Older Young Moms - with older and young children!

Catherine - posted on 01/27/2009

i agree to that i want to see my little boy all grown up

Marina - posted on 01/27/2009

hi i am 42 and i have older children of 25,24,22 and also a 5 year old .i also have 3 gransons aged 9,6,4 and another grandson to be born on the feb 24th. my grandchildren do get with my 5 year old but a couple of years ago my 4 year old grandson and 5 year old daughter were jealous of each other. i used to have to sit them both on each leg and used to compete for my attention.now they are a little older they are fine.they still have arguments but that kids for you.

Shirley - posted on 01/25/2009

ive got a 21, 8 and 4 yr old. also a 2 yr old granddaughter. theres only 2 yrs difference from my youngest and my granddaughter, they usually get on ok together but have had days were there fightening. doesnt seem right having a grandaughter as my younest is only 4...

Kimberly - posted on 01/24/2009

I think it was a surprise to me that I wasn't going to be the spoiling, spending time with the grandbabies kind of grandparent I always dreamed about being!

I hope it helps you to be able to think about it, maybe even talk with your older daughter about it, so she understands too. My daughter is very understanding. I can't help but feel like I'm missing out though.

I do love that my younger children love the grand kids and playing together. It confuses my littlest one; Scarlett, and she starts calling my "grandma" Ugh! I tell her, "no, no I'm your mommy!".

Fay - posted on 01/24/2009

I was thinking about the being a parent and granparent at the same time thing jsut the other day. I am just going to see what happens and hope that Tianie and the new baby once he is older play together really nicely and are close. Im not sure how I will be able to do my grandmotherly duties while, like you am busy parenting my own little one.

Kimberly - posted on 01/24/2009

Hi Faye -

I do try to embrace the fact that she is the last child for me, and cherish that time I have with her (if only she didn't kick me all night long!)

My daughter is 11 months older than her niece. They really love each other, and love playing together.

The hardest part for me of having a young child AND grandchildren is that I am not able to have the "grandparent" relationship that I would love to have with them. The rules don't change at my house for the grandkids, and finding special time with the grandbabies is so hard when I am doing my own parenting.

Fay - posted on 01/24/2009

HI I am similar to you. I have a 21 yo old daughter who is going to make me a grandma in around 3 weeks, a 18 yo son, a 13 yr old and an 11 month old baby!!
She doesnt sleep brilliantly either, still waking 3 ish times a night which I know is habit but like her mummy milk too much.
I never expected to have the chance again to be a mummy but Im so glad I got to join the club again and am so enjoying being a mummy again