what do you do when your grown son wont talk to to you and you have given him space for 3years and have no idea why he is mad at you

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Rhonda - posted on 03/30/2013

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My son has alienated me too. I am in my middle 50s, and alone. I have tried repeatedly
to contact him. I don't understand why he lets me into his life and cuts me out. This last time however, I think is forever.
I just don't understand. I love him so much and worry about him. He is my only child.
It hurts so badly, I can't stand it. I would do anything, anything for him.
Nothing makes sense. I feel my heart is almost dead from everything, and heavy and hurting.

Zenaida - posted on 08/15/2013

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Thank you for the encouragemnet!
About starting a conversation: that as if you deal with the normal person! When it comes to my son: no matter what I say, even asking him "how are you?" He just answers rudely on anything I say, he doesn't give a damn. If we both (me my DH) are gone today, he'll find the cheapest option as how to get rid of us quiclkly and hopefully for free, throwing us into pauper grave if at all!

I pray to God every day, every awakaning moment of my life (God must be extremely tired of me by now). I hope this is just a phase, but maybe not.
One thing is for sure: Silence is GOLDEN in my case. I am not a doormat, and it is not OK with me to tolerate nasty attitude and money mooching even from my only child.

I do believe : children are not given to us forever, at some point we m ust let them go to live their life, to figure it al out on their own terms. it is devastatng as not being able to get included, but I embrace my life and will live fully and happy no matter what!

Trust me: I tried many times to reach out to my only son. The effect has been the same as talking to the brick wall. The only difference: brick wall can be demolished, and re-build, but bone-headed thinking CAN NOT! You all are welcome to try it. Any suggestions are appreciated.

Zenaida - posted on 08/12/2013

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My 27 y.old son acts as a JERK! he is a pathological liar, who recently con us (his parents) with forged checks. I knew in my gut it was a con, yet believed his lies.
He only talks to us when needs money, than treat both of us as dirt.

In fact I want him out of our lives for good. I don't care if never spoke to him again.
he was truly my LOVE before the age of 12. it was very difficult to co-op with his crap when he was 14 and through high school. He "grew" to alienate himself from us, his friends give him advice as how to live. He owes thousands to credit cards. I won't be surprised if at some point he'll end up in jail.

He told us : he doesn't need any advice, just our money and a lot's of it. Recently asking if we have a will and if all is going to be his after we're gone.

I believe for few lucky people children are blessing, but for the majority of folks children are menace. Since early childhood our only child was given good opportunities, he truly was a blessing and sweetest boy before age of 12. Then things went south: now we've got this monster with huge sense of entitlement, arrogant and self-centered.

I am through with his crap and attitude. I am not a doormat, and can overcome the grief. Eventually we all have to come to understanding: God gave us children for very short time, then we Must let them go to live their life, we have no influences upon.

We raised the entire generation of self-centered Mooches, and now paying the awfully cruel price.

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just to let you know I am going through the same mess. I raised my son the best I could . when he was a child we had the best relationship , the best holidays. we travel. I was a single parent and a working parent. his father never was there, by me having brothers he spend a lot of time with his uncles. I allowed him to visit his father even tho his father never was there, before his father died , I truly believe his father told him a lie regarding why he was not in his life, after he came from gary Indiana, the hold relationship I had as a mother to my son truly changed drastically. I was shocked. lies he tell his friends that I abused him (which in not true) about me. and it really hurts. the only time I see him is when he needs money and that's it so I came to a conclusion just to leave him alone and just pray and move on with my life. my son is 32 years old. and I don't know his address, he would not give it to me and I just step away. always money he needs . never a happy mother day card a birthday card nothing of the source. I don't know what happen nor does my family. ...I just except the fact that im nothing to him anymore. cant feel sorry for myself. I just moved on with my life because he has done the same. he has all the space he needs. I cant ruin my health or cry my eyes out anymore because he has refused me as him mom. no more tears I have to cry. I became strong and moved on with my life. whenever I see someone who needs help with their little ones I volunteer my time with them and just keep living....some people in this world is just so ungrateful. go on with your life . if it meant to be that our children will except us, that will be fine --if not move on . enjoy your life

Tamie - posted on 07/13/2013

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It makes no sense that your daughter has not spoken to you for 20 years. She is an adult and needs to act like one, but she chooses to act like a spoiled child. I would suggest that you tell yourself that you were a good parent. Then pray that God will intervene with your daughter. Leave your daughter in Gods hands and move on and live your life to the fullest.

