Should I put my daughter on the pill?

GAYLE - posted on 01/24/2010 ( 136 moms have responded )

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My 15 year old daughter has started to see a lad of 17 and I am not sure if I should ask her to go on the pill. We have a very open relationship and generally can talk about anything. She has been having trouble with her periods and I was thinking about it before. I don't want her think I don't trust her to be careful with this boy if I mention her going on the pill, we have talked about contraception before but I was wondering what everyone else would do in my situation.

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Karen - posted on 02/16/2010

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Absolutely, Kids are going to have sex, and its best that you make sure that she is protected against pregnancy and you need to let her know that she still needs to make sure that she is using a condom for protection against disease

Michele - posted on 02/16/2010

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I also have an open line of communication with my daughter yet she still got pregnant in matric. Rather offend her than have her go through the trauma of a teenage pregnancy and all the emotional bagage tthey have to deal with afterwards.
I am over 40 and now a granny mommy to an absolute blessing of a child who has radial displaysia and will face many challenges in his life.
My opinion would be to offer her the pill!

Deborah - posted on 02/16/2010

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I always felt that an open line of communication is the key for many things, this is one of them. I understand your fear of her not thinking you trust her, but, I think what needs to be done is for the both of you to sit down and talk about this. The pill also has many medical problems with certain medical types too so I would not just go with the pill. I think if you want her to have a contraceptive the best thing is to take her to your physician and talk to him or her about what is best for your daughter. Remember, trust is built and you won't always be able to deal with this things without conflicts.. Good luck...

Diana - posted on 02/16/2010

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Just my own opinion here......it's great that you are open with your daughter...I am 51 years old and I have always been open with allmy children, I have two daughters 25 and 27 and two sons 16 and 30. My daughters were on the pill when they were 16 and both my sons had/have condoms. I talked to them about pregnancy, STD's etc and how I would like them to wait til they were mature enough to handle an intimate relationship but in the real world, if girls/boys are going to be sexually active they will do it no matter what we parents say. When they were ready, they came to meI would rather have them safe than being a child having a child. Had I said *no just wait until you get married* I now know they would have gone and had sex anyway. This is NOT giving them permission to have sex, this is telling them if they choose that , then be safe. Need to mention, we are all Christians and they were raised Christians.Good luck Gayle and please keep the lines of communication open~~HUGS

Pam - posted on 02/16/2010

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You should tell her that its better to be prepared,cause if they are kissing and stuff it could turn to a sexual thing very easy, that way she feels safe about not getting prego,also he should have condoms or she should carry some with her cause you just never know when it might happen! Better safe than sorry!!

Penny - posted on 02/16/2010

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Talk to your daughter, offer her the option of going on the pill, and let it be her decision, or at least feel like it is her decision. Her and her 17 year old boyfriend may not plan on having sex, but at that age and with hormones ruling, things can get carried away fast, and before they realize it, it could happen and she could be pregnant. By going on the pill, she will realize and consider what she will be doing in advance, and hopefully be better prepared to make that decision.

Cindy - posted on 02/16/2010

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MY FIRST GRANDCHILD CAME BY WAY OF THE 15 YR NEIGHBOR GIRL OUR SON WAS 15 THEY TRIED TO TAKE CARE OF HIM BUT AFTER 4 MONTHS GAVE HIM TO A OLDER COUPLE WHO DESPERATELY WANTED A SON. HER MOM SAID NO TO THE PILL BECAUSE SHE FELT LIKE IT WOULD BE SAYING OK TO SEX. EVEN THOUGH SHE LIVES WITH A YOUNGER DRUG ADDICT. IT REALLY DOES HELP THE MENSTRUAL CYCLE,AND EVERYONE WILL FEEL MUCH BETTER AND SAFER. ITS GOING TO HAPPEN WEATHER YOU BELIEVE IT OR NOT,ITS PART OF GROWING UP AND LIFE.

