other mom disciplinging your kids

Bridget - posted on 05/20/2010

well if she is really yelling at your kids she isnt a nice person, who in their right minds would yell at little children at a tender age as yours. But do remember sometimes yelling that we know could be just her telling them off. maybe she is loud in general. what are her children like when they come over yours to play. It would be good for you to let her know what your children said to you but she most likely will have a good excuse to tell you, but atleast you will be satified that she knows your children told you. It is a hard one when you are neighbours especially if you want to remain friends with her but if it is true and she really is yelling at your kids i would defently not let them over there again and who would want to remain friends with someone like that. Saying that it cant have bothered your children that much if they still want to go there. If they didnt want to go there that would have been a good opportunity to tell her the truth that your child told you she shouted at them and doesnt want to go over there. I would love to see her reaction if that happened, any way good luck and please keep me informed how you got on xxxx bridget

Catherine - posted on 02/24/2010

I'd just take my child out of the equation and find other playmates. I have no problem with my friends speaking to my daughter about behaviour, especially if I am not there, but I do find many moms coddle their own children and blame others for transgressions. Talking to her may clear things up, but - adults or not - most people get defensive in such situations, and I can see that conversation going south pretty quickly. And going over there to observe would just change the dynamic, and you wouldn't get a genuine representation of what's really going on there anyway.

Sheila - posted on 02/24/2010

Simple, your both adults, take a deep breath and talk to each other about the situation. You can either agree to disagree and just stay away from each other or between the two of you review what stage or level of behaviour both hers and your children are at and try to monitor their play. Yelling at someone elses child is a huge NO NO! (unless they are in danger of hurting themselves or someone else) Nip it all in the bud and be happy knowing you tried.

Tracy - posted on 02/23/2010

First of all, our "angels" never tell us the whole story! Go with them next time and see what is really hapening or have the neighbor kids over to your home next time. If she is really "YELLING" at them, don't let your children go there because I am sure that is not the example you want for your kids.

BillieSue - posted on 02/13/2010

Maybe going with them once in awhile to see first hand what is going on but no one should be disaplining your children but you. I would simply tell her that your kids feel like all they do is get "corrected" at her house and maybe she could call you when she thinks your kids are doing something wrong so you can come over and deal with it your way. Or invite her and her kids over for a play day and she what kind of person she is.

Jennifer - posted on 02/09/2010

I'd invite them to my house and perhaps take a break from sending my kids over there. Perhaps you could meet at a public spot for a playdate and that way both moms are around. When it's warmer encourage them to play outdoors.

Jill - posted on 02/09/2010

Welll...that certainly is an age that has alot of imagination...I personally wouldn't send my child to someones house that I didn't know WELL, why not make a play date together, either going over there or at the local playground...that will give you a feel of what kind of person she REALLY is, if she is a yeller - that will come out pretty quick...good luck!!