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Maggie - posted on 04/04/2014

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I am 52 with 3 adult kids the eldest 27 he became emotionally detached from us several years ago his excuse for not involving himself in family is he can't stand the drama bullshit! He does however involve himself very much with his wife's family which is great I don't believe we have pushed him aside and my husband has always told me what a wonderful mother I have been, I don't like saying this as it sounds like blowing my own trumpet.

His wife has just had a baby boy he is beautiful we sent a text but feel unwanted as if we don't know where we stand my other 2 children are hassleing me its almost as if he is little again fallen over and the other 2 are telling me off for not caring but he is 27 an adult living his own life and my other 2 kids are making me feel that I am not entitled to one!

Cheryl - posted on 03/05/2014

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I am going through almost the same thing. Our son landed a six figure job at the age of 24. He lives with his g/f and she does not work (she is finishing nursing school this year, already has her bachelors in biology.) Anyway, he NEVER calls me. He will respond to my emails but that is it lately. I just emailed him and rec'd an instant reply that he is on vacation! He never called to let me know, haven't heard a word. I have been telling him that I would like them over for dinner (since the beginning of the year) and he keeps putting us off. I AM DEVISTATED...I am in tears as I love him so much! My husband said that his g/f is his priority now...well, if she is such a "family" person like my son told me a year or so ago then WHY doesn't she suggest stopping by our home or coming over for dinner??????? She spends time with her mother, so she knows...she is not stupid! In my eyes she is living off of him, he bought her a brand new jeep 2014 and pays all the bills as she is not working. So therefore, my head and heart are broken...any advice would be truly appreciated! I cannot go on like this much longer...........feeling abandoned in Michigan :(

Maz - posted on 02/14/2014

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Pat, no sleep for me last night either. Lots of tears, weekends are the worst times for me.

I have no daughter in law or girlfriend influencing my son. He has always been low key but this waiting, waiting, hoping, begging, praying to the Universe that he contacts me upon his own volition is so very destructive. His military portraits have just been posted to me (upon his graduation). They are still in the packing. I am too afraid to take them out and hang them. I touch the box when I go past it. However, to see them on the wall, his darling face staring out into my silence. His face - but no voice on the phone. I simply cannot bring myself to hang the pictures!

Pat - posted on 02/14/2014

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My Dear Maz - My heart goes out to you as I, too, did nothing but love my son unconditionally. He, like me, is a victim of his evil mate and her family. They turned him against me and against God. They are all atheists. I wish I could help you . . . I wish someone could help me. I want to sell all my belongings and my house and move somewhere else but I cannot do it on my own. I wish I had someone to help me accomplish this. I pray for you to find some peace from within. I am also all alone and very lonely. Love and hugs -Pat

Maz - posted on 02/14/2014

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I AM HURTING AS WELL. MY HEART IS TURNED INSIDE OUT WITH GRIEF AND PAIN. I AM JUST SOBBING AS I TYPE (EXCUSE THE CAPS BING ON LOCK). I WOULD GIVE ANYTHING TO BE WITH YOU ALL NOW SO WE COULD HUG EACH OTHER. I AM SO ALONE, LONELY AND IN PAIN. I CAN ONLY PRAY MY SON CONTACTS ME. I HAVE DONE NOTHING WRONG, NOTHING.

