matters at the end of the day.

Sophia - posted on 02/18/2014

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You know it's not crazy if you can deal with having one more baby. If you have a very supportive husband and he also wants one more go for it. It would only be crazy it you are already going crazy.

Theresa - posted on 01/23/2014

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Really congrats, Iam 48 years old, have 11 and 8 year old, I want to have another one. Iam I crazy! I started having my family late in life wish I would have started earlier. Should I give up on trying ?

Tracy - posted on 01/12/2014

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No I am 43 and would love to have another baby with my husband. I have three children from a previous marriage and would like one with my current husband. Read so much mixed information. See some inspirational stories but the dr readings aren't so inspiring.

Kimberlie - posted on 12/29/2013

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Really, congratulations! I'm 48 & just found out. Thinking I'm to old & a grandmother. Just really scared.

Molly - posted on 09/22/2013

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One main reason is FAMILY.. On my side there is just my mom and I. My married family is huge and close and that was another thing I loved. I am an only and I don't want my child to be and she asks. But she would be 7 and "people" say after 5 years diif., they are like only children. Do you agree?

Victoria - posted on 09/13/2013

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I am 44 and also trying! It has been frustrating, however. Do you have any tips on increasing the chances of getting a pregnancy up and running at this age? Every month we try and although it was easy for me to get pregnant in earlier years, I just can't seem to get a pregnancy started. I would love to hear from anyone else at our age who tried and tried and then succeeded! I want to get to that good egg!!

Shellyann - posted on 09/12/2013

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Hi I recently turned 42 and for the past year or so I've been think about having another one, I have three kids and my youngest is 13. I know at my age it would be a risk and with my thyroids been the way it my cycle is not the way it should or use to be. Some might say that I'm trying to make sure that I have someone to fill a void or just have another one after the others are gone, but that is really not the case. I love being a mom and love doing all the crazy things with kids and not just my own. Yes at times we fuss and complain but that all come with it.

Angel - posted on 09/11/2013

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Hi Danielle! I must be crazy too, because I had my second at 44 and I never gave up on having another one, even after I miscarried at 43! :) Born just 2 months shy of my 45th birthday, my lovely daughter is now 7 years old. As an advocate for women on the journey of motherhood after 40, I hear pregnancy stories from women of all ages, right up to 50 (after conceiving naturally)! However, you might like to read this ref. article from our support site which deals with the question: "How Long Can You Really Wait To Have A Baby?" by an author who is now on her 3rd pregnancy over 40! http://achildafter40.com/how-long-can-yo...
In the end, you should follow your gut and do what feels right for you! :)

Janice - posted on 09/09/2013

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your kids are still young so why not at 44, but why do you want a 4th child thats alot to handle to me at any age

Cevia - posted on 09/04/2013

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no not crazy im 52 and having another one we found out yesterday im 2 months preggers . he is thrilled and so am I .

Jeanette - posted on 09/03/2013

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I had my last one when I was 37. I sometimes,usually,feel like I was too old to have another baby. I'd never have one at 44. But obviously,different people have different thoughts and lives. Good luck with whatever choice you made. I see this post is years old. Did you have another baby?

Vicki - posted on 09/02/2013

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Not crazy at all-I have friends you have delivered naturally to healthy infants at 46 and 48. Go for it!

Donna - posted on 08/29/2013

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I am 43 and have been considering adoption, We have 8 and 10 year old boys. We both would like a little girl. However, adopting an infant seems nearly impossible. Is it crazy to chance having another child...health-wise I am in great shape. ~Donna~

Julissa - posted on 03/14/2013

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I'm 42 and I want to get my tubes untied and try and have another baby but I'm trying to save the money to get it done, am I too old I regret getting them tied I want another baby so bad does anyone have advise for me.

Linda - posted on 01/22/2013

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I don't think your crazy at all. Children are wonderful and women do have babies at that age. My cautious statement would be to look at the age of your kids and think about your ability to care for what could be a special needs child.

