Dawn - posted on 01/27/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )
I am having to deal with the teen prenancy issue again! My son got his girlfriend pregnant when he was 20 and she was 17. They were planning on getting married anyway, but still - she was way to young to be a mom and still is. They got married and now are divorced with my beautiful granddaughter in the middle.
I had hoped my younger daughters learned from this and for awhile I thought they had. But last week my 19 yr old daughter told me she was pregnant. I lost it b/c I have wanted so much more for her. She is to graduate from college in May with a Massage Therapist degree/certificate. She is living with her boyfriend and been on birth control. She called the other night after she went to the emergency room b/c they thought she miscarried. She had a rough weekend and went back to the er yesterday and has definitely lost the baby. I am sad for her - it's rough to lose a baby through miscarriage and she knows that i have. But she is so angry with me b/c I didn't want her pregnant to begin with.
I just pray she rethinks this and doesn't get pregnant again until they are married, she is out of college, has a good job and insurance and most definitely ready to the commitment of being a mom. I also hope my youngest daughter has learned from all this.
I am 45 and still making lots of mistakes at being a mom and grandma. What can we do about this? So many young girls are having babies and the babies are suffering.