Pat - posted on 02/12/2014

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Traci - I can identify with what you are going through. My son has not yet married his girl - they just live together, but she controls him body and mind! I have given up any hope of ever seeing him or having a relatioship with him again. My heart breaks for all of us moms in this situation. I will pray for you and all who must suffer this dreadful curse. Pat

Tricia - posted on 02/11/2014

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I never thought I would be writing this but my only son married a woman who was nice at the beginning but has turned out to have a narcissistic personality and my son is like a Stepford Wife; he sounds just like her now. Everything I did during his childhood was wrong. I haven't seen my grandson since he was two months old - he is seven months old now and they both use him as pawn to get me to apologize for everything I have ever done. Everyone told me to cut them off, but I tried hard to fix things. I am starting to realize that because of the abuse and the disrespectful way they both treat me, maybe my friends are right. If only I could get over the depression I have suffered since this began shortly after they married. Tricia

Staci - posted on 02/10/2014

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Hi I am new to this site. I have a 15 yr old son and we have a horrible relationship. We were very close up until my ex husband and I divorced. My ex has made sure that everything in my life is hard. I am very strong but my ex has poisoned my son against me. My son disrespects me constantly. I love him to death but I feel I need a break from him. He is a good kid, awesome athlete but lacks respect. I blame my ex for that. He won't help me in anyway with this situation, very bad parenting I cry all the time and idk if this right to do but I feel until he shows love I need to stop seeing him. I feel guilty but I don't feel I deserve this. I am just looking for advice. Thank you

Bettina - posted on 02/04/2014

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My heart breaks for every one of you, it's been almost 5 years since I saw my son. I finally got a letter from him on Friday - incredible. It's like I've come back from the dead. I haven't seen him in so long, but the letter came after I finally stopped all contact for the last year. He had asked me not to contact him at all. No gifts, no birthday cards, nothing. It was like living with constant grief, but he wrote to me this time on his own, wanted to let me know he got into college, got a perfect score on his entrance test. I have no expectations of anything else. I always thought if he contacted me I would be so hurt and angry I would let him have it or refuse to even respond. But no, I am proud of the way I wrote back. I told him how proud of him I am, how I understand about his not wanting contact yet (he mentioned this) and that I hope to hear from him again but will let him decide. His letter ended with "with love" (amazing), mine ended with "love, mom". I feel so at peace just getting that letter, I'm grateful for any sign of life. My prayers are with every one of you moms (and dads), I hope with all my heart you can just live your lives and try to be happy till maybe something changes. I am just happy he's alive, well. I have no expectations of anything right now, just thankful for what I have.

Diane - posted on 01/31/2014

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i think I am also going to get the book "When parents Hurt." Pat i am praying for you and all of us to get through this heartbreaking time. As others have said on this site, "No one can take away the love that is shared between a mother and son/daughter." It is there even though one side doesn't show it. Try to hang onto that Pat and i will continue to pray that your situation will change.

Kara - posted on 01/31/2014

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Hi Pat, I keep pretty busy, which is recommended in our case so we don't go stir crazy thinking about what we can't control! I try & keep some hobbies going, I have 2 Lg breed dogs that are difficult for me at times (my ex took them in the divorce then told me a yr later he lost his job in TX & if I didn't take them he would put them in the pound) That was short for I met someone who hates dogs. Lol These are incredible Chocolate Chesapeake Bay retrievers & know tons of tricks,beautiful creatures as well as amazing friends so I got them back & won't give them up again despite it is tough for 1 person who has to work & support herself too! I highly recommend a doggie door that has a 6ft fenced in area! Life savor!! I also go to dinner w/ friends occasionally & as hard as it is to not keep thinking of my absentee daughter, I have to occupy my time with other activities so I don't end up too bumbed out & in a funk! Wouldn't take much! I pray you have hobbies & can find things to keep your mind busy!

Ann Broughm - posted on 01/31/2014

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I had a visit with my doctor this morning and talked about how much the situation with my daughter in law has escalated to them not talking to me now. I broke down - she sat and listened and gave me a little advice. Just to back off for now - let things calm down. My son knows where I'm at and he will come back - the love he and I have just does not go away. She's asked if I could look at taking some therapy - that's my next step. We have an employee assistance program at work that I'm going to look into - hear unbiased professional advice. Speaking with you all here is helping me also - I look foward to seeing your posts.

