School tutoring

Veronica - posted on 10/27/2010 ( 16 moms have responded )

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My 8 year old is struggling in 3rd grade, 1st and 2nd grade was easy for him. I requested a reading tutor provided by the school and was told there are no openings. I found out a set of twin boys one is in my sons class got tutoring that are "A" students after I requested it. The teacher says they scored lower than my son on testing but he is an A/B students. I find that hard to believe when my son can't even reach his AR goal for the first nine weeks.

The teacher recommended I request a list from the school for after school tutoring. Does she not understand the economy and tutoring is expensive. I feel my child is being left behind to possibly fail the 3rd grade when he should be getting the help he deserves. I will do whatever it takes to help him. Just had to vent.

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VicTORIa - posted on 10/27/2010

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I feel for you. My son who is now married, doing well in his chosen career, and raising kids of his own...really struggled in first and second grade, learning how to read. "Whole language" was taught at school, and the whole group of his peers did not learn to read and write properly. When the local High School said that they knew that his class and others, had problems, and that they would Graduate them anyway...I switched school districts! In one year, my son caught up to his grade peers. He has done well ever since. We just found a group of educators who cared more! (I couldn't really help him with reading, and he was dyslexic too. But I did read all his textbooks to him and many many novels...so his vocabulary was College level even when he couldn't read or write them himself. Do what you can do. Get help where ever you can. Don't give up. Hopefully, your child will find a teacher or a friend who will set the spark alight for better learning.

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Sue - posted on 11/10/2010

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If you want to work with your son you can try what I did...look for leveled reading materials like "step in to reading" books. I bought several on topics that interested him and gave them to him one at a time. I would read with him and then leave him to practice the book on his own...when he felt comfortable reading it he read it aloud to grandma or dad...someone he wants to show off for... and then I gave him the next book..I stayed at the same level for a month or more usually 4 or 5 books were read per level...then I would move up a level...after the first level I would see what interests were and get the new books...I never let him see them till he earned one and He was on level 5 before the end of the year...you can do this it is minimal expense and time for you but worth it.My so who did not read in second grade went on to get fairly good grades and joined the Air Force after graduation. He actually worked on planes that were in one of his books...Now he has a good job and is doing well out on his own in life... You can do it...it will be okay...and while you are at it pray for your son every night...for God to bless him, make him wise, protect him, give him favor...do it so he can hear you too...He will know you have his back.

Robin - posted on 11/09/2010

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Veronica , I dont know where you live but where i live the school's have after school program's . My son tutored student's in elementary and he was in high school . So you might see if you can get a high school student to help if possible . Just a thought to help ya out .

Karen - posted on 11/09/2010

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Dear Mother I have two words to say.. first off HOME SCHOOL.. --- I know I'm sure your saying.. " I can't do it" It's to hard.. Mother those are the same thing I said.. Before I took on the job of Home Schooling my 2 grandchildren.. Yes grandchildren. I've been homeschooling them since 1st grade.. No neither on went to Kindergarden.. They are now in 4th and 2nd grade.. My 4th grader is a 3.8 average and my 2nd grader is 4.0.. Don't do to yourself what I start to do at first and doublt yourself.. Has one mother put it to me.. Did you teach them how to tide their shoes.. I replied yes.. She went on " Did you teach them how to speak." I repiled I did..She said then you can teach you are a mother.. A Mother is a teacher.. Homeschool your child mother.. No I'm not a teacher I did only one semi of college and I was studing to be and Accountant.. And this Social You'll here poeple saying they ( Homeschooler) lack in being social.. Well that a crock..!! Look in to it.. If your in the State of Kansas,, Go on line at www.blvs.org.. That is a viirtual home school program in Kansas the cost is wonderful.. You'd ber suprised that yuou can do this.. When one homeschools that figure out how mest to teach the child..
In a school the teacher only will teach one way..When you hoemschool you must figure out how to get your child to understand.. Some kids are audio, some are Visual. some are hands on.. some are all of these things.. Here is a example of what I do.. And yes I live with my daughter she is my grand childrens mother. and a single parent that works all the time.. and not on state aid at all.. ( no disrespect for those that are) So I take care of my grandchildren and I school them..
Now for my example..
Think back Not know how old your are.. I'm most surely that you learned your Muplitions by learning to receit your time tables.. over and over.. That is how i and many other were taught in school.. 4x2=8 2x4=8 and you said this morning, noon, and night.. Then after you learned this you were taught how to do division.. And when division came up.. I guess like most people you felt lost.. I knwo I surely did.. Well to prevent my grandchildren from feeling that way . I decided to go about learning how to muplity in a different manner..
I take like 8 blocks. and 2 nice size bowl.. I tell my grandson.. I have 8 blocks and 2 bowls .. How many blocks do you think I can put in each bowl.. and he'll give me a number.. Let's say it says 3 I'll but in 3 block in each bowl. and say there some left over are you correct.. In other words I'm teaching him division and Muplityion at the same time( sorry about my spelling) but I hoep you get the point.. Mother.. all I can say is look in to home schooling..
And don't fret.. Some people getting out of College cant read..
Best of luck

