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Kris - posted on 08/06/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hi, I am a mom who at 42 have a 9 1/2 year old girl, an 8 year old boy and a 6 1/2 year old girl.

Any, hints on dealing with a tween.

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Miko - posted on 08/06/2009

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this is a really tough phase for them. I have 2 girls (19 and 10) so i've done this once before. Just remember they are going thru hormonal surges and dealing with a changing social structure too. Not to mention trying to figure out all the changes in their friends and their behavior. It can be a stressful time for them. My 10 yr old gets very emotional at times or just snaps at us for something small out of the blue. I don't get worked up but calmly tell her when she crosses the line to being disrespectful in as few a words as possible and then I shut up. I wait until another time usually later that day or the another day soon after when everyone is calm and in a decent mood and we talk about it. I say how it made me feel when she acted that way and ask her what's really going on and then again... i shut up and really listen. Listening goes along ways with tweens and gives us the practice we definitely need with the teens. Good luck and hope this helps. Miko

Kris - posted on 08/06/2009

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Thanks Fiona - the emotional roller coster has already started - so I need to get a lot of food, keep them active and give them hugs even when they are yelling they hate me because i just don't understand them - my oldest is definitely trying to win an Oscar!!

Fiona - posted on 08/06/2009

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lots of food in the house, lots of sports, lots of laughing and lots of hugs. Thats about it I think.

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