Pat - posted on 01/31/2014

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Hi, Kara. I live in SC and am retired for a major university. It is early . . . I did not sleep at all last night as I had my son on my mind. This is a usual situation for me. God Bless you and all who are in our similar situation. Pat

Kara - posted on 01/30/2014

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Hi Ann, I would consider reading the book you recommended "When Parents hurt". I am new to this site & need any & all the support I can get!! Thanks, Kara

Kara - posted on 01/30/2014

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Hi Pat, I love Colorado & have a good RN position here. I would like to jump back in school to move up the Nursing ladder(14mo. of online courses) With my luck if I moved back to WI (which is not condusive to the weather in CO at all & my Dad's side is there. They are not the friendliest or most supportive bunch of people to me other than a few of them), my daughter & her husband would probably announce her pregnancy & then would want me in her life. IDK. I just ended a relationship with a man also in WI that is not at all what I am looking for, yet he insists we are meant to be. Anyway, my Mothers side is very supportive, yet have no idea all the issues between my daughter & I. I try to just leave her name out of as many topics as possible because I am mortified she has completely isolated me from any aspect of her life! If I have to talk about her I keep it short & as positive as possible to not direct any negativety towards me as I feel ashamed as it is. No sense adding fuel to the fire, right? Where are you from? I am considering getting the book that Ann on here recommended "When Parents hurt". Prayers, Kara

Christine - posted on 01/30/2014

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Please don,t cry ,since going on this site I have realized we r not alone ,I know it,s hard as I am going through the same thing with my eldest son ,yes I to think my heart is braking BUT instaed of forcing the issue which only ends up with us arguing I look at it in another way , I say a prayer everynight asking for help with my son ,when we do speak I always tell him I love him and my door is always open ,that way they will know you care xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Pat - posted on 01/30/2014

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Thank you, Ann. I hope you are right, but in my heart I do not think I will live long enough to see this happen. I am slowly dying from a broken heart . . . it hurts so bad. I am sitting here crying as I type this message.

Ann Broughm - posted on 01/30/2014

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I will pray for you Pat - I've reread your posts and it's so sad when the years it took for you to raise your boy seemingly have been dismissed by him. I don't believe they have - it's deep in his heart. That cannot be taken away. Believe in that.

Pat - posted on 01/30/2014

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Ann, I wish I could call my son. I can't as he has both my home phone and my cell numbers blocked from calling him. Also, he has a restraiining order that prevents me from going to his house. It is so sad . . . as he lives only 5 miles from me and it is like we live on 2 different planets. Please pray for me. . . . Pat

Ann Broughm - posted on 01/30/2014

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I've been reading some of the older comments posted here and found a couple that speak to what I'm doing right now and find encouraging. I will continue to do what I'm doing - each week I'll call and leave a message that I'm thinking of them (my son and his family), leaving a positive message. I will continue to send cards and gifts and remember them on special occasions and pray. I have to trust that my life is unfolding as it should and and the belief that God will show me that way. This gives me the strength to take each day as it comes as my motto in live has always been to "believe and it will happen."

Ann Broughm - posted on 01/29/2014

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I've tried every week leaving phone messages to say hello, thinking of them, and wishing to skype to see the grandbabies - still no response.

Has anyone read "When Parents Hurt" by Dr. Joshua Coleman. I just watched a segment from the Today Show where he had a single mom talk about her daughter cutting her off when she was in college. It's been 7 years and she's beside herself as to why. There's also some testiments on his website where people have thanked him for his guidance that has helped them get their relationships back. It's worth a try.

Pat - posted on 01/29/2014

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Dear Kara, yes, he is my only son and only child. I have no family lett. I am not in very good health. I own my house but wouild like to sell everything in it and then sell it and move somewhere else, but I have no one to help do this. Do you have family anywhere? Do you want to move somewhere else? I sure do. I hope you do, because it gets very, very lonely for me. God Bless you!

Kara - posted on 01/29/2014

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I am sorry to hear that Pat! Is he your only son? I thought you said that earlier. I have only 1 daughter, which makes it difficult on us. At times I wish I had more so I'd have 1 that I felt loved me. I moved here to CO when she was 5, so I have no family here other than her. It really sealed the deal for her not talking to me as it seemed when I divorced my husband in '11 after 8 or so yrs together. Thanks for your reply. And yes prayers go so far! God bless you!

