Maudie - posted on 08/26/2009 ( 1 mom has responded )
My daughter is guardian of 3 children because of divorce in her husband's family. The husband's mother said she would help when she wasn't working and would help in the evenings. When she gets home from she takes an hour to get to my daughter's house she's just in time for dinner and plays with the baby (7 months old) and that's all she does. She doesn't even help clean up dishes, or bathe the kids. She doesn't cook any meals. On Saturdays, (her days off) she sleeps half the day and goes to the house if she feels like it. She then on Sundays goes home after church and takes a nap. I know my daughter asked for this but this mom & grandma gets tired of babysitting a couple of them everyday when she doesn't do anything. I've let my daughter know that she is being taken advantage of by her mother-in-law but she says it's okay. If it's so okay why does she ask for help from me? I love my own granddaughter (2) and will love and take care of the new one coming, but how do we tell them no. The kids have been us so much they call us grandma & grandpa and would rather be with us than with the real grandparents. How do we handle this without alienting our son-in-law, who we love like our own son.