New moms over 40

Barbara - posted on 11/03/2012

I am 43 years old. I have a 26 year old daughter, a 23 year old daughter, and a 23 year old syrup-son. My husband and I also have a 15 month old. I did not give birth to him, but have had him since he left the hospital after being born. Sometimes I think I am too old for this, but always, he is worth it! I do think that I will do a better job this time around, just due to age and experience. My daughters are both wonderful, smart women who I am very proud of, but I know I was not the best parent I could have been. We learn from living.

Sherry - posted on 12/29/2011

Congratulations, Leslie! I'm so happy for your wonderful new addition! So glad to know there are more of us out there. I coordinate a MOPS (mothers of preschoolers) group here and am the oldest mom in the group. It's nice to know there are more like me out there : )

Many blessings to you and your family in the new year ahead!

Leslie - posted on 12/29/2011

Hi- I've been looking for a group of awesome over 40 women and it looks like I've found them! I'm 42 and just had my 3rd in June. I also have a 5 year old and a 4 year old. Having met my husband at 34, getting married at 35 we had to work fast to have children. After the first two, I was afraid to have another. I felt like I got lucky to have two healthy, beautiful children-one girl, one boy-- before the scary age of 40. Then, when we tried for a 3rd, I had a miscarriage at 15 weeks. You can imagine how terrified my husband and I were when we found out we were pregnant again! I was 41. However, we were truly blessed. My now 6 month old is as beautiful, healthy and wonderful as I ever could have imagined. I am loving every moment with him. I will admit, the pregnancy was difficult. Aside from being terribly sick much of the time, he was fine... but as I hate to admit it, being pregnant at 41 was harder on my body then it might have been had I been 25. As many of you have said, I only wish I'd met my husband sooner. I would love to have another. I've never been happier.

Gabriella - posted on 11/22/2011

go for it!! I think they keep you young :-))

Heidi - posted on 11/15/2011

I am 40, and just had my fourth child 8 months ago, I also have a grandaughter who is 1.

Amelia - posted on 10/13/2011

I am a mommy for the 6th time and I am 47 and my hubby is 55. Our little boy is 15 mo. old. I love my life.

Angela - posted on 10/13/2011

I was 43 when I had my last child. I have a ds 25, ds 22, dd 19, dd 16, dd 5, dd almost 3. I don't regret having the little girls, but I do wish I knew more people like me. I feel different and the odd man out.

Janice - posted on 01/14/2009

I was 43 when I had my son who is 11 yrs old now. I also have a daughter who is 33 and 2 grandchildren.

Simi - posted on 01/14/2009

Hi... I was 42 when I had my little girl last May. My son, I had when I was 33... 10 years age gap. I have the best little helper who adores his baby sister. I have been pregnant twice and am still (deep down) hoping for a third, but am more than happy with these two. You keep at it girlfriend. If it's meant to be it will happen. Good luck.

Simi

Simi - posted on 01/14/2009

Hi... I was 42 when I had my little girl last May. My son, I had when I was 33... 10 years age gap. I have the best little helper who adores his baby sister. I have been pregnant twice and am still (deep down) hoping for a third, but am more than happy with these two. You keep at it girlfriend. If it's meant to be it will happen. Good luck.

Simi

Anne-Marie - posted on 01/14/2009

Hi my name is Anne-Marie i'm 53 and i have a 8, 10 and a 28 . the 8 year old and the 10 i adopted and the 28 year old is my daughter.

Sherry - posted on 01/14/2009

Glad to hear from you, Barb!! i feel like we are developing a nice little 'club' of over 40 moms who haven't ruled out having another!!! Blessings to you and your family today!

Barb - posted on 01/14/2009

I say go for it! I got a late start getting married at 34, then having my 1st child at age 35, second at 36 and third at age 40. Our second, a son, was born with Down syndrome, which made me a little more hesitant to try for the third, but we did and are so happy! He is a happy and healhy almost 3 yr old who loves his older brother like no other! At this point, I just turned 43, and we haven't TOTALLY ruled out having another baby!

Sherry - posted on 01/08/2009

He's such a cutie!!

Jackie - posted on 01/08/2009

I turned 40 8 months after I had my first (a boy). I wld love to have another one, sooner rather than later.