Christine - posted on 01/28/2014

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I am always nice to my daughter in law even though I can not stand her but its the only way to keep seeing my grandson ,I just smile ,but inside I,m fuming but I find that if these women think it,s bothering you then it just makes them worse x

Pat - posted on 01/28/2014

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Kara, the woman that my son lives with (x 3 years) and her family are VERY controlling. She was int he Army and was in Iraq and has a military mind. She and her family have manipulated my son in ways that I never would have thought possible. . . latest I heard was they talked him into getting the Mark of the Beast tattoo on his arm. The entire family are atheists and believe in the Illuminati. I just don't understand where my son's head is . . . I gave him life and then gave him my life. All we can do is pray. Love and Hugs

Diane - posted on 01/27/2014

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I am so sorry that you are going through this Amy. It is so hard for nmother-in-laws especially when you are the mom of a son. As you know the female has the most say when it comes to schedules, arrangements and many other things. The guys just usually go along. Your son loves this women for some reason and unfortunately he is listening to her now. No matter how difficult, you have to try to get along with her. Otherwise your son and grandchildren will be kept away. I have a similar situation with my daughter-in-law. i try really hard to bite my tongue and keep my mouth shut. Believe me it is quite difficult but is soooo worth it. i feel like the better person and i get to see my son and three beautiful granddaughters. I even offer to help my daughter-in-law and babysit sometimes. that helps too. I would say stay away for a week and then tell your daugher-in-law that you would like to start new. Then start killing her with kindness...not so that it is evident but a little at a time. I know it will be difficult but if u want to keep your son and grandchildren it is vital.

Christine - posted on 01/27/2014

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i have to walk on egg shells if i do get to see my grandson , my sons girlfriend has called me everything , oh bless you i know exactly how you feel ,i to go to bed thinking of him then when i wake up he is on my mind again , i miss my son loads , i see other people with there grown up kids and i,m so envious of them ,then i find myself blaming myself again .

Kara - posted on 01/27/2014

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Hi Christine, I get it.....my Mom died when I was 33, the same age she was when she gave birth to me. I left WI at age 23 & 10 yrs later I believe she died of a broken heart because her loving Gr.Daughter & I moved away to CO. Yet we were young how were we to know? Hopefully one day our kids will learn too. We only have 1 chance her on earth & life is just too short. Praying for you!!

Christine - posted on 01/27/2014

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Ihave just joined this group as I felt I was the only one going through this ,it is so nice to be able to express how you really feel and know you are not alone ,it is so hard when your grown up kids don,t want to know you ,I try to keep contact but it is so hard ,I know my eldest son is being influenced by his girlfriend as she does not like me, if it,s any help to anybody I always send my son messages to let him know door is always open and that I will always love him no matter what x At times I want to scream at him to grow up but I know that will only shove him further away and things are bad enough as it is . Having lost both my parents last year suddenly I don,t want him to suffer my pain as I have learned the hard way ,us parents will not be here forever and then there is nothing ,Thanks for listening

Kara - posted on 01/27/2014

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Ronnie, my Dad used to tell me to bake them something & take it over. That was a flop & a half cuz I got accused of stalking their property & or spying on them?! I was made to feel belittled & threatened by the only daughter I have & would do anything for. I recently took her childhood things in a box to the clinic where she works. I was very pleasant & the receptionist said "Oh you must be her Mother" To no avail, they saw me coming & my daughter high tailed it to the next room over & thank goodness I took a friend or she may have threatened me or whatever. That was heartbreaking to say the least! Yet I was glad I spent no $ this time as I sent her some nice B-day gifts & got zero response. For all I know she could have threw them in the trash. Same for their JOP wedding I was only good enough to sign for & got included in nothing. I put my foot down & merely gave them a card! An empty card, cuz I refuse to buy her love! I gave my life to her already & you can see where that has gotten me!! =(