Betty - posted on 02/15/2010

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a talk dont always work. I asked my son are you guys having sex. I am not asking to get in your business . I want to know if you or she needs protection. No mom where not having sex. A few month later his 14 yr old girl friend and he was 16 said she is pregnant.
I didnt want them making the same mistake I did.
I would try to talk to her. Or find a Aunt or someone she is close to try to find out. Kids dont usually open up to parents

Karen - posted on 02/14/2010

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I agree that you should put her on the pill and have found everyone's comments to be very helpful. My fifteen-year-old daughter still isn't having regular periods, probably due to previous problems with obesity, insulation resistance, and possibly polycystic ovarian syndrome. She hasn't had a period since November (a month when she had two), and she is NOT sexually active. I told my new OB-GYN nurse practitioner about it, and she said that if she isn't regular by age sixteen, then I should consider the pill. So you should definitely consider the pill if your daughter is having period issues.

My daughter and I also have an open relationship, and I know that right now she does not want to have sex. She has her very first "real" boyfriend, who is very shy (he will be fifteen next month). In fact, both of them are extremely innocent compared to some kids their age! They started out as good friends in summer school and the beginning of freshman year, and all they've done is kiss each other on the cheeks and give hugs. But I know that eventually the shyness will wear off, so I make sure to keep an "open door" in case she ever wants to talk. I'm so glad you and your daughter are also close and talk about things. Knowing you're on her side and rooting for her good health and success in life will help her if and when she's ever faced with a difficult decision, such as having sex.

Have you ever watched "Secret Life of the American Teenager" with your daughter? I'm just curious 'cause my daughter and I watch it. Those kids seem to think about nothing but sex! But it's a TV show, of course. But the nature of the show can be a stepping stone to dialogue, especially if a parent or child (or both!) is embarrassed to broach the topic.

Hope everything works out with you and your daughter! Take care.

~Karen

Diane - posted on 02/14/2010

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contraceptive issue can start with casual commetn about"when you do start hve sex remeber you need to use a condom as the pill is not 100% effective.



safe sex pratisees

Diane - posted on 02/14/2010

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being there myself ...............twice

bring up the period problem first

ask her does she want to get that sorted

next time she complains about her period

or get it

just suggest how about going onthepill to see if that will sort it out.

make the contraceptive side a side issue

dont make a big deal of it

Diane - posted on 02/12/2010

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This was the exact age my daughter had her first boyfriend and it turned to be very serious. I think it would be wise to put her on the pill and stress the use of condoms. Probably this young man is a senior at high school and he will have many activities he will involve your daughter like the prom. What happened to my daughter with her boyfriend is that they had sex on month before he was to leave for college...yes they do go away to college. That is another hurt she might go through. One month later they broke up because they were constantly fighting. My daughter's boyfriend filled her head with promises of her joining him in college, getting her engaged at 18 and eventualy getting married after college. It didn't work out and she almost had a nervous breakdown. I just wanted you to know this is a very sensitive age between 15 and 17.

Paula - posted on 02/12/2010

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I have sat here for the past half an hour or so and read the responses to your dilemma and the consensus seems to be YES put that girl on birth control... I am going to jump onto that band wagon but first I want to give you a pat on the back for having what seems to be a great relationship with your daughter where you can communicate with her about things like this. I myself hope that I have made the same line of communication with my daughters that you have made with yours but don't think she tells you EVERYTHING because she doesn't. Putting her on some kind of birth control be it the pill, patch or shot is the best thing for her. I am coming close to that myself my oldest daughter is 14.

Lisa - posted on 02/12/2010

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Its so young and such a shame that they don't wait. You could hope she doesn't like it and will wait till she's older but unfortunetly we can't stop these things and of course to be on the safe side the pill is the answer.

Michele - posted on 02/12/2010

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I will probobly be stoned for my viewpoint but here it goes. I have had 6 children, 4 of them are gilrs. My youngest is 12. All of my girls were virgins until they got married. I never offered them any contraceptive ideas. My girls were raised believing that thier virginity was a VERY special thing. They knew that once its gone, its gone. And what was once a very special and beautiful thing, was now an oddity if you still were a virgin. My girls were very proud to remain virgins. There were no unwanted pregnancies because they wanted to stay virgins, not because they took the pill. To me personally, If you offer a child ( yes child ) the pill or other forms of contraception, you are green lighting them having sexual activity. My girls knew from a very young age that having sex before marriage was not an option.
SEX IS FOR MARRIED PPL. IT IS NOT FOR CHILDREN!

