raising your grandchildren

Julie - posted on 10/16/2012

Hi My name is julie i live in the UK in an area called Wigan. I have full parental control of my Grandson until he is 18 he is now 11 and as just started Seniors like most children his age he is testing his boundarys which can be a challenge however its also funny when their convinced that this is something they came up with themselves when we know we tried the same tricks at the same age if not sooner. I have an extra challenge as I have disabilities however I find he keeps me going I love seeing him grow and achieve. His mum was born with learning disabilities so as he grew he

was becoming the parent so the authorities stepped in and asked me if I would take him. We still had to go through a long drawn out court procedure however the courts agreed and he was placed with me at the age of 9 he is doing well at school and although he can be a challenge I would do it again in a heart beat my other Grandson is 6 he is still with his mum although he also has challenges as he is a child with the challenge of ADHD just like his mum his mum my eldest is coping well with him at the moment they live a distance from me in Blackpool. lol in U.S.A. terms the next town over approx 1 hour in the car.

Mary - posted on 08/30/2012

Hi,



My name is Mary and my husband and I have been raising our oldest granddaughter since she was 11 months old. We adopted her when she was six. She has tried on two separate occasions to live with and integrate into her mom's family but both attempts were fraught with challenges that could not be resolved.

Cindy - posted on 08/28/2012

Well my husband and I decided to bring up our granddaughter 4months ago but now found out he has been cheating on me for thoses 4months now I'm not sure I can do it alone she's 9months and my daughter is a bitttt of a problem I don't know what to do would she be better off in a stable family elsewhere ? Not sure so mixed up

Donna - posted on 11/18/2011

Yes we are raising 3 of our grandchildrens age 5, 4 and 2. They was taken from their mother 20months ago and that was the 2nd time they was taken. Now we have complete custody of the children and I love them to death. I just seem to not understand sometimes why they behave the way they do and we still have to deal with the mother. She had 2 nites overnite but the 3rd day after they gave us custody she told us she was going to have to give them up because she didn't have enough room for them to sleep. So she gets them whenever usually 1 day a week is the most at a time and that isn't consistant. She has actually went a month without seeing them. i just don't understand how she could do that to them. Now to find out she is pregnant again ughhhhhhhhhhhh

Sonia - posted on 03/05/2010

I am.I've adopted 2 and have had the third since birth.

Synthia - posted on 03/05/2010

Thanks for the encouragement, Pam. Here name is Aleena. I call her Ahhhh! LeenaI We consider this to be such a blessing and love to help, but don't want to enable irresponsibility or entitlement. You must have your hands full with 2 little ones. They are fortunate that you are there for them...Good luck.

Pam - posted on 03/04/2010

What will the baby call you? And That would be great it would teach them that life is hard work. and you would be giving back a gift for them for deposit an other need supplys and they wouldnt know it until after they would be moving thats a great plan..

Synthia - posted on 03/04/2010

In May 09, My husband and I thought we'd be empty nesters come fall...(both in our mid 40's). Surprise! Our 17 yr old 'baby' is pregnant with her boyfriend of 3 yrs. With her college plans on hold, all 3 of them are living with us since the birth, 2 months ago. So far so good, but to teach them about reality, we've discussed charging a small amount of rent. (maybe to give back when they move out). Any comments or experiences would be appreciated.

Pam - posted on 03/03/2010

yes we r.

Pam - posted on 03/03/2010

We R raising our grandbabies to, we have Temp. Custody of them There parents want to be parents when they want to show them off I said H**l NO.We hve had these Babies almost all there life.The ages o them r 2 and 1 yrs

Teresa - posted on 03/02/2010

I am presently raising my granddaughter who turns 4 years old on march 8th. I have had her since she was 18 months old and I had her sister from birth until the other grandparents asked for joint custody threw the family court system and was granted she is now 5 1/2. I have a total of 8 grandchildrent; 1 grandson age 8 and 7 granddaughters ages from 5 1/2 to 2 months old...I wouldnt trade being a grandma/nana for all the treasures in the world.

Teresa - posted on 03/02/2010

I've helped raise grandchildren off and on over the years.It's A wonderful thing. I'm a better parent second time around and I can give them back before I feel stressed, which was much harder when I was the parent. On the other hand I've been raising children for 27 years I'd rather just be the grandma who has the children over for Sunday Dinner.

Linda - posted on 03/02/2010

Hi Shelia...It seems to be a common thing now days for the grandparents to have to raise their grandchild. I did this for some time until my ex-daughter inlaw got on her feet. I hope that she can handle him. I envy any grandparent out there that has to raise their grandchild for what ever reason it may be...

Suzanne - posted on 03/01/2010

Thank you Cathy! Prayers are always welcome - sometimes its all I can do to keep my patience with my daughters. It's a shame, but the grands are the ones who suffer the most when our children (their parents) decide their rules are better than those of us who have had the experience and gained the wisdom they, at their young ages, are lacking.

Barbara - posted on 03/01/2010

yes for the second time they r 12yrs and 1 month ,oldest from my oldest daughter the new baby from my youngest daughter who does live with me and is 17yrs old.....it can be trying and stressful today was one of them....i work fulltime and she wants to sleep and play on the computer and says its hard to take care of him....o boy

De - posted on 03/01/2010

I have custody of 5 of my grandchildren but as of right now only one is in my home...I let the paternal grandmother take two of which the state placed with me..she had no other grandkids and lives in the country and they love it! I have my 14 year old hateful, mean, angry grandson living with me now...until he pushes too many buttons or makes the court any angrier than he will go to a local boys ranch...

Cathy - posted on 03/01/2010

What a privilege to love and care for your grandchildren. It is a awesome responsibility. I will pray God gives you plenty love, strenghth, wisdom. With God nothing is impossible. Cathy. Send me email if you need prayer, stanleyobal@sbcglobal.net

Suzanne - posted on 02/28/2010

Hi - My name is Suzanne. My husband and I are raising four grandchildren. One we have custody of as of last year - he is 18 mos old. The other three belong to our 20 yr old who is at this time without a job and trying to get back into school.