So many little Kids.. Ahh what about the big kids?

Rhonda - posted on 03/02/2009 ( 16 moms have responded )

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I am a 42 year old mom with a 25 year old big kid... Sure hope there will be some comments on these big kids... We all know they just never really grow up...Or do they? =-)

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Susie - posted on 08/10/2011

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I'm 54 with a 33 yr. old girl & 28 yr. old guy. Girl is married with 3 beautiful children. Guy is still living home. They do grow up, but you never stop parenting, praying or loving. Seems the old saying is true, that it takes a bit longer for boys. LOL Hang in there Rhonda...it will happen. :0)

Romana - posted on 08/08/2011

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Hi, I'm new to the circle and have two sons age 13 and 12.
Any comments on this age?/

Ann - posted on 07/10/2011

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ditto on the "big kids" I have 3, 2 boys 10 & 14, and a 17 yr old daughter. When I married my husband, we became the brady bunch (well almost, I don't think he'd go for his youngest having a sex change, jk) 18 yr old daughter & boys are 16 & 6...

Ginger - posted on 07/01/2011

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Mine are: 24, 19, 17, 14, and 10.... so um...yeah...pretty much been there done that and didnt get a frikken t-shirt from this 'Mom tour" all though the key chain is pretty nifty so I'll hang in a few more years! lol

Melissa - posted on 06/23/2011

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Faye ~ At least it seems to be dawning on him now! Better late than never. Now maybe he'll se things through YOUR eyes!

Jane - posted on 06/22/2011

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My step son is 40 and has never grown up, but then I only met him for the first time when he was 18 and had grown up as an only child.

My daughter is almost 19 and is doing a good job of becoming an adult, with a few regressions. By the time she left for college she could and did do her own laundry. She learned how to fill her car's tank and how to call someone when her car didn't work. She is responsible for making sure all her school bills get paid - I provide the money for most of them but she has to tell me what amount she needs in a timely manner. She gets her school work done and knows how to get help with concepts she doesn't understand, and she knows how to get a summer job successfully.

My son is 16 and doing his best not to grow up, but whenever he makes a demand, such as "I'm hungry!" I give him a flat look and tell him to go ahead and make something. He'll grow up someday.

Faye - posted on 06/22/2011

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His father. I have tried for the past 2 years! At first he did not have a job, ok fine. Once he was successful with the job, I wanted to give him 6 months to gather money so he could get a place of his own. His father would not hear of it. Now 2 years later his father has finally realized that he may have made a mistake in not insisting step son leave after a certain amount of time. Step son blew up a few weeks past and his dad told him he either straighten his attitude or move. WAKE UP CALL for both of them. Step son did not think dad you ever tell him that and dad finally realized what I have had to live with (while he is OTR) for the past 2 years.

Melissa - posted on 06/22/2011

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Hi, Faye ~ The question is, why would your stepson leave? He's getting everything he wants pretty much free of charge. He's not going to voluntarily leave unless he's told to. Who's not doing the telling?

Faye - posted on 06/22/2011

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I am 42 with an almost 20 year old (a few weeks) and a 16.5 year old.

My older one left the day after HS graduation a year ago because she could not stand my 25 yo step son.

Between my two and the fiance's two, we have four between 16 and 25. There are times my 20 yo, 16 yo and his 17 yo are more mature than his 25 yo.

I am sorry but by the time I was 25, I was married, lived with my husband in our rental and had 2 kids. His 25 yo works and has had the job for 2 years now but does not think he can make it on his own paying all his bills. Right now his bills are gas for my vechile (his died) and his cigs! He pays no rent to me or his dad. He comes and goes as he wants. He buys no food unless he is eating it right away. As a result unless my fiance' is home off the road (he trucks) I do not cook unless it is for my son and I.

Frances - posted on 06/20/2011

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ahh of course they grow up only because you cant stop the ageing process haha but i only have young children my eldest is 12 going on 21 so is it when they are 25 its like they are g oing on 15 cant quite get the gist of it yet..:)

Melissa - posted on 06/20/2011

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I was just about to quit the group because in their categories the " Big Kids " are the ones over FIVE! I'm fifty-five with a fifteen year old son. Wonderful kid - I just have some concerns I wanted to share, and to inquire whether anyone had any words of wisdom. ( Maybe both my son and I are too old for this venue..? )
And to Rhonda ; Yes they do grow up, but much of that depends on whether we require them to. Love can make it difficult to do the things out kids need us to do. As I tell my son, It would be SO much easier on me to give you want you want and be the "good guy" - But I love you, so I have to give you what you need.

Teresa - posted on 03/29/2011

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They never grow up! They just get more expensive toys.
I'm waiting for my oldest to make me a grandma...it'll never happen. One minute he's happy living with his gf at her mom's house, and the next he's calling me asking if he can move back in!
My 19 year old (today) is more mature. lol
He's the only one that even has a learner's license.
Kids today seem to have no ambition...or something. Yes, there are those that ARE all grown up at the age of 20, but it seems very few have an idea of what they want or where they want to go at this stage.
I think we all know of at least one 30 year old living in his/her mom's basement. lol
I still get calls from my 23 year old to drive him to work...ugh. lol

Claire - posted on 03/27/2011

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Hi Rhonda i am a 38 year old mum with a 19 year old son soon to be 20yrs old and he will never grow up, not while he's with mum :) but thats how i like it,but sometimes he's the adult and i am the child,but i was a young mum when i had Fran so we are as well best friends. :-)

Claire - posted on 03/27/2011

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Hi Rhonda i am a 38 year old mum with a 19 year old son soon to be 20yrs old and he will never grow up, not while he's with mum :) but thats how i like it,but sometimes he's the adult and i am the child,but i was a young mum when i had Fran so we are as well best friends. :-)

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Hi Rhonda, I am 42 with a 24, 23 & 20 yr. old (you do the math). funny you should post this. Just this morning I had to leave work to go help my married 24 yr. old daughter because she got sick on her way to work & threw up in her car. She freaked. This is not a irresposible girl. She has been married 3 yrs ( no she is not pregnant), owns her own home & is a special needs teacher, but let her get sick & I go from her mother to her mommy quick..

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