Janie - posted on 02/12/2010

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Gayle first I would talk to her and find out if she is thinking of becoming sexually active.If she thinks she might want to have a sexual relation with this boy then I would get her on the pill/patch. I would also talk to her about being responsible in her sexual choices. Explain that the pill may protect her from getting pregnant but it does not protect against diseases. Let her know that if she is going to be having sex that the boy should also wear protection. I have raised 3 children and not one has given me grandbabies yet. They are 22,23,and 27 years old. My oldest my son, I told him if he was going to have sex with a girl to make sure it was with someone he was going to be with long term and to wear a raincoat. My daughters I told them to make sure the boy was not just wanting in their panties for just sex. I told them that if he truly cared about them then he would be willing to wait till they were ready.I also did put my girls on birth control....one on the patch and one on the pill.I hope this helps you.

Lori - posted on 02/12/2010

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I think it depends on your daugher and your relationship. I talked with my daughter from the time she was 15 and was seeing a boy very steadily. She would never own up to being sexually active, even though I had my doubts. She was going through a bit of rebellion in other ways when she was 17 and I just knew she was probably having sex, but I still didn't push it when she wouldn't admit it. She is now 19 (we made it out of high school), and has a baby. As much as I LOVE my new granddaughter, I wish I had pushed a little harder and made the decision for her. She is still attending college on-line and will return to campus next fall, but life will be more difficult for her. The easy way out would be to put her on the pill for her irregular periods.

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It depends on your moral or religious standards. You can explain to her the pill is strictly to control her menstrual problems, but it is not permission to be promiscuous. Explain to her the consequences of early sexual activity, that you trust her, but she is only human and her desires can overshadow her values. This subject just depends on the individual and the family dynamics.

Suzy - posted on 02/11/2010

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I am 55 years old and had my first child when I was 17 also. I had a husband when I got pregrant, but one year later after my first child was born I had a set of twins. After that my husband couldn't handle the babys crying and needing things like diapers and the other stuff that they needed so he started to hit me and yell then he left me and the babies. So I ended up raiseing them by my self. So please talk to your daughter about getting on the pill and explain how hard it really is to raise kids. My kids turned out great without their Father and just me, but it was very hard raising them. I had to work two jobs just to get the things that they needed and food. So God Be With You Like he was with me. If it wasn't for God I would never of made it. God Bless

Paula - posted on 02/10/2010

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Dear Gayle, Being a unwed Mom myself, just talk to your daughter like a friend and see how she feels. I never regretted by child, he is the heart and soul of me. Good luck and God Bless..

Sue - posted on 02/10/2010

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Hi, I would just talk openly with my daughter about going on the pill. My daughter has just had a baby at the age of 17, and only just 17, its not easy at any age to have a baby, she now realises just whats involved, her chilhood has now gone and she has had to grow up fast.

Suzy - posted on 02/10/2010

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I also have a daughtershe is now 30, but when she was 15 she just met this boy from Alabama and they started to see each other. So we talked about it like we did everything and she asked me if I throught she should go on the pill. I know that he was her first guy she had ever been with and I told her that I throught that she should. Now they have been together for 11 years and going on their 8 wedding anniversary and have the best grandson . The point is that she did go on the pill when they first met and now they have their own business and the best then is they waited to have a baby now they can enjoy him and not worry if someone else has to take care of him for them, because they got pregrant to soon. So yes if your daughter is serious about this boy I would talk to her about getting on the pill.

Sheila - posted on 02/09/2010

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I have only one daughter but from what I remember when she was a teenager with her period and from what her friends were experiencing at that time her period was VERY IRREGULAR. And now 10 yrs later and she is 25 yrs old it is VERY REGULAR for her...........so nature has taken it's coarse. Are children x4 kids with the oldest of 26 and the youngest 16 had so many many many interests with SPORTS, MUSIC and FRIENDS that the whole girl friend, boyfriend never really was an issue and if it did come up we said that until they were 16 yrs old, mature and thinking for themselves they were not allowed to DATE. They all 3 boys, and 1 girl had and still have a zillion friends, both BOYS and GIRLS who all hang out together on the sports fields, gyms, or our basement with band practices. When they felt like their relationships were abit stronger then 'just' friends they were in their early 20's and I have and had nothing to do with their choice of contraception. 15 to me just seems SO YOUNG to be SEEING or DATING especially where SEX was/is involved ???

