My 5 and 6 year old children whine! How can I teach them to stop doing this!?!?!

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Louise - posted on 06/23/2012

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Don't react at all when they do this, wait for them to stop grizzling and then take notice of them. The minute they start to whine be quite firm and say stop that noise, I taught you how to talk properly stop grizzling like a baby. Then walk away and let them think about this. When they stop ask them what the problem is and then discuss it as best you can. If you always meet the whineing with a negative outcome they should stop in time!

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Dierdre - posted on 07/03/2012

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Definitely don't let the whining continue, it becomes habit. I know some adults that whine. I have found they don't always know they sound like, so I have whined back at them and let them listen to what it sounds like. Its annoying. Then say you don't want to hear them talk like that and when they are ready to speak to you with a regular voice, you will listen. Not so much of an advocate on punishment for this sort of thing. We are teachers, we need to teach our children right from wrong. This is a teaching moment.

Sharleen - posted on 06/29/2012

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Ok .....When the make noises that you consider whining get down to their level and say PLease use your words to speak to me and tell me whats wrong then we can sort it out......If you cant tell me whats wrong then we cant sort it out .
They are big enough to ask for nice things so they are big enough to say what is wrong
Good Luck

Christina - posted on 06/29/2012

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Hi Karin! I agree with Louise's tactic, but I would also pull out my "mommy drill Sgt" mode. (haha). I can imagine it's like getting tag-teamed, and you didn't mention if you had one boy and one girl or two the same gender. Boys are hard-headed, but girls are emotionally hard-headed (lol) I would take the eldest to another room (your bedroom, bathroom, garage, or even outside on the front porch) and say "listen here, I have told you more than once to stop whining, but you keep doing it! This is your only warning before you get ( add in consequence), do you understand me??" Do the same with the youngest one, and make sure the other child isn't around when you talk to each of them separately. Remember, there's courage in "team" efforts so remove the "team" and deal one-on-one.

You've also not mentioned where hubby was (if there is one). Perhaps, if he's a good "enforcer" you could use him as back up? If not, practice your "game face"! LOL...Take care, Christina

Ramona - posted on 06/29/2012

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Louise is right, don't let the whine win out. I always told my kids that they can some to me when they want to speak in a proper tone, then I will listen.

Ramona - posted on 06/29/2012

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Louise is right, don't let the whine win out. I always told my kids that they can some to me when they want to speak in a proper tone, then I will listen.

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