TIred Mom over 40
MOST HELPFUL POSTS
I felt the same when mine were toddlers. Some days I was afraid I would not be able to function. My youngest is now 5 (I am 48). The thing that helped me the most was getting out. Whether it was to the mall, the childrens museum, the childrens section of a book store or to the park. Sometimes it was difficult to get ready to go, but once out of the house it was easier - especially once in car seat strapped in for the drive-LOL Best wishes!
Cathy - posted on 08/06/2009
The younger moms are lying to you....Everyone with a toddler is exhausted. You just learn to accept it and make the. most of it. The hardest thing to do is to find time just for you! If you can manage to make time just for yourself you will be amazed at how energized and positive you feel for the rest of the day. (easier said than done but it's worth attempting)
Laura - posted on 08/10/2009
I have to agree with the moms that say get it checked out. I've been hypothyroid since I was 13 and that can creep up on you slowly. I took a year for us to realize it wasn't me just being a teenager, I could barely do anything outside of the normal days activities. Recently I went to the doctor complaining about somethings, exhaustion being one of them and we were going to test for early menopause(more likely to happen in people with hypothyroidism) and diabetes. Couldn't do the tests yet because of insurances changes but then discovered I wasn't taken as many vitamins as I should. I started talking the full amount(4xa day) and it made a huge difference. I thought since I eat healthy and I'm not over weight 1 should be enough. Well I was wrong. So, take your vitamins and see your doctor.
Corrine - posted on 08/10/2009
It is harder when your older, but It is hard anyway. You just have to make sure you eat lots of realy good food, get some exercise, take vitamin suplement if you think It would help. It gets easier as they get older they sleep better so you do to. I went and got tested for Celiac disease which is an intolerance to wheat gluten. If you take wheat out of you diet not only will you loose weight, your body can digest food better so your vitamin intake is higher. Hope it helps
Lynn - posted on 08/10/2009
Hi, I am 43 my children are son 4 and daughter 2. If you think you are more than just over tired ALWAYS see a DOCTOR and if possible don't tell them you have young children. It is far too easy to blame the children for tiredness. I was athletic before my first pregnancy, my second - something was wrong and the doctors kept putting it down to running after my son. Yeah after my heart stopping many many times and hospital visits some help arrived. I now have a pace maker. I am a lucky mum. I was also taught in a music class for babies to help your children in their development to appreciate their own time out as well as mummies. From 6 months my son was told he was just chilling out and recharging and when he did this I told him that I was just having a re-charge. He respects my time out (All 5 minutes of it) No it really does work. I don't feel guilty if I catch half of Oprah. Don't forget we mummies are 24/7 including teaching self worth. If my children see me relax for half an hour I hope it instills in them that their own time is also valuable. I feel brain dead at the moment so I hope I made sense. It is also my first time doing this on facebook. Take Care of You - All Mummies. PS AGE - I'm still fitter than a lot of 20ish girls.
Hil - posted on 08/09/2009
I have a four year old and I've been tired since about month 7 of my pregnancy LOL He's not even a crazy, rambunctious boy, but I find the constant attention I need to give him just drains me out completely.
I have been hypothyroid for at least 9 years, and just recently went back to the Dr. to get medication again (have been off it for 3+ years from sheer laziness) and I hope that'll help me perk up again. I think I'll try to force myself to get on the ellipitical again once a day, too..
Vivien - posted on 08/07/2009
YEP! I hear you! I'll be 41 in September and I have a 3 year old. I am sooo tired, I don't get much sleep because my son has asthma and now he says he has bad dreams... so I wake up tired and by the end of the day I'm exhausted and grumpy. I also know of mothers who are in their early to mid thirties and they don't seem to complain. I've been told to try doing more exercise (not that I sit on the couch all day!) but I'm so tired by the end of the day! I always try to find some time for myself, to do something I like, and when the time comes, something always happens and nine out of ten times I end up doing something else... I guess this is what we signed up for!
Kimberley - posted on 08/07/2009
If you're a mother, exhaustion is part of the job description! Seriously, do get a check up. I told my doctor that I was tired and he tried to blame it on four kids, blah, blah, blah. Then he did my bloodwork and my thyroid was practically non-functioning! That was ten years ago and what a difference! Once you know it's not physical, then try to get as much good sleep as possible, taking some "me" time when you can. Easier said than done, right? Yeah, I remember. If you can, nap when your toddler naps. If you don't dare (they always wake up before us right??) then see if you can "trade" days with another mom in your area. "Okay, I'll take an hour nap on Monday and Wednesday, and you can do the same on Thursday and Tuesday, and we'll arm wrestle for Friday!" But yes, being tired is part of being a parent. The younger moms have no more energy than you do, they just recover a little faster I think. (Remember when you could stay up all night with your friends and still somehow function the next day? - yeah, neither do I.)
Exercise is a good idea, too. Try to find a gym that provides childcare and go three times a week. Make that committment to yourself.
Good morning:) I have 3 boys ages 4, 6, and 12. I am a 42 year old teacher. Often times I am up until midnight doing things just for me or my class. My youngest is up around 6 a.m. each morning. My husband insistes that I take naps on the weekends. It helps me feel more refreshed and appreciated. There is also a local gym that has child care included in the price of membership. The younger boys love going to the play room while I get to spend some time with the older one on the treadmill, bikes, or eliptical.
Michele - posted on 08/07/2009
i have twin boys turning 5 and a 10 month old girl, 41 here and it takes its toll, i started exercising again 4-5 times a week and it really has increased my energy level. i sleep like a rock at night but i think i get more done .
Carol - posted on 08/07/2009
Hi! I have a son who turns 9 in a few days and a daughter who is 6. I will be 50 next month and yes I am tired all the time!! LOL! No really I am doing better now but last year it became increasingly more difficult to deal with how tired I would get. I would get the kids up, feed and get them dressed and drive them up to school and when I got back to the house I was so tired I couldn't hardly function. I went to the Doctor for something else and I happen to mention to him how tired I was. I am so glad I did because they ran my blood work and found out I was severely anemic almost to the point of needing blood transfusions! It scares me to think I almost didn't say anything to my Doctor because you always hear it is normal for Moms to be tired. My Doctor said that if I had been in a car accident I would not have survived. My Doctor put me on vitamins and now I feel better than I have in a long time. I still get tired but it is more manageable. I hope this helps!
Join Circle of Moms
Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.Join Circle of Moms