My firstborn is leaving the nest!!

Elaine - posted on 07/14/2009

Yes just help her to move, she will also be excited and sad. When my Firstborn son left home, I was heartbroken for a few days. I could not go into his room without crying but this is a natural reaction and it passes. As the other 2 left it is the same feeling but you know what to expect and you feel proud that they are doing it all on their own and you have achieved all you wanted as they grew up.

Barb - posted on 07/14/2009

You have to let go. Give her encouragement but let her know you you are always there for her. My two youngest (both 18) left last month for the military. I think the hardest is not being able to talk to them everyday.

Patty - posted on 07/13/2009

Oh you'll cry. But think of it as the moment when you left home to start on your own. They will come visit more often if close enough to home. you will actually see more of them. Mondy worries? oh they will let you know if they need it. I know it hurts...will for a little while, only cause you need to be needed inthat way. it will fade

Jodi - posted on 07/13/2009

don't let her go!! mine left as 1 person and came back with 2 extras!! keep 'em home forever!! all kidding aside, it is very scarey, but i finally realized, with my daughters help, that it was time for me to live my life! both girls encouraged me to go do the things i have always wanted to do, but put off!! i felt guity at first, but in time, i started having a blast!! now they can't keep up with me!

Regina - posted on 07/13/2009

I have 5 children ranging from 35 to 28 and one by one when they left for college or just to move on I struggled real hard but the hardest was my baby I just didnt want to face that empty nest syndrom , and I did, but in time you learn they still call it home and treat it as home and as long as you keep the love going you both can make it through this together .

Diana - posted on 07/13/2009

i had a hard time when my son got his driver's licens, the time goes so fast, i can reber when they were babies. now you hope what you tought them sinks in, I know i will cry when they leave the nest.

Kimberley - posted on 07/12/2009

When my son left for the Army it was very difficult, especially since you can't talk to them for weeks. You get a 2 minute phone call to let you know they've arrived at the base and then nothing for WEEKS! But I just kept myself busy and that helped. Every day I had something I wanted to accomplish (clean out a closet, whatever) and I made sure I did it. Then I had something to concentrate on other than the fact that I hadn't heard his voice in 12 days, 13 days, 14 days.... You get the picture!

Linda - posted on 07/12/2009

My two children have fled the nest and although it took me a long time to ajust with the quite, and time to my self, I feel happy that they are now in happy relationships, with lives of there own, dont get me wrong I still worry about them only now its not just them its there partners and there children, my grand children, I worry about ,but I know that they can look after them selves and that they know we my husband and I are there if they need us. Also it gives us time to enjoy life. It will get better.

Norma - posted on 07/11/2009

Being an empty-nester myself, I can empathize with what you are feeling. My daughter moved out when she went to college, living on and now off campus. We always worry about whether they are safe, have enough food, money for laundry, etc. The hardest part it learning not to call them all the time. I had to trust that she learned what I taughter her, am always here for her and as Gina said, she always has a place to come back to if needed. Show her that you trust her and are happy for her, and she'll call you to talk, ask advice and come visit when she gets homesick. I'm blessed to have my daughter only about an hour away and she tries to come visit once a week. and we can always text, call each other or email. Let her know the lines of communication are open. She'll take her cue from you. I wish you all the best!

User - posted on 07/11/2009

That's a tough one for us moms. thankfully my daugter emails me regularly, she is married and expecting her first baby in a couple weeks. she is very happy, and still, I miss her. Its hard letting them go, I guess no matter what age they are. :)

Gina - posted on 07/11/2009

When I first went through this I was a wreck. I was constantly worried about whether my son or daughter had enough money, food, etc. but after a long........... long time it finally dawned on me that my babies could fend for themselves. I still am struggling to this day over whether or not my babies have enough, you will one day get over it, but because we are mothers' it can be difficult, but you know what we need to think that we did the same thing to our Mother's and Fathers', we left home for the first time and it just came full circle so to speak. I hope she has a good life and that she will always know that she has a place to come back to if things don't go well.