Sue - posted on 01/16/2013

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I have a 16yr old and a 5yr old both girls from a horrible abusive marriage that i left, I am 6 months pregnant with another girl! I really want my boy and want to try again but fear I'm too old as I am 43. All of my friends think I'm crazy as their kids are 12 and older and think I should enjoy adult life without a baby but I can't help it!

Bobbie - posted on 09/05/2012

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You ask just how crazy is it. I can't give you that percentage. LOL

We are all different as mothers but somethings seem to be universal. I think some of your emotions falls under the universal umbrella.

You have had an infant in your home for over 5 years. Now your baby girl is no longer an infant. You may simply miss that joyful time, the pregnancy, the breastfeeding and closeness.

Now, it can be that you don't feel this loss and just want another baby. Buy if you are feeling like you miss having an infant around I say STOP work through that emotion and see if you still want a baby when you littlest is in her terrible twos :)

Sonia - posted on 09/02/2012

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Edith love your story thanks for sharing ! Joey sounds gorgeous lucky boy to have such lovely parents!

Sonia - posted on 09/02/2012

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Hi I have had a couple of miscarriages at 43 and am going for third time lucky. yes I know the risks but better late than never. I especially would love a sibling for my just turned 7 year old!

Good luck to everyone trying! we can only hope

Edith - posted on 07/06/2012

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I am 64 years old with an 18 year old his dad is 70. When we found out this child was on the way I cried tears of joy because I wanted another child but at the same time felt we were to old to start over. Our only other child turned 19 a few weeks after our bundle of joy was born. I knew the chances of a disabled child and refussed to let the doctor test him because I know I was going to have this child and I knew the risk to my child in doing the test. Joey has Downs and is a joy to all around him. We have no regrets at all. The plans we were making for our retairment now sound boooorrring compaired to what is going on. Living each day looking at the world through his eyes is a joy I can not explain.

I know this sounds hard but it is best you know what may be ahead of you. To us the joy he gives us pays us back 1000% for the little we do for him. If you really want to have a child at your age remember there is a greater chance that your child could have a disability. Raising a child with a disability means 24/7 care maybe the rest of your life, pt, ot, and speach, even a teacher from a few weeks old until the child is out of school. If you are not ready to deal with the love a spical needs child can give and the extra work that goes with a special child, I advise you not to have a child at your age. Some parents can not deal with the problems a special needs child birngs. It makes me very angry knowing that some people can not take the pressures of a child with disabilities. I prefer to hear they gave the child to people who would love and care for this little blessing instead of aborting. There a lot of my facebook friends adopting children from other countries with Downs. A friend took 2 girls born in US with problems that the parents did not want. There are many people that love them with their whole heart. Some doctors will not treat you unless you have an amucent... (sorry I can not spell it) to check for disabilities then advise abortion if the test says yes. This test can cause you to loss the child. Check with the OB you want to use to find out his/her believes on this.

What ever you deside I wish God's blessings on you and yours. I know our Joey has been a blessing beyond measure.

Edith - posted on 07/06/2012

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I am 64 years old with an 18 year old his dad is 70. When we found out this child was on the way I cried tears of joy because I wanted another child but at the same time felt we were to old to start over. Our only other child turned 19 a few weeks after our bundle of joy was born. I knew the chances of a disabled child and refussed to let the doctor test him because I know I was going to have this child and I knew the risk to my child in doing the test. Joey has Downs and is a joy to all around him. We have no regrets at all. The plans we were making for our retairment now sound boooorrring compaired to what is going on. Living each day looking at the world through his eyes is a joy I can not explain.

I know this sounds hard but it is best you know what may be ahead of you. To us the joy he gives us pays us back 1000% for the little we do for him. If you really want to have a child at your age remember there is a greater chance that your child could have a disability. Raising a child with a disability means 24/7 care maybe the rest of your life, pt, ot, and speach, even a teacher from a few weeks old until the child is out of school. If you are not ready to deal with the love a spical needs child can give and the extra work that goes with a special child, I advise you not to have a child at your age. Some parents can not deal with the problems a special needs child birngs. It makes me very angry knowing that some people can not take the pressures of a child with disabilities. I prefer to hear they gave the child to people who would love and care for this little blessing instead of aborting. There a lot of my facebook friends adopting children from other countries with Downs. A friend took 2 girls born in US with problems that the parents did not want. There are many people that love them with their whole heart. Some doctors will not treat you unless you have an amucent... (sorry I can not spell it) to check for disabilities then advise abortion if the test says yes. This test can cause you to loss the child. Check with the OB you want to use to find out his/her believes on this.

