Mum over 40 with younger children

Tanja - posted on 06/27/2009 ( 88 moms have responded )

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I am a 44 year old Mom of a 6 year old daughter and a 2 year 10 month old daughter. Are there any more Mums over 40 with children of all ages??? Let's chat...

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Sophia - posted on 11/24/2012

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yes and its wonderful ... but hard.. because children needs never change they want you to play with them,take them to birthday party,have party for them, they need you to be on the move.. and its only right.. you cant be an old lady then they will feel left out ...

Cristina - posted on 08/06/2009

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Hello, I'm 46 and I have 4 kids. They are 11, 9, 7 and 3 years old. I started late, but I'm feeling young and happy! I'm Italian and moved to the States 10 years ago, after marrying an American. We now live near Nashville in Tennessee.

I do not find it too difficult find moms around my age with kids, it looks like nowdays there are a lot of older moms with young kids, must be a new trend! :-)

Hope to see you all around!

Cristina

Marilyn - posted on 07/30/2009

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Antoinette, I am very, very happy for you! I wish you and your wonderful family much happiness.

Carol T. - posted on 07/30/2009

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I'm a 51 yr old Mom with an almost 12 yr. old daughter. She is a beautiful girl but very difficult because she has adhd and a few other issues so life is a challenge day to day.

Carol - posted on 07/29/2009

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hi i have five children i am 49 and my eldest is 28 ,26,24 ,12 and 10 so as you can see i have spread my family right out my 24 year old daughter is also the mother of a 3 yr old boy and a 5 yr old girl so i am also a nanny too. when i was pregnant for my 12 yr old son i was made to feel very old at 36 and when his sister arrived i was 39 and every thought she was my eldest daughters child .

Teresa - posted on 07/28/2009

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44 here with 3 kids. 7,5 and 3. Boy, Girl, Girl...respectively. Glad to see there are more of us out there. I can relate to all of you. Though it seems to be getting a bit better. I have met some "mommies again" type moms. They have an 16 or older child and then have a little one too around 5 or sometimes younger. Those mommies are around my age and I can relate much better with them then those 20 somethings or even some of the younger 30 somethings. So it's so nice to see more of us out there. People that were born in our generation that know the stuff we know and know when people used to listen to LPs and even 8 track tapes.... etc... I'm waiting for the day when someone thinks I am my own children's grandmother. I don't feel I look that old but to a 20 something ...you never know.

Marilyn - posted on 07/28/2009

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Hi, guys. I'm 45 and have boys aged 7, 6, and 4 and a daughter turning 3 this week. Although I'm in LA, I'm part of a community where people tend to marry and have their children very early, so many of my peers are becoming grandparents now. Still, we're not ready till we're ready, and I wouldn't trade this life for anything -- even if it does get mighty crazy sometimes! We married relatively late and have had all the children we could to this point -- 4 in 4 1/2 years. If I were to get pregnant again, even though I'm almost 46, I would be very happy. Children are a precious gift, and it's a good life. I'm really happy to see all the people on this site who get that. Good luck to everyone!

Inge - posted on 07/28/2009

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Hi, I'm nearly 41 and have two young sons, one of 2,5 and one of 7 months. And I definately dont feel like an old mom ;-)

Christine - posted on 07/28/2009

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I am 39, and have a 8 month old daughter, and I would like to have another baby in a few years! I met my husband later in life, but I don't regret that I waited to have children-I am older, wiser, and I think a better mommy for doing it! I also had a lot of fun when I was younger, traveling, and enjoying myself! Now I enjoy myself in a different way! It is wonderful, and I feel very priviledged to be a mom!

Cheryl - posted on 07/28/2009

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hi Tanja, well i'm 55 now had my first child at 18 , four in 8 yrs.then had a long break & when i was about 3 months off turning 40 , had my 5th child & 21 months later at the age of nearly 42 had my 6th & last child.my eldest is now 38 yrs old,then 36,32,29,16 & 14.the 4th child was nearly 14 when i had the 5th child.so it is a bit of a mixture in my case.i found alot of young mums at pre-school & kindy who really were young in mind as well.i did however meet a lovely group of mums who were closer to my age group ,we still meet once every 2 months for coffee & breakfast now that our kids attend different high-schools.