Kara - posted on 01/27/2014

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Ann, Pat, Ronnie, Jennifer, Christine & Karen
I feel your pain & am truly sorry for what you're going through. They say our children always need their Mothers eventually!? I understand that time seems endless. I am told to pray..I do believe someday things will turn around!? Keeping busy helps, yet I find myself watching ID on tv & think it could be worse, our kids could be gone like those mystery cases. It's natural to feel & ask where did I fail as a parent?! My daughter told me in the past I busted my butt for her at the hospital working to support her when I wish I could have done more. She also told me that she wasn't having kids because what she put me through will happen to her three fold. She's 29 & who even knows, she could be pregnant now, since it's been almost 2 yrs now that she broke all ties. A part of me thinks possibly from hearing all your heart wrenching stories, that it may be the spouses our children have chosen?! I am a Christian, & we are not suppose to point fingers I know, yet I can't help but think it's a form of control for their spouses to estrange or alienate our adult children from the people that raised & love them unconditionally. I too have to once in awhile still call & talk to the brick walled answering machine, still send B-day gifts because I would feel even worse if my daughter & her husband also used that against me that I didn't care or was an absent parent. IDK?! Any thoughts on this?

Ann Broughm - posted on 01/27/2014

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I've read quite a few of the responses here and can so relate to the pain. My oldest boy married what I thought was a wonderful young lady. She's East Indian and came to live in Canada to study and stayed. The first sign there was trouble in the waters with her and I was when I got remarried and included my daughter and two sons and my husband's two daughters and son in our wedding party. She was pissed I wouldn't call and tell her of my choices, because she had me in her wedding (I walked my son down the isle). There have been two grandchildren born and over the years she has yelled at me, called me names, put down my parenting skills and tells I'm not supportive of her and my son. I feel on guard with how I act, what I say - that something will be taken out of context. She recently called and said she couldn't accept her birthday present from me because our relationship has been strained. I then decided to instead of giving her a gift, to make a donation to a literacy orgnization in her name. She called me when she got the Xmas letter that I was making a dig at her because she didn't want the b/day present. My son has now stopped talking to me - they won't answer my calls or return my request. I wake up thinking about them, I go to sleep thinking about them. My heart is breaking! I have a wonderful relationship with my son, always have. I am just beside myself that he's allowing this to happen and that I'm not even able to speak to my grandkids. My husband wants me to stop calling - give it time. But my fear is if I don't try, they'll use that against me as well... what am I to do?

Pat - posted on 01/27/2014

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To all of you in a similar situation . . . the girl that my son is living with, and her family, are atheists as well. She and her family have also theartened me when I try to contact my son. I just don't know what we are all going to do. I want t sell all and my house and move away but I don't have any family. God Bless all of you.

Rhonda - posted on 01/26/2014

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Hello Christina,
My heart goes out to you. I know about guilt because I too experience it, but
I feel that it is really about them. That is what I was told by professionals.
I am sure you did not fail as a mother. I know that I was a very loving and caring mother, and I believe that somewhere along the line, my son should know this.
Sometimes kids get influenced by others that are actually threatened by us moms.
They need to mature.

Lots of hugs, I too can't stop thinking about my son. I know he has made poor choices, but I miss him.
Please keep in touch
Ronnie

Jennifer - posted on 01/26/2014

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Christine.. you didn't fail as a mother... I too felt that we failed as parents but as I talk to people there are many of us in the same situation... kids nowadays think of the me society due to peer pressure... Eventually they will grow up

Christine - posted on 01/26/2014

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I feel really sorry for you as some of wat you say rings close to home for me ,as I to have a 31 year old son who does not want to know us and I also have two other sons also grown up but it is so hard he is forever on my mind ,he has a little boy who I hardly see ,I find myself maling excuses up to my family and friends as I am reall embarrassed to admit that I have failed as a mother

