Teri - posted on 06/03/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )
We recently relocated to another state for my husbands job. Our daughter who is now 20 was not coming with us. 3 days after we left she was on the phone crying she needed to come home. We opened the door once again we were 700 miles away & my baby was on the other end crying. My heart broke. Long story short, she left that day & came south to us. A couple of weeks went by & I was getting suspicious, I though she was pregnant, turns out she was. The sperm donor, as we will refer to him, was a loser in & out of jail, we tried to advise her but she knew what was best for her. We back off knowing soon she would figure it out, she did, a bit too late.
Now we have a beautiful grandson whom we adore & will do everything to insure his well-being. Problem is that our daughter knows that, she is getting some assistance from the state the rest from us. We are supporting her & her son & she remarks that being a single parent isn't that hard! That infuriated me. She continues to think of herself & put herself first. She has a job which she does not take seriously! We are at out wits end. She has no motivation but condemns others in her same boat.
How do you enforce tough love when you have a grandchild involved? How do you get through to a child that had so much potential & continues to no nothing about it? How do you handle the heavy heart that all this causes? How?
I want so much for my children but I do not agree with "giving it" to them! But now I am forced to because of this precious child.
She is 20 & still young, guess I am left with holding out hope for a brighter future for her & her son, holding out hope that she "gets it"....soon!
To anybody who reads this & understands Thank You! & I am sorry because if you understand you may be going through this as well.
Thanks for listening!