What ever you deside I wish God's blessings on you and yours. I know our Joey has been a blessing beyond measure.

Sara - posted on 01/04/2012

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I dont think it is crazy since I had my last child at 43 1/2, I even know someone who was 47. It all depends on your health, and your mind set who cares what others may say, It is all up to you in the end.

Rochele - posted on 01/03/2012

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I believe as long as you are healthy and you know you have the love and affection to share GO FOR IT!!! I'm 43 and divorced with a 26, 23, 14 and 2 year old. If Mr. Right came along now I might consider having another little person.

Fiona - posted on 01/02/2012

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I have 11 children, whose ages range from 23 to 9 month old twins. I had my last set of twins at 47! My gran had a baby at 47 my husbands mum had her twins at 46. I had a baby at 40, a miscarriage at 41, and a baby at 42.5 months as well. I would gladly have more as my twins are wonderful.

Both Myself and my husband are teachers as well, and I run a charity too.

Robin - posted on 12/28/2011

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I'm 43 and just had a 12/12/11 baby. I can understand it! Although with a 1-year-old already, and a 4 and 3 year-old, I admire your energy! I have a 3.5 year old and tried for 2 years for the second, but I think I will be busy enough with number 2 now. Perhaps if I weren't a working mom...

Lisa - posted on 12/19/2011

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I will be 44easy in February and I would consider another if I knew he/she would be healthy. My first and only will be 344easy in Feb...so No you're not crazy!

Lisa - posted on 12/19/2011

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I will be 44easy in February and I would consider another if I knew he/she would be healthy. My first and only will be 344easy in Feb...so No you're not crazy!

Cherie - posted on 12/16/2011

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I think it all depends on the person. Me personally, I will be 44 in only a week, and I couldn't imagine having another one. My daughter is now 15 and my son is 12 and a handful at that with him having autism. Yes the thought hit me a few times I will admit that, but then I think the whole thing though and know I just don't have the energy I had in my 30's.

Heather - posted on 12/14/2011

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It took ten years for me to have my daughter that I just had last Feb. I didn't think I would love it so much. Now I want another too. I will be 40 in March.

Danielle - posted on 01/29/2010

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well i just came from the doctor and she says go for it. now i just have to talk my husband into it. i'm not sure i will be so lucky in the department. i think he just wants his/our lives back after have 3 babys in 4 1/2 years. but we'll see what he thinks.

Debbie Ann - posted on 01/28/2010

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not; I tried but just couldnt have anymore.Good luck.Dont worry about what anyone else thinks it is your life your time your happiness.Enjoy your life....

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As long as you are healthy and capable of having a child then you are not crazy. I am 42 and want another child. We have a 3 year old and are currently trying for another.

Kimberley - posted on 01/27/2010

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Hummm I am wondering the same question myself. I started out having childeren early my oldest is 20 then 18 and after a 20 year marrage ended. I met the true Love of my life. We now have a beautiful 14 month old. I will be 43 this May, so is it crazy to want another beautiful child or should we be happy with our wonderful family we have now? Either way I am glad to know there are other moms out there like myself.

Sheri - posted on 01/27/2010

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For me? not crazy at all...but then I had #6 when I was 41, & I know some folks think I am crazy....and I still struggle w/ " is this suppose to be our last one?" (I'll be 44 in Sept). Ultimately it is up to you & your husband & the good Lord above =)

You may be an 'older' mom (odd saying, eh?), but you have several littles to handle...need suppposrt, encouragement, or just bouncing ideas off one another, shoot me a message anytime ;^)

~Sheri

homeschool mom of ds 21, ds 16, ds 12, dd 8, ds 5 ds 1

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