Antoinette - posted on 07/27/2009

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Hi! I am 44 years old! I have a 4 year old son and a 2 year old daughter! Doctors told me that I couldn't have kids and we kept trying and I am so blessed. I have been married for 23 years too! People were shocked when we finally had kids! We had waited so long that people had stopped asking when we were going to have them! They are the light of my life and I am so lucky and blessed to be a mom. I have both younger and older mom friends. I live in California so it isn't unusual to see older mom here with younger kids! I read every single post on here and it made me feel so good to see so many older moms with younger kids!!

Laura - posted on 07/27/2009

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im new here but i know what ur are going through

my 6yr is starting the copy the big boys personality

habit not to bad but still have an issue with the football games

with the 12 yrs olds

Loretta - posted on 07/27/2009

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Hi! I am a 41 year old Mom of a 2 1/2 year old. I don't think I look old enough to be a grandma but I get "Is he your grandson?" or "Is he yours?". Does anyone else get this and what would your reply be?

Kim - posted on 07/27/2009

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Hi, i am 46 and have 5 children .All birthed by me and fathered by the same husband. The oldest girl is 20, next is 18, 16 yr old boy, 14yr old girl and an awesome guy 8 yrs old. My 18 yr old is expecting and her and the baby will still live at home.

Susanne - posted on 07/27/2009

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I don't know how dire the situation was with you. My initial reaction to your post was that doctors are always telling women not to have more children. Perhaps you can get a second opinion. And to answer your question, no, nobody has asked me if I were the grandmother, but they've asked my husband if he's the grandfather. His hair is grey.

Lisa - posted on 07/27/2009

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Over weight pregant @37, now almost 41, mommy of a soon tobe 4yr. Felt best i had ever in my life had very little weightgain. Carreied in my back, had a cesection 22min long one. Dr said i was very lucky wiht little blood loss. Her advise was should not try this again, i would love too have one more. Do i listen or count my blessing an later explain why he never had a sbbling. Also, Do u all get Oh is that you grandchild?

Susanne - posted on 07/27/2009

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Hi Tanja,

I'm 50 with 6 kids aged 9-24. I refuse to stop dying my hair because I can't stand the thought of people thinking I'm the grandmother. Like many of the other women who have posted, I have friends and relatives in my age group that are empty-nesters. I will be in my sixties before that happens. I don't envy them. I have to stay vital and keep life exciting for my younger children. I'm not ready for the next stage of life anyway. Good luck to you. You're blessed.

Alicia - posted on 07/27/2009

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Hiya. I had my two girls when I was 41 and 43 respectively. They are now 7 and 5 and I am approaching 50 next year. Its scary! But I am hoping they'll keep me looking and acting younger. But yes at school wish they're were more mums my age. They're mostly in their mid to late 30's. But at least no one has asked if I'm the girls grandma yet!!

Lysette - posted on 07/27/2009

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I am a 41 year old mother of an 8 year old boy part time since I share him with his dad. Sometimes I feel out of the loop when he has activities when he is not with me. The only sport he palys is soccer and I go to some games. I try to get my son into activities like karate, pottery, piano lessons or outdoors activities or with other group setting but he refuses. He prefers to play at home or if we are with family. Is there a better way to change his play activities?

Sandy - posted on 07/26/2009

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Hi, It's a lonely world being older with little ones. I have 7 total the first five almost all grown but I also have a 4 year old and my adopted son is 2. I will be 50 in October. I have been looking like a site or a group like this. I belong to a mom's group but they are all my daughters age.

Bonnie - posted on 07/26/2009

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I will be 44 in October and my daughter will be 4 in September. BUt i tell people I have lost 10 years...LOL

Pamela - posted on 07/25/2009

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Howdy, I am 41 with a 10 year old boy, 8 year old girl, and a 14 month old boy, and life is never boring!

