Moms whom feel like she is out there all alone at times.

Wonda - posted on 11/23/2010 ( 16 moms have responded )

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I have no female friends. My daughter has turned 20 and does not like to hang out with mom anymore. Hubby works sometimes long hours.I really hate my job and my boss. I and just really disgusted with my life right now. It seems like every time I turn around something is going wrong in my life. Nothing I do is right or good enough.People at my job are trying to get me fired. What am i to do?

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Louise - posted on 11/26/2010

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I think you need to be proactive in your life and start making steps to better your life. First of all look for another job it sounds bloody awful having to go to work with people that are so spiteful. Second look around and find a social club that you are interested in joining. I know this is difficult but you need to get out into the world and socialise. I do not know you but a few groups are things like night school to learn a language or dancing classes or voluntary work with an organisation like St Johns Ambulance service. You need something that will relieve stress and get you a social life. Take those steps today and tomorrow you will be on day one of your new life. It's a big step to take but boy will it make a difference to you. Good Luck!

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Mary - posted on 12/10/2010

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Exercise!!!!! Join a gym and take some classes. Meet other women there. If you cannot afford to join a gym get out and walk. Exercise will help your mood and clear your mind. When you feel good about yourself it will radiate and be contagious.

Karen - posted on 12/10/2010

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i feel the same way i lost my husband in 2004 and my children are now 20 and 22 and it does make me feel alone cause they do what they got to do to make themself happy

VicTORIa - posted on 12/05/2010

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One good thing you are already doing for yourself is to reach out to the women on this site. I agree that going to a local college and taking a class is one way to meet like minded people, just as joining a reading group at a local library, trying a water aerobics, or yoga class at a rec center; volunteering at a local hospital, soup kitchen, recreation center, open space group, school, or church could be good places to start new relationships. There are groups who play Bunco, (a game played with dice), cooking groups, travel groups, and even groups who help people who are trying to learn English... You could travel by train, which encourages meeting new people, to see some place in the country that you have been wanting to visit...maybe your daughter would even want to come along. I took my teen daughters on a road trip over a year ago, and hope to do it again one of these years... But I have started to reconnect with old friends in New York and relatives in Sweden, France and Germany using Facebook. I think that I would like to go visit some of my women cousins someday soon... The first step...is to take the first step out of your house, take a deep breath, and plunge into something. Good luck!

Tamara - posted on 12/04/2010

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i uderstand very much how you feel becaus feeling just like that at the very early age of 38 now iam 45 years with 11 grands and my husband just doesnot understand now what i did aboutthe jb well i took tim and a lo of research to find the best work from home job or be you own boss that works so now i wok for myself that wa one thing taken care of bcause in todyas world your hr dept or superviser are gettin younger and youger then you and feel like hey can speak to you any kind of way and i am looking t this person saying to myself i have kids older then you i coul not take it no more and i found that once i went it to business for my selfi have friens i get ou the house now and hang around people my age and it is just grat i hope that this helps you it might be that you need a changein your life likme me i was a waling time bomb

Michelle - posted on 12/02/2010

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I know how you feel. My kids have all moved out, and I have no female friends either.
I like scrapbooking. So I enjoy doing my hobby when hubby is at work. Also reading is a great wscape for me. Im not a person who goes out alot in the winter, but find things you enjoy doing. Volunteer work is a wonderful way to meet new people, and do something great for someoe.
Good luck
Michelle

Tracy - posted on 11/30/2010

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Put you first do your best and keep track of that at all times. Smile in the face of back stabbing. In the mean time get a craft or hobby as some like to call it. Find somthing that you are passionate about that makes you happy. Look for something better while you are holding your head high at work never let them know you are bothered by their actions or lack of action.

AnnaMarie - posted on 11/29/2010

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@Louise Gough Louise Gough is right on when she said you need to find some place to volunteer. It is when we can get our minds off ourselves that we can become whole. The best way to do that is to help others.
What is it you like to do? Do you like music, reading, people, nature, animals? We all have special gifts. What are yours? I would say Louise is a care giver that is why she is so satisfied in what she is doing. If you want to be satisfied you need to find something that is meaningful to you. What makes your heart say YES!!!!!!!! Find some way you can do it. Volunteer first and then look for a way to make money at it. If you seek it, you will find it.

Patricia - posted on 11/29/2010

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Being lonely can truly be rough...and when our children reach the age when they "think" they do not need to hang around us anymore...that "empty nest syndrome" kicks us HARD!!! It is a very difficult time of a mother's life when the children are no longer asking us for help and guidance....needing us to place a bandaid on their boo-boos....cuddle them and make eveything better....I am speaking from the voice of experience...a mother of son age 25 with a wife and daughter 2 1/2; oldest daughter age 23 with her BF and daughter age 3 and the last one at home turns 18 in February and graduates....WOW!!! The empty nest syndrome has REALLY been hitting me HEAD ON lately! Especially now at Christmas time....I think a lot about the many happy Christmas memories spent with my children...although I am now a Nana and do look forward to spending time with my children and their families...there seems to be that empty space inside of me that truly misses leaving cookies and milk out for Santa...lol
I have found that sometimes it helps to find some soothing relaxing music...positive songs that pick me up! Creating something like a memory book....is a really great way to go back into the past and enjoy those motherhood memories!! You may even suggest that your daughter and you spend time together one day collecting picutures and scrapbooking together then take her out to lunch and a movie perhaps!! Relax! Enjoy! Text you daughter everyday as well...always remind her that you LOVE HER!!! :-)
God Bless you!!
Always here for you!!
email me anytime!!
Trish

Dorrie - posted on 11/28/2010

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Hang in there. If you have higher power, call on that power to help you. I know it may seem like things will not get better, but they do. I've been were you are and it can seem like you are just baling water. Watch a movie that gives you a great feeling. I like old movies, so Arsenic and Old Lace or Abbott and Costello Meet the Mummy. Choose one for you. I put some good thought cards on the mirror to start my day with, everything from you look marvelous to imagine the boss with warts. I'll pray and hope things get better.

Carol - posted on 11/27/2010

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EMS = emergency medical services. Sorry I didn't write it out. Volunteer departments are always in need of help. I joined first as a first responder which only required 50+ hours of class and it was broken down over a three month period so it wasn't that bad. When I realized I enjoyed the work and the department was more in need of emergency technicians I took the extra classes to move up a step which allowed me to provide medical care to patients while being transported to the hospital. I've never felt I made a mistake in doing this and it's given back much more than it's taken. There are plenty of area's in which you can volunteer. It's a great way to meet new people, try new things and learn about others...even yourself. Most fire departments have social members who help with fundraisers and such. Hospitals need volunteers.. animal shelters can always use help and at times even need emergency shelter for animals.. so many things you could do that you would enjoy and leave you feeling like you did a part in making things better for someone. Think about something you enjoy and find an organization that fits in that area.

Carol - posted on 11/27/2010

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I agree with Louise in on everything. I have so much that I could say but I'd write a book :) I will say that volunteering is one of the things that can be so very rewarding. I'm so glad that I looked into EMS I learned so much about me while helping others.

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