Miko - posted on 08/06/2009
this is a really tough phase for them. I have 2 girls (19 and 10) so i've done this once before. Just remember they are going thru hormonal surges and dealing with a changing social structure too. Not to mention trying to figure out all the changes in their friends and their behavior. It can be a stressful time for them. My 10 yr old gets very emotional at times or just snaps at us for something small out of the blue. I don't get worked up but calmly tell her when she crosses the line to being disrespectful in as few a words as possible and then I shut up. I wait until another time usually later that day or the another day soon after when everyone is calm and in a decent mood and we talk about it. I say how it made me feel when she acted that way and ask her what's really going on and then again... i shut up and really listen. Listening goes along ways with tweens and gives us the practice we definitely need with the teens. Good luck and hope this helps. Miko
Kris - posted on 08/06/2009
Thanks Fiona - the emotional roller coster has already started - so I need to get a lot of food, keep them active and give them hugs even when they are yelling they hate me because i just don't understand them - my oldest is definitely trying to win an Oscar!!
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