Nancy - posted on 07/25/2009

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Hi, I am a 47 year old mom with a 27, 24,12 year old daughters and an 18 year old son. Now here comes the good part I have a grandchild that is 27 days younger then my youngest. Yes we was pregnant at the same time and no it was nothing like father of the bride it was better. I was afraid our youngest would notice that her friends parents were alot younger but so far she dosent seem to notice or care.

Phyllis - posted on 07/25/2009

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Hi,I am 45 and 2 kids,one is 23 and the other is 8.The oldest doesn't have any kids(THANK GOD)and the 8 yr.old has autism and is doing fine.He is starting the 3rd.grade in a few weeks,he is an A & B student, very funny and loving.I was not ready with the first one,still going out myself,but with him I had already settled down,but a surprise just the same,but a good one. I wouldn't trade them for anything in the world.And yes someone asked me was I his grandmother,my reply was yes,I am the one who had the pain.

Wendy - posted on 07/25/2009

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Hello, I am 49 with a six year old daughter and an 8 year old boy. I also have a thirty year old daughter who will have my first grandchild in Aug. You are definitely not alone. praise God

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Hi! I'm 45yrs and I have 3 daughters ages 24, 21 and yes 7yrs old. I also have two grandkids ages 2 and 3. Yes and it is hard to make friends since everyone is much younger than I am with small children. I need some adult conversation!!!!

Tracy - posted on 07/25/2009

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I am 44 with a 2 year old, 5 year old and a 14 year old!. It keeps me young, I love it. I'm tired ALOT, but love it.

Traci - posted on 07/25/2009

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i am a single mom of 2 children almost 9 and 7 i know exactly how hard it is ! i find it hard to get out in general because most of the women my age or couples for that matter have already raised their kids . but ilove my children to death and am greatful to have them !

Louise - posted on 07/25/2009

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Hi Helen! Thanks for your reply, I know exactly where you are coming from. I knew my son was different at 3 months. he was very different but friends, relatives, husband in fact everyone told me i was crazy, (i believed them for a time too,!!) I persued this, and it wasn't until he was almost 7!! yes 7, that he was diagnosed as having autism and attention defacit!

I have cried, and even begged doctors to look at him, social services said my hubby (of 18 years) was abusing him thats why he said wierd things! then the breakthrough came when I changed his school, instantly he was given the help he oh so needed and things are a whole lot better. but it's been a struggle just to get the help he needed. I wouldn't change him for the world though.

Julie - posted on 07/25/2009

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Howdy

Im a 43 year old mum of a 9 year old girl, also have a 20 and 18 year old daughters who have left home for their own lives.

Didnt think i would have a 3rd child and when it happened all that time down the track boy was I in for a shock. Not as young as I used to be lol.

Cindy - posted on 07/25/2009

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I am 43 I have an almost 6 year old. We are done with her. I think my patience isn't there to have anymore. Plus I enjoy just having her.

Helen - posted on 07/25/2009

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hey louise, i have friend who has an autistic child....i know how diificult it is raising a child with autissm and the impact it has on your marriage and your family as well. it is sooo hard to cope with such difficulties...especially at our age. my 3.5 year old has a speech delay. i knew at 12 months that he had a problem but everyone....friends, family ...even my husband told me that its all in my head and that he will talk eventually. i trusted my intuition, took him to a dr, then a hearing test and then he was evaluated by early intervention and i was right!!. he has been getting therapy since he was 17 months and just recently i found out that he was tounge tied on top of everything else. i was so upset that no dr nor therapist ever detected it. he needed to have surgery but hes getting better...thank god....he still has a long way to go. but u need tons of patience, love and alot of tlc because they get so fustrated when they try to express themselves and we dont understand them. i understand your struggles in your everyday life.....u need to give yourself a pat on the back....

