Over 50 Granny -second time around

Tammy - posted on 04/19/2009

Hello again Chris
I was surprised at how many of us grandparents are out there doing it a second time. My granddaughter has no contact with her dead beat dad who fled the country. She is a very happy and outgoing little girl. And she knows more than what I think she knows with her situation. So having time to grieve the loss of my daughter was short. As I have had to step into my daughters shoes.
Breaks for me are few and far between. Because my grandaughter is attached to my hip. She has been always like that since birth. My daughter used to say to me, " Mom, I am beginning to wonder who kid this actually is." I just always laughed never knowing what the future was going to hold for us.
Keeping up with the times and how much school has changed since my kids went. Wow!! So much for me to learn too!! The best thing is I have already done this once so I know more on what to expect than these new mothers. I guess we do have an edge there eh?
I too am happy to have someone else out there doing what we are doing also.

Chris - posted on 04/19/2009

Quoting Karen:

Our children are all adults now and the three oldest have kids. One of our grandsons has autism and one of our granddaughters has a neorological tic disorder. Our kids are all healthy and okay, so when our grandchildren became special needs, we were surprised. This is such a learning experience to help with them. They are so precious and wonderful. Being a grandparent is almost better than being a parent but don't tell our kids that.:>)

Our children are both Bi-polar.

Our Grandson is ADHD and takes Ritalin but only on school days. It really have been a God send to us. I was afraid he would keep getting behind in school. (grade 2) He has a really great teacher. I always felt a little sorry for her before we got the Ritalin. She says he is so different in class now.

Only grandparents know what a joy grandchildren are! I always big smiles on the faces of grandparents when they are talking about their grandchildren.

I know of a product that could help with the autism all natural. I personally know a grown man with Asbergers Syndrom Autisum. He stayed in his house for 2 years on sick leave. He is now back to work full time, he teaches Challenged teens in High School.

Karen - posted on 04/19/2009

Our children are all adults now and the three oldest have kids. One of our grandsons has autism and one of our granddaughters has a neorological tic disorder. Our kids are all healthy and okay, so when our grandchildren became special needs, we were surprised. This is such a learning experience to help with them. They are so precious and wonderful. Being a grandparent is almost better than being a parent but don't tell our kids that.:>)

Chris - posted on 04/19/2009

Quoting Tammy:

Welcome to the club Chris. I too am raising my grandaugter. We lost our daughter two years ago.And she also lived with us too. We have had our grandaughter living here since birth. She is now 5. I too have a son who is 29. I too did not expect to do this again. I must say I agree with you they you us young.

Hi Tammy

That was my favourite name when I was growing up...so when our daughter was born we called her "Tamitha" of course she gets Tam and Tami.

Our grown children Tamitha (Quinten's Mom) and Adam are both Bi-polar. 

Tamitha left her husband and moved back home 5 years ago. She was only here for less then 2 months when she was ready to move in with a divorced older man. She was going to give her son Quinten to his Dad.

That's when we stepped in and decided to go to court! We have shared custody. We have Quinten living with us, this is his home. His deadbeat Dad will take him for a visit some weekends Sat. morning til Sunday noon. It gives us a break.  I can't believe the influence his Dad has on him.

I am so happy to finally meet someone that is in a similar situation!

Tammy - posted on 04/18/2009

Welcome to the club Chris. I too am raising my grandaugter. We lost our daughter two years ago.And she also lived with us too. We have had our grandaughter living here since birth. She is now 5. I too have a son who is 29. I too did not expect to do this again. I must say I agree with you they you us young.