Barbara - posted on 05/12/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )
After living with us for the last 3 years my Step-daughter decided to move back home with her mother in December due to us not allowing her to have a boyfriend and wear makeup and basically hang out without any rules or regulations. We really had no choice but to allow this to happen due to her being old enough to tell the courts where she wanted to live and now its been 3 months and she has neither called or anything. We feel that forcing her to come here on our weekend's will just bring more resentment and yet it hurts so much that after being her step mom for the last 14 1/2 years not even a call on Mother's Day. Even though I am angry as well as hurt by her choices and actions...I have not sent an email or called to state my feelings. I know it will fall on deaf ears anyway and we just think that if we react then we will make it all worse. But honestly I just don't see how it can get any worse. Here she was an honor student and went to dance class and had tons of friends and was doing after school clubs and there she is an ok student and comes home to hang with the boyfriend and hang out in the streets. We know she has a boyfriend and has been hanging out with her older siblings and it just kills us that her mother who was a teen mom herself would rather have her daughter there doing that so she can get child support checks instead of breaking the cycle and leaving her daughter in an environment where she was thriving.
We are just waiting it out at this point. I mean what freaking choice do we have. Friends who are not in the same situation don't understand our hurt so I was wondering if anyone else has been down this road and if so how did it turn out. Just looking for the light at the end of the tunnel I guess.