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I took my daughter in to Planned Parent Hood . They need to go to places of all kinds . If you prefer to take her to her doctor i would wait no longer . I stayed in the waiting room and let them take care of her. Most of the time it is women at the PPh. and that place is a good place they found my cancer and my friends diebites and if you have a problem they will refer you to the right stop.

you know i seen that show on t,v, where all these girls got pregnant at the same time . now a day you have to take it as it comes still girls that are in college wind up pg. before they graduate.School is not the 1st thing some of them think about. Love and for someone to give them attention. some one they can speak there mind with and trust. then the sex comes if the guy is controling . in some cases just look at the soaps they are sleeping with there best friends this guy and that guy .

Yes it is very good that you have a great relationship with your daughter and talking is what makes the world go around. the trust. !!!!. I would make and appointment and they will do the rest . they will show all the different kinds of deseases that you can get and let them see what kind of method they would like to use there are alot of them out there these day. I hope that i have helped and have a nice day .

Terri - posted on 02/06/2010

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I am a born again christian, so I am pro life. With that said I also know that a close personal relationship with God is an individual one. The measure a person can lean on God for strength is individual. One person may can lean on God for strength when tempted to have sex, but another may not. When you are young lots and lots of ppl. don't have that strong tie to God's strength. I know we are spirit beings, but we are also human, too. I would put my daughter on the pill, because it only takes once, and their life has changed forever, and being young and raising young, too. It's not the best for ALL parties concerned. I don't advoacate sex before marriage, but I also know there are curiosities and kids will explore, and then there you are. Another life to be respondsible for. It's no small thing to bring another human being into the world and be a child yourself. There are uncalcuable consequences. I have 3 grandsons that would not be here if it were not for being young and curious, and I would NEVER, EVER, EVER change having them in my lives, but I think it also needs to be when 2 ppl. are financially able, and not a strain on their relationship to just stay above water and have to worry how to provide for them. And be mature enough to support each other.

Susan - posted on 02/03/2010

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If you have a good relationship with your daughter then you should sit and have a talk with her. I will tell you that my daughter and I also have had a good relationship. She swore to me that she would not have sex til she was married. But I was concerned when 2 of her high school friends had babies while in high school. She still swore she would not take any chances. She started dating when she was 16. I talked to her about going on the pill (she hates taking medicines, especially pills) and she was positive that I didn't have to worry about it. I should have listened to myself and put her on the pill. What I did not know was that when she graduated high school, she was pregnant. She is now 21 years old, going to college, working and taking care of a 2 year old (on her own). So yes, put her on the pill. My daughter loves her baby but there are times she misses being able to hang with her friends, cause she's so busy with real life.

Chris - posted on 02/03/2010

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I was in the same predicament recently. My daughter was having very heavy periods and not regular. I discussed putting her on the pill, for that reason only. I did make sure to tell her if she decides to have sex to use a condom too. We are pretty open and I honestly don't think she is having sex.
Now my oldest daughter was another story. I tried to be open and honest with her and I thought we had an open relationship, but that wasn't really the case. The only way I found out that she was having sex was when my husband was trying to be nice and empty her garbage and found a letter from Planned Parent saying her pap smear was abnormal and needed to be redone. We talked after that and I have gotten her to a gynecologist now. She is now 22 out of college and living with her boyfriend, but I still have to keep harping on her to get checked out. Tell her if she doesn't want to come to you, then at least do something on her own. Good luck.

