JK at school Idea!

Eva - posted on 09/27/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My son is 3.8 years old and just started JK. I received instructions from teachers what shoes should he wear (one that he can remove and put alone no laces because god forbit it would untight itself and one of the teacher would have to tight it up) , how he should take care of himself (wipping his behind after big one. he should listen the first time something was said to him and follow directions immediately. The teacher will not bend her back and tight his shoe laces, she will not wippe it, she will not tell the second time over whatever she demands of him. After the first day I heard complain that he doesn't listen. After 3 days I was told the same and my son was deliberately kept near to hear this. I was told that he makes 'stinky smile' whenever he is reprimanded. (He is confused and sometimes doesn't really follow english we are second language speekers and he hears 3 other languages on a daily bases. But who cares!? ) Who would care to read child's info. This was told in front of him. Is it only me or teachers are out of touch with reality and only want to make their day easier putting those demands on kids at this stage of development? Are your kids this age wipping they butts and always listening? Do you have impression that something is wrong with JK and the way it works? Don't they want those kids to grow up faster than they are able to? The canadian governement did us a great favor making kindergarten free of charge at school or this is a nasty trap design to rip our children of their childhood and prepare them as soon as possible to be compliant. Kindergarten teachers be it in daycare or at school suppose to provide appropriate care to children suitable to their ages. Please comment ...is it a very radical opinion? Am I alone with this? People who think that we immigrants have no say may shove it ...we pay taxes specifically towards educational purposes and should have better quality schools. And about the 'free' daycare at school... Germany, Sweden and many other countries have it almost free...costing 100$, full day in a nice clean place ...where sure kids butts are wipped. On top of that mothers work only 75% of total work load so they can pick kids from school or daycare not to have additional expenses and hassle with after class care!

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Rhonda - posted on 09/28/2011

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Ewa, all three of my children started preschool at the age of 2 years old. To attend school, it was a requirement that they were able to tie their own shoes and wipe their own butt. My husband and I took great care in making sure our children could do these things. I supplied a extra clothes just in case it didn't work out, but it was an unusual occurance if they were used. I also understood that these were going to be the requirements when school came into consideration. The purpose of school is to provide an educational foundation for students, the assumption is that parents are responsible for their developmental foundation. May I also add that I paid as much as $120 a week for school. No free school was provided. I guess what I'm saying that it is the parents responsibility to prepare your child to start school, that is not the school's job. Teacher's are trained to educate your child. It is unreasonable to expect special care to be given to your child when other students in the class a prepared to comply with the rules already. I agree it may take some time for your son to get used to his new environment and new rules, but the responsibility fall on you to make that happens, but the teachers. If coddling is what you are looking for, then maybe a nanny would be more appropriate for you.

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Eva - posted on 09/28/2011

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Thank you Ronda. I wish I would be able to homeschool but it is not possible right now and in this country it is not so easy as i in the US from that what I have heard.

Rhonda - posted on 09/28/2011

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No offense taken at all. And although I find my kids to be exceptional, they just regular kids. My kids are now 18, 15, and 11 year old, so I hope they have perfected wiping their butt too. (lol) One trick I used to use with the youngest one was purchasing baby wipes and putting them next to the toilet paper. I taught him to use the dry paper twice then the wet then the dry again. The wet wipes gave him confidence that he could do it on his own. When he went to school, I put a travel pack in his backpack. When he didn't think he did a good job, he would get his wipes. We used the wipes until he was 7 or 8 years old. But I no longer had to worry about it at school.

My husband taught all the kids to tie their shoes at between two and three years old. I remember because my daughter would get so frustrated when it wasn't perfect. If you are unsatisfied with the structured learning environment provided, why not home-school? It is becoming a common method of education here in the US. I know many parents who home-school now and their kids are happier for it. That is the only way you can have total control over what and when your child learns.

Eva - posted on 09/28/2011

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Thank you Rhonda for your response. I congratulate you on training your 3 children to wippe their butts at 2 years old! This is absolute miracle and I hope their are not walking with half the job done. Most kids learn that at 5-6years old so your kids are exceptional. Tighing shoes and the other thing is not in my opinion special care but normal care for this stage of development and if our government provide schooling at this age they suppose to make sure that they provide appropriate care. I do not care if it is free and don't think I should be grateful since it is a low quality care and education. I wish to be able to pay for a good care like in other places in the world when governments do not push kids to grow up as fast as possible but on their own pace meaning like normal kids. Then they grow up as normal human beings not neurotic, blindly obedient, thoughtless sheeple. Do not get offended please ..I care and see mistakes that is why I talk...

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