Dawn - posted on 07/25/2009

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Hi Tanja, I am 43 years old, I have 4 children 24,20,18,10 my 24 yr old has bi-polar and is choatic my husband and I have chosen to help out his on off girlfriend with their kids she lives with us and all three of their kids 5, 2, 2 months, so I find now my energy level gets sucked right out of my at times. Having Bi-polar myself staying on my meds is key but I believe we need to stick together for the best. My 10 is a trooper he gets good grades sometimes I thing I see sighs of Bi-polar so I keeping an eye out for that. On day I told my Mom she lied to me she told me when my kids turned 18 they would leave they didn't LOL not all the way. Woman are built tough kids bring that out in us..we just need to find the grove and flow with it..

Louise - posted on 07/25/2009

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Wow! Helen!

before kids I wanted 10!!!!! However my son has Autissm and Atention defacit!

It was apparent from birth that he was different. I seriously could not cope with more than 2 kids, aspecially since he has this problem. You would not believe the problems we have had to overcome! it's been well hard.

Helen - posted on 07/24/2009

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i hear ya...louise....lol. i have 4 of my own and 2 step children...4 of them are teenagers and the other 2 are toddlers........talk about hard work.....

Louise - posted on 07/24/2009

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OH YES!

I am 44 yrs old, and have a 5 yr old girl, and a 7 yr old boy!!! hard work!

but love it!

I wouldn't have another thrown at me! ha ha

Helen - posted on 07/24/2009

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hey lisa.....i do. first time around was sooo much easier....i was young and had so much patience and now it seems that being older, and working and being somewhat less patient makes things difficult and just harder to cope. can u relate to me?

Lisa - posted on 07/23/2009

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I am 41 Mom with a 6 year old and 2 year old daughters. Do you find it difficult being an older Mom?

Helen - posted on 07/23/2009

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i am a 40 year old mom....turning 41 in sept. i have 6 children. a 17 year old and a 13 year old from my previous marriage....i had them in my early - mid 20s . i also have 3.5 year old and a 22 month old boys which keep me busy and always on my toes. as well, i have 2 stepchildren - ages 14 and 11 - boys. id love to chat with moms my age who have young children....anyone out there interested?

Christine - posted on 07/20/2009

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i'm 46, my husband is 53, and we have 11 children between the 2 of us. he had two, now 35 and 33, each with a little boy of their own, i had two, now 26 and 23, one of them married. together we have a boy 20, identical twin girls 18, girl 14, boy 11, girl 9 girl 5. our twins are leaving to college this fall and i will be down to the 4 youngest kids at home. i kind of feel like i've stepped back in time a little because my oldest at home will only be in 9th grade and the youngest is just starting kindergarten. my 26 year old still lives with us, but pays rent. he has alot of anxiety and depression and is having trouble moving on in life. such a gentle and kind boy, but he really struggles.



i have a good friend that is 25 years old, she said that she and her friends actually used to stalk my son (not in the bad way) beacause one of her friends had a crush on him. she about died of embarrassement when she found out he was my son!! she has two young boys under 5. one night we were sitting on our glider and she was sitting between me and one of my twin girls. she made the comment that she really didn't feel that much older than my daughter, but that she didn't feel that much younger than me, either. i think that motherhood unites alot of people when they have children of similar ages----regardless of their own age.

Margarita (Magi) - posted on 07/20/2009

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I can definitely identify with mothers stand out in the playgroup. I'm 48 and have a 3-year-old daughter. My husband and I adopted her two years ago. She is the light of our lives.

Christine - posted on 07/20/2009

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Hi i'm a mum for the first time. I had Joshua when i was 42 and I'm loving it so much i would like to have more but i had pre eclampsia with him and he was 8 weeks premature. Am i being selfish and should be happy with him? Chris

Dee - posted on 07/20/2009

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Hi, I'm 47 and have a soon to be 4 year old daughter (OMG can't believe she will be 4 in August) and a two year old son...I love every minute of my time with them. I'm glad I waited....a bit to selfish in my 20's to even think about having kids...now I'm older and wiser and can appreciate the precious gifts that I have. I love being a older mom!!

Gina - posted on 07/19/2009

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Hey, I have three children.. My oldest is 22 yrs old, middle is 18yrs old and my youngest is almost 3 yrs old. I am 41 yrs old and here we go again!lol

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