Suzy - posted on 02/01/2010

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Hi. My daughter was the same guy that she married five years later and she and I also talked about everything just like my son and I do. She asked me when They first got together if I throught she should go on the pill. So we sat down with her boyfriend and talked about it. They both decided that she should so she wouldn't get pregrant until she finished school and they bothe got their own busy going a few years later. Now that they are settled with their own busy and school and college out of the way they have a beatuiful son. So I really think if your daughter is really happy with this boy you should all seat down and talk about it

Carol - posted on 02/01/2010

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My daughter is 30 years old now. When she was 15 I got her on the pill. I was very torn myself, by doing this is it giving her permission to go have sex? On the other hand, they would find a way if they really wanted to anyway. I choose to take her to my physician, get a physically and put her on the pill. I didn't want to leave it up to her to get it from the free clinic. Her boyfriend, by the way, was also 17. I felt better for the decision we made, and the fact that she got a proper examination before she even started the pills.

Jolene - posted on 01/30/2010

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As an older mother who has been there and done that, sit her down and have a heart to heart with her About the facts of them helping with getting her periods reg. and also that keeps the line open for just in case something happens..let her know that she is at an age where it becomes more important to keep the lines open for talking..and also getting a reg. scheldule of taking responsiblity for adult actions that she will need in the near future, but also she has you for help right now. And let her know it scares parents to think their little girl is growing up so fast. so give her a hug too.

Rosie - posted on 01/30/2010

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my daughter will soon be 15 and as much as it bothers me I am putting her on the pill no matter how much we talk about protection they r doin to do what they want to do, you are looking out for your daughter and pills is the best thing, I have a son that will be 18 in april and he is a daddy, I bought him condums and talked to him until my face was blue and he made me grandmother before graduating from school. You and your daughter have a close realtionship like I have with my daughter. I have already spoken to my daughter and she agrees becase like she saids you dont expect it to happen but when it happens it happens,

Suzy - posted on 01/30/2010

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Yes I think that you should put your daughter on the pill,but make sure that you seat her and her boyfriend down and explain to them why. Also ask her boyfriend to use a condom at tha=e same time. Then explain to them how hard it is to raise a baby on their own. Buying food, diapers, taking the baby to the Doctors when he or she gets sick, and no on is there to help them. Plus in todays world with all the prue presure from their friends they are going to want to go to parties and different things an won't be able to, because they have a baby and no-one to watch the baby.

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do you want your daughter to put herself at greater risk for cancer? Do you want her to put herself into a dangerous mindset, where she becomes available to be used for sex when there is no commitment or real love?
I think self respect, rules about moral conduct and even supervision for early dating years is much more responsible.
Certainly she can not have you making the medical choice for her, that is what doctors are for. But you should realize how many bad side effects and even permanant ailments may result from the wrong medical choices, and her life is just beginning now, she should not be making grown up choices when she is still a child.

Tonya - posted on 01/30/2010

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It's a blessing to have a open relationship with your daughter... And yes, I think you should talk to her about getting on the pill... If you don't, there maybe a possibility that in the 'heat of the moment', you will end up a young grandmother. Having a 17 year old boyfriend with 'radging hormones', makes for young parents...

Gwen - posted on 01/30/2010

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My daughter has been on medication for bipolar d/o since she was 15. She has been in therapy for 3 years now. She is on her 3rd nuvaring, and is doing okay with it. The effect on a teenager must be very individual. Each person must judge for themselves. Since we added it well after she began having problems and those problems were being well managed for a couple of years, changes would have been very evident to us.

Catherine - posted on 01/30/2010

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hi, when my two daughters now aged 24 n 25 started going out to parties in their highschool years and showing an interest in boys, i put them on the pill. i sat them down and told them that just because i was putting them on the pill did not mean i was giving them the green light to go ahead and have sex. i explained that sometimes when at parties bad situations such as rape or what ever can occur and as i wanted them to be able to go out and enjoy their teenage years with their friends i also wanted them to be protected against any unplanned pregnacy as well. i also told them that when they did meet a guy that they really did like and thinking of taking it to the next level to be sure it was what they wanted n not because they felt pressured into it and that they felt ready to do so, as the first time is meant to be special and cannot be undone and that sex between a couple can be a beautiful thing when everything is right and respect is there. i believe no matter how much we may want our daughters to wait till the right moment or a certain age, things do not always turn out that way. i wanted my daughters to know that they could talk to me about anything and that i would always be there for them and that no matter what happened in their lives i would always love them , once a mother always a mother. ps one daughter is now approaching 4th yr of marriage n i am still waiting to become a grandmother n the other daughter is enjoying life n no children either, but i am a very proud mother and feel blessed with two such loving daughters who do not always share everything with me but as i am there for them they too r there for me.