Sherry - posted on 01/08/2009

You have to do what's in your heart....don't have to decide today. Whatever choice you make, it will be the right one for you and your family. I have the utmost admiration and respect for you being a single mom! i can barely keep a handle on things with a husband! Hang in there. I will be praying for you to figure out what is right for you :)

Annie - posted on 01/08/2009

and just to add.... I married for the first time in 2002 to a gorgeous man who unfortuantely allowed his addiction to overtake him and our lives so here i now am a single mum.  I know when I married it was for the right reasons but, well, as my dad says, "shit happens".  I just don't know if its the right thing being older and then on top of that having kids from different Dads when you just don't know where life can go and really whether I actually deire to bring another child into this world.....

Annie - posted on 01/08/2009

Hi Brenda, I was 43 late last year and have a 4.5 year old.  I am holding out at the moment - being a single Mum for over 2 years - my boyfriend wants a baby but I am soooo not sure if i want to go down that track.  I kow my daughter would luv a baby in the house but I think well she'll be going to school year after next so i can work more (currently work from home part time as a secretary) and i will be starting all over again.  I know there are pros and cons but I'm not sure which outway which.....

Sherry - posted on 01/05/2009

That's my only regret too about having my children later, although I didn't meet andmarry my husband until I was 38, but I too would have had more with him. he's so wonderful and a great dad and I just love our kids!!! yes, they are a blessing :)

Brenda - posted on 01/05/2009

I think it is becoming more common place that women are having children much later in life. It may not be mainstream, but I think it is more common and acceptable. My only regret in not having children sooner is that I think I would have more. I feel limited in the quantity that I can have because of my age. I sooo enjoy my kids. I feel awesomely blessed to have them. They can be frustrating, exasperating, exhausting, and a whole lot of other "ings", but none of those things can ever equal or come close to touching the joy and blessing that we derive from them. Children are truly a heritage from the Lord. I am so thankful that God has blessed me with the two that I have, and I pray and am believing for another "blessing".

Sherry - posted on 01/05/2009

I think there are more of us out there than we realize. I am so grateful to have found this wondeful group of women who are like me in wanting more children. We are trying for #3 and I am 43. My OB/GYN is totally for it and very encouraging and we are excited about having another one as well. My kids are really excited. So we're just waiting to get pregnant again. I really don't think society looks down on us as much anymore. Look at all the hollywood women who have had babies in their 40's and even at 50. go for it: )

Rogene - posted on 01/05/2009

I have a 4 girls ages 16,15,12 and 18 months. We would like to have one more. I am going on 41 and keep thinking we should not because of my age, but from from reading everones posts I am encouraged, and feel that it is ok to keep having kids after 40. I tend to worry more about what society thinks of older moms rather than what I think. I am glad there are other "older"/wiser women wanting to have children out there.

Paulette - posted on 01/04/2009

Hi Brenda,

I say if you can afford to and have the strength plus desire...go for it! Children bring such joy and love. They are a gift from God too. As we all know they are a lot of work but sooo worth it.

Brenda - posted on 01/04/2009

I hope you have success with the fertility clinic. For my two successful pregnancies, I had to use fertility drugs. I can get pregnant, but cannot maintain a pregnancy without taking the fertility drugs due to low progesterone levels. Currently, the OB will not allow me to get pregnant until I can get my ferritin level up to at least 70. Level is only at 40. I have been trying to bring my levels up for a year. We are working on finding out why it is not rising as expected.

Anita - posted on 01/04/2009

I am just 40, with a 4 yr old, and just recently referred to a fertility clinic - we have been trying to have a 2nd child for approx. 2 yrs now, without success. I am encouraged to hear that you are trying for a 3rd child now.

Brenda - posted on 12/31/2008

Lee Ann, I also worry about being too old, but I have a friend that is about 48 or 49 and has been trying. I say go for it. I don't think we will ever regret having as many kids as we want, but I think we will regret not having more if we desire more. They are truly a blessing from God, and I want my quiver full.

Lee Ann - posted on 12/30/2008

My husband and I haven't ruled out having another if it is in the cards! I'm 42 and would love to give my daughter a sibling. Sometimes, it worries me that I will be too old, but at other times I just want to go for it.

Sherry - posted on 12/29/2008

Soooo glad to see you out there, Brenda! I am 43 with a 4 y/o and a 2.5 y/o and am planning on having another this coming year. As long as we're healthy and love our kids, I say go for it! Keep me posted as to when you expect your next one! Blessings in the new year to you! : )

Michele - posted on 12/22/2008

I am not interested in having anymore (at 42).....but I do have four already! My oldest is 16 and my youngest 4. I say go for it! Kids are great!

Terri - posted on 12/22/2008

I will be 42 when I have my next baby this May. I also have a 17 month and 34 month old.