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teen giving up on activities thru school

Tammy - posted on 08/31/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I have a soon to be 16 yr old girl woho is being very persistent in quiting athletics. She has quit softball volleyball now is wainting to quit basketball. Her coach doesnt want her to quit and neither do I.. She has made everyone miserible in getting her way. She has made excusses everyday to get out of participating. The coach and I both believe that she doesn't want to do ther training required( running) because it hard. This is putting me between a rock in a hard spot. I believe she should stay This is a life coping skill. I dont want her quiting at everything

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Diane - posted on 09/11/2012

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Perhaps she would like to get involved with other school clubs or activities such as band, drama, debate etc.. Some people back away from sports when the level of competition becomes more challenging and pushes them out of their comfort zone.

Bobbie - posted on 09/05/2012

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Hi Tammy,

I know it is just a few lines of text and difficult to get your full point across so I am only going on what I read here. From the opening line, that she wants to quit all athletics, it sounds to me that she has given you a heads up that she doesn't want to do sports anymore. Is it a case of not listening and signing her up for sports anyway? I don't know how it works with the sports you mention. Since it just now the beginning of the school year is it basketball season?

I am wondering how she is making everyone miserable by requesting that she no longer do athletics. Am I missing something? As her mother I am not understanding how that puts you between a rock and a hard place with the coach. Did you and the coach decide what she would play this year based on past years participation?

What did she say was her thinking on why so wants to quit athletics. Could be that she is just not competitive by nature and doesn't like that part of sports. Or it could be that she just wants to have the time to find new things that interest her. As I said, I don't understand where the pressure you are feeling is coming from.

In closing, it is not up to parents to choose a set path for a child simply because they show promise or skill. A child needs to blaze their own paths. My daughter didn't continue to participate in the same things from one year to the next. That is not quitting. That is making a choice to strike out and try something new.

Tammy - posted on 08/31/2012

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anyone have suggestion im at the end of my rope.

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