Martha - posted on 01/29/2010

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When my daughter started becoming interested in boys she and I had a talk about sex, pregnancy, diseases, etc. I told her if she ever felt like she was ready to have sex to let me know and we would do what it took to protect her from an unplanned pregnancy. When she was 16 she told me and we made an appointment with the doctor. Now at 23 she has a beautiful daughter that was planned and her life is on good footing with a stable relationship. Thank goodness we were able to talk about sex, and had the kind of relationship where she felt she could come to me. Yes, I would have the talk with your daughter and let her know when she's ready she should tell you before it happens and that it takes a month for the pill to become effective.

Sheila - posted on 01/29/2010

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I see that someone on here suggested looking into the nuvaring, too. Just wanted to mention that I tried that and experienced a wide range of emtional swings, unexplained bouts of rage. I finally looked up side effects online concerning the nuvaring and found many many women had this problem, which showed up within the first 1-3 months. ( I had used it for approx. 2 months, I think.) Well, I tossed that right out and I am thinking with a teenagers emotional swings already an issue, I wouldn't recommend the nuvaring. But if you do, at least be aware of these side effects.

Sheila - posted on 01/29/2010

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Definitely talk about it. Tell her if she is considering becoming sexually active, she needs to be protected early enough in advance and at her age, more than one type of protection is recommended b/c none are foolproof. Remind her that going on birth control in no way means she has made the decision. There are a lot of factors that she should consider before making that decision (not the least of which is the emotional aspect). It is a huge responsibility and shouldn't be taken lightly. Talk about the importance of choosing whom to give her virginity to, etc, too.

I had one daughter on birth control pills at a young age due to how ill she became with her periods and it helped tremendously. Another one was fine, but we talked frequently about birth control. (She had a steady bf that we were not approving of, but she was crazy about). I really encouraged her to maintain her virginity, but asked her to tell me when she was thinking she wanted birth control. When she did, though, I was foolish enough to think I'd talked her out of having sex. It was my husband who said one day to me that you could always tell when the girls became sexually active b/c their attitudes changed. I said, yes, I'd have to watch for that with this one. He LAUGHED at me and said are you serious, you haven't noticed? she's been active for a few months now. I called her out of her bedroom and asked her if she was sexually active. She said "well, now, I'm glad you asked that". I said "WHAT?!" My husband practically fell off the couch laughing at me. Luckily, we did not have an early pregnancy, and we ended up putting her on the shot instead. Good for 3 months, and more effective, I felt. (I'd had two pregnancies on birth control pills myself, and although I was very happy with each, I tend not to trust the pills so much.

You sound like you have a very good relationship with your daughter. Just be real, maintain that, and don't just talk, but listen, as well. Good luck. In the end, her decisions, right and wrong are all her own. The best we can do is to be there for them through it all.

Gwen - posted on 01/29/2010

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Most girls don't tell their mothers when they're first sexually active, even when they have pretty open communication sometimes. Also, plenty of girls have sex without planning or even wanting to. Teen choices are not always predictable. I made my daughter's first gyne appointment a day out for us two. Rather than perceiving the topic of getting birth control as mistrust, she was relieved, and some of her friends now ask me questions they're afraid to broach with their own mothers. I've given my teenagers both condoms and sponges, and told them that I had no way of knowing what they did; and if they didn't need them, to give them to a friend who might. I don't feel that is a "license." Statistics say most kids are going to have sex. It is insurance. They sometimes choose not to, but the parent is generally the last to know either way. They don't have to tell me the details. The nuvaring is much better than the pill for a teenager. You might look into that.

Michelle - posted on 01/29/2010

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If your not ready to be a grandmother, I would suggest you put her on birth control pills. The pills may also regulate her cycle.