Kara - posted on 01/26/2014

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Thanks Pat & everyone for making me feel a little less "invisible", literally!! I raised a gorgeous girl from birth 'till 12. She was in everything from advanced classes in school, to varsity volleyball her freshman yr of H.S. Then from early teen to 18 she was considered beyond control of the parent. I tried Tough Love, counseling, you name it. When she turned 18 I was only around to bail her out, otherwise she could have cared less whether I lived or died, I am an RN & got married for the 1st time when she was 18. She mostly called my husband when she needed something & he told me about it after the fact. After my nearly 10yr marriage ended, she left me out of many aspects of her life, blaming me for all her poor choices, stating I messed up her childhood! I would have taken a bullet for that girl! My daughter dated several incompatible men, then she dated a bad boy who decided he didn't want me in my own daughters life. He is Atheist, Anti-MIL, even told me "I tolerate you, nothing more...." She ended up marrying this guy about 2.5yrs ago JOP, I wasn't asked to be involved in any part of it, I was told I was lucky to be a witness & sign the paper for something I felt would end up in a disaster! I still feel sick over that. I didn't let them know how hurt I was tho. I stayed positive in front of them on their wedding day!! I was there 15min.'s max! =( They both have good jobs & bought a house, but their debt to ratio income is horrific. They have toys.... I was told prior to her breaking off all communication with me the past 2yrs that if I wanted them to come see me I would have to pay for their gas. They moved 40mi.'s away!! Yet she works near Cherry Creek! I have been threatened with a R.O. if I called her to say hello or ask her to lunch! Yet I still called every once in awhile & sent pics cuz after all when she was a teen the Judge told me if I didn't take legal action to protect myself, she would make it so I never owned a thing for all the trouble she got into. The victims would come after me... So I figured there is no crime on my part for trying to simply love the only daughter I will ever have. Finally, she stopped answering my calls, or ever texting back. I am officially an estranged Mom! I am grief stricken!! Once in awhile I get a hurtful message from her husband that states "Piss off bitch, or F.O." I told him if anything happens to her, he will wish he showed respect, cuz I am saving all those texts & he will be a suspect. He has gone to jail in the past! I always felt when she started working for a Vet, an Attorney that her life turned a 180, which it did cuz she straightened her own life up when she turned 18 or she would have ended up in prison. So I feel I did something right by fighting for her all those yrs. Yet she may feel she doesn't need Mom cuz she has them now. IDK?! She is my only child, & worse is I have always felt alienated by my Fathers side, including his parents, my immediate siblings & their kids for looking like my Mother (the ex). They think it's funny what my child is doing to me!! Uugh! Another story for another day! I have found faith & much inspiration in finding my Mothers side in the New Millineum, I could have used them throughout my life!! They are wonderful, supportive people! Altho most people have no idea of my only daughter stopping all communication with me! I work hard, try keeping busy asking God to keep reminding me daily I am a good person & to not give up. Thank You all for sharing your stories! Kara

Rhonda - posted on 01/26/2014

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Hi Dianne,
I am sorry that your son does not want to communicate with you.
It is a very difficult thing to accept.. My son married a woman with a fair amount of issues but he does not see this. He has estranged himself from us and we are also going through a very hard time. I try to keep myself busy with friends, hubby, my daughter and other family which helps always helps. But it is always on my mind. Same with my hubby.

Take care and keep in the loop and I will do the same.
Ronnie

Pat - posted on 01/26/2014

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Karen, at least she does not have your phone number blocked like my son did to me as well as issuing a No Trespass/Restraining Order against me which prevents me from even going to his house to see him. Of note, he lives only 5 miles from me, but might as well be a million. My heart goes out to you. My son is my only child as well. He is 32 as well. The only thing we can do is try to find sometihng else to live for. Just far, I have not found anything. I spend every waking hour thinking about my son. God help us all...please.

Karen - posted on 01/25/2014

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Daughter seems to be so defensive and will not answer phone calls .I feel like our relationship is hopeless. Sad because only child. I don't know what to do. She is32

Jennifer - posted on 01/25/2014

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It's very sad situation and when we met her brothers wife parents they told us they don't know how long their daughters happiness was going to last as apparently our daughter in laws brother also has severe problems like our daughter in law has so apparently it runs in her family

Jennifer - posted on 01/25/2014

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I will help you with support as I think that prayer and support is all we have

Pat - posted on 01/25/2014

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This girl and her family sound EXACTLY like the one that my son is involved with. Unbelievable how a female can twist and distort things and a guy will believe them.

Pat - posted on 01/25/2014

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Thank you, Kara. I have sent you an EMail message. You, too, may contact me for further support/help/prayers.

Hugs, Pat

Kara - posted on 01/24/2014

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I have a similiar story with a 29yr old daughter. I am extremely disheartened. You are welcome to contact me by e-mail & I will further share my story. KMLRN@comcast.net. Devastated! Kara

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