Patti - posted on 11/05/2010

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My oldest son has had difficulty in school since kindergarten. He was in a suburban school in kindergarten and they wanted to hold him back - not help him just have him repeat the year & hope it helped. It seemed as if they were more concerned that he was dropping their class average than trying to help him! For 1st grade we move to the city. Despite the bad rap that city schools received, I found them to be more helpful and got him tested & enrolled in an IEP program for learning disability in reading. He also qualified for help in speech and math. Sometimes the logical conclusions are overlooked. Ask the difficult questions. If you have difficulty with speech, you will have trouble with sounding out words and spelling! I also questioned why a child that was normally so good with math was having difficulty. So I asked the obvious question, "Is he having trouble with story problems?". Of course, if you have difficulty reading and comprehending the problem, you will not be able to solve it. They worked with him to increase his reading ability (during school, for free). He is now in middle school and was able to join a "reading club" (for free) that meets after school 1 day/week. He still struggles, but his reading has greatly improved. Assistance with speech or math is no longer needed. Be persistent and explore any options to get him help. (It was a good suggestion from above to get his vision checked). Tell them that you cannot afford tutoring. In my case, even $10/week meant no food for my family that week. You should not have to choose between educating your child and feeding your family! Be persistant & keep working with your school. Meet with teachers, principals & counselors to explore your options. Good luck!

Gloria - posted on 11/02/2010

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Id go to school board!!!!! I have. An 8 ye old 3rd grader and he has at least 3 friends. That can not read well! They don't care they just pass them up! Without reading well you cannot learn!!!! You pay thier salary and do not have too pay tutors!!! Make them do thier job!!!!

Wendy - posted on 11/01/2010

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i also have a child in the 3rd grade who requires help not with reading but maths. I was lucky enough to find a lovely teacher's aid who come to my house 1 afternoon a week for the coast of $10 a session. Have you thought about trying this,it's certainly helped me and now my son is doing better and will be off to grade 4 next year.

Cj - posted on 11/01/2010

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Go above her head, your child deserves everything thing that every other child deserves. Some times we sit back and let others decide for us and think we have no recourse. You do! If going to the counselor or principal does not work go to a school board member and ask questions. This is something the schools offer and you should not have to pay for it. It would be different if your child was up to standard and you just wanted to give them an extra boost. If they do not get the help when they are young and excel it may be too late later on. Go make waves!!!

Karol - posted on 10/28/2010

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Hi my son is now 12 and he wasn't a big reader then but what help is when I found the old Schoohouse Rock DVD's it showed that it can be fun and that helped with his reading. Also the lists that the schools recommends were good but also look for books and games of things that he likes....my son loves Harry Potter and Star Wars that became to bridge to getting hime to read. Now he reads adventures like Treasure Island and similar stories. Read with him too I got my love back for reading also..helps for him to see me doing it too

Sarah - posted on 10/28/2010

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As a certified teacher, I would recommend doing phonics and spelling. I know many kids today have handheld games and Nintendo makes several good educational games for the DS. Brain Quest 3&4 and 5&6 are two that are excellent. They also have Scripps Spelling Bee, Geography and Math Cartridges as well. You might be able to find them used so they are less expensive. I have a 4th grader that is struggling as well and I bought these games for him and they have helped since he 'plays' his DS regularly:)! Good Luck. Any other questions you can feel free to e-mail me.

Sandra - posted on 10/28/2010

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Hi, my guy is 8 and finally has started kicking into gear with school..If your little man is doing well, especially in spelling and oral work..i can't stress hard enough to get his eyes checked, especially if he is having a hard time reading. Also make sure he still uses his finger to keep his place or a ruler to control the lines he sees. I know some teachers don't like this but if he is struggling she should understand. Eyes is huge though, my daughter was fine on her grade two eye test from school, but she kept complaining that reading was hard, I took her in and she actually needed a fairly decent prescription. it never hurts to check! All the best to you.

Carolyn - posted on 10/27/2010

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It is not your son's fault. The way reading is taught in schools these days is not good. Get a book called 'Why Johnny Can't Read, and What You Can Do about It' by Rudolf Flesch, and teach him yourself. Reading this book will help you understand how reading difficulties arise and how to help your child. it also contains all the exercises needed to teach reading properly. Search on Amazon.com etc.

Veronica - posted on 10/27/2010

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Thanks Christine. I appreciate your advice and will difinitely look into it. Those were some great ideas.

Christine - posted on 10/27/2010

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Keep asking for help. If you know any other teachers, even in another grade level, maybe your can barter with them for services. I am a teacher and mom of a struggling learner (now 20 and doing well at a top school). Teachers work longer hours than people realize, so if there is something you can do for them like cooking a meal, running errands, etc., you may be able to get tutoring in exchange. I know schedules are packed, but it is something to consider if you have time. Another option is to contact any local college, or maybe even the high school. As a student I had to find struggling readers and tutor to meet my requirements. If you buy a workbook and check out library books at your sons level, maybe a high school student can read with him and do small chunks in the wb to complete service hours. Good luck - I feel your frustration.

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