The modern Way

Pamela - posted on 02/27/2009 ( 1 mom has responded )

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Times have changed so much since the 70's when I had my children and so my advice often falls on deaf ears. Something which was the newest thing in 1974 has been hailed as the wrong thing to do in the 2000's. Mums today have a lot of time saving devices and things like throw away nappies, baby monitors etc that we didn't have but then they need them because unlike my generation most mums today have to work. We used to spend 10 days in hospital for a rest after birth and had our babies put in a nursery while we had 10 good nights sleep. The babies were only given to us at feed times which were structured around the "every 4 hours" rule. When the babies were fed they were wisked back to the nursery so we could get back to our visitors, chatting to other mums or just resting. This also got the baby into a routine for us when we finally got home with them. There was no demand feeding so we could plan our day around the feed times which were usually 6.00a.m. 10.00am 2.00p.m. 6.00p.m. 10.p.m. and 2.00a.m. The babies were put straight back to bed after burping and usually stayed in this routine until about 3 months old when they stopped waking at 2.00 a.m. My housework was always up to date even with three small children under 5 and I think this was because I could always plan my housework around the feed times. Today's mums only have about 2 days in hospital with the baby in their room so there is no rest, the babies are fed on demand so there is no routine for the baby or mother, housework has to be left, mothers are more tired and today they have controlled crying. Most of today's mums like to have their babies in with them and going home after 2 days in hospital but I think we were really spoilt. My children all survived and had great childhoods and have grown up well adjusted successful adults what do you think about the difference in the 70's versus 2000's

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Julie - posted on 02/28/2009

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wow i had my kids in the 80`s i had routine with 4 children i keeped a clean house all washing was done meals on the table also worked fulltime when the youngest was 3 today they need to be taught, i must admit i chose to have another child in 2003 what a joy i discharged my self from hospital after 10 hrs, he was put straight into routine, often my other children couldnt understand how we fed him no junk or never let him out stay his bedtime, i must admit where ever we go he listens to what we say and no`s the word no, i think the younger generation should be allowed to stay in the hospital until they have a routine or home help like they did in the 80`s ive i had a few hiccups with my older kids but i still love them no matter what, and all i can do is set a example for them so pamela answer to your question times have changed.