Janet - posted on 01/29/2010

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I don't think it would hurt to mention it. I have a very open relationship with my daughters also and thought that I had taught them enough about birth control and contraceptives but I was wrong. I now have the most beautiful grand-daughter and grandson that are 71/2 weeks apart. Their moms were 16 and 18 when they gave birth. I wouldn't change being a grandma for the world but I just wish they were older and more stable when they had them. Talk to your daughter and just explain that you know how things happen and you are just protecting her health and future.

Eugenia - posted on 01/29/2010

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My daughter is 18 and a Senior and she went on the pill b/c she wants to finish school and graduate.She has a boyfriend.If my daughter was 15 and was having irregular periods I would suggest the pill b/c I heard that it helps regulate them.Trust that your daughter will come to you if she needs Mom..

Elizabeth Jane - posted on 01/29/2010

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Heck NO, you shouldn't put your daughter on the Pill? LOL I never thought there would be a day when I would ever agree. I thought it would give her more permission to have sex. But I did talk with her about it would be a great ideal. It was like giving her permission without her knowing about it. All I felt I did was plant the seed. Of course
she said at the time that she would never do anything, and I mention that this timeing is not always planned by us. I think that made her think abit more, and I never brought it back up. As months went by I notice pills sticking out of her purse. I was so greatful that she made the choice on her own and was to embassed to ask me, but thats OK, how important was that. I already suggested it would be a great idea, she didnt have to ask me. It took her a few more months after that to let me know she was on the pill and thats OK too. All that mattered it that she was! and took responsibility for herself. I just praised her and God. She planned her first pregnacey at 22.and has been a very mature adult. I also remember praying if this is your will for her then I would except that too!

BONNIE - posted on 01/28/2010

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Its really good that you are talking..Its good for both of you to have this open communication..I would mention this to her and talk to her about it..The 17 yr old is having alot of feeling surging through him at his age right now,where your Daughter being 15 is now starting to feel things and may even be shy about it..You need to have this talk and encourage this way of protecting herself..Also talk about trusting her is important, and this is another step in the trust as a parent to your child,that you trust her to be responsible..
Hope I helped some,
Bonnie Stark,
Lebanon,Tenn.

Nelly - posted on 01/28/2010

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it's best to know if she's cosidering having sex now...even when she's close to this young man, it may or not be in her plans. If you get a hint that it is happening or it may happen soon, I would recommend her to be pro-active and get condoms. The pill is only a contraceptive, which I think personally is a way better solution than teen-pregnancy or adoption; but STD's are there and condoms are ALSO a must. Just my humble opinion.

Catherine - posted on 01/28/2010

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my daughter was 15 when she went on the pill, it was her choice but she did discuss with me and i stood by her, she knew that she didn't want to get pregnant whilst still at school, although at the time she wasn't sexually active but was having trouble with her periods, she talked to the doctor who put her on a low dosage tablet which helped her, so i think in this day and age it is a good idea. my daughter is now 28 married with 3 beautiful children

Fonda - posted on 01/28/2010

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that's a hard one to answer. i do'nt have a daughter of my own. but, in todays' world, if she chooses to have sex. it would be a wise decision to put her on the pill. because if you say no, some teens will do it anyway! and there will be problems from that. teach her and tell her to wait. but, it will be her decison. whether it is the right one or not. that is reality. depends on the situation at hand. and morals that have been taught.. even christian girls will have the moral issue. all girls. just do what you think is best. :)...

Kim - posted on 01/28/2010

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I am a christian mom and I have to say no with putting your 15 year old daughter on the pill. I have a 14 year old daughter and that has never crossed my mind. I believe teaching Godly values and having children in church where they can be around other christian girls can help strengthen their moral values of staying pure til they are married. I also believe it is our job as a parent to monitor our children and not allow them to be in situations, especially at such a young age, that they are not ready to deal with. We need to educate them on the mental and physical outcome that this choice would have on them. I just think sometimes we rely on worldly views when we should be seeking God in such an important matter, after all he did entrust us these precious girls as gifts! The decision you make will have an impact on the rest of her life.

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