When do you stop being a mom?

Mitch - posted on 10/02/2009

Sorry but the answer to that is never, your kids will allways need you,but you will have to be the bad guy sometimes and say no. I suck at the no thing but let them know if I feel that they are taking advantage of me. hope that helps a little.

Kim - posted on 10/02/2009

They never do!!!Thats one of the wonderful pleasures of being a mom (you will ALWAYS BE A MOM)is to help them not to do it for them completely but to help with the issues. You can do to much and they will never be able to do things for themselves though so watch how you each problem as well as with each child, different children take different parts and that can hurt more then help.

Jennifer - posted on 10/02/2009

Probably never. Our children are always going to look to us for advice and support. Don't enable them. Encourage them to be independent and solve their own problems. Say, "That's a decision you need to make on your own" or "I think that's something you need take care of yourself." My mom was always straight forward with me and said "No, I can't take care of you forever. You need to learn to take care of yourself."

Ally_eek - posted on 10/02/2009

know what you mean my 25 year old is doing great now but helped him with things till a few years ago and my 20 year old wants to be 9 again. i used to think it would get better when they got older but you still worry and help them. i have been on my own since i was 16 and had no one to help me. i always had to solve my problems on my own. i have family that could have helped me but didn't so never asked for their help. i have enough problems without worrying about my oldest two children. my 20 yr old has a long way to go.

Lunette - posted on 10/02/2009

Once a Mother always a Mother. But now it is being a different kind of mom they will always need you. They don't need you like when they were little. Mine are 27 and 24. But they will always need there Mom your there saftey net from the world.

Wendy - posted on 10/02/2009

Quoting Karen:

When do you stop being a mom?

At what age do your adult children have to be before you can retire from motherhood. At 23 and 25 years old, I'm thinking that they should be solving there own problems by now. I was solving mine at age 19.

I heard a story once, when a mum stopped worrying about her child she wrote and told a friend , I can stop looking out for my son as I HAVE JUST PUT HIM IN A HOME! she was 98yrs and he was 78yrs go figure lol

Karen - posted on 10/02/2009

I love my boys dearly, I just want them to be totally on there own so when I receive there next phone call, it's just to say; mom, how are you today, without having, "I need" attached to it.

Tammy - posted on 10/02/2009

It never happens! There's a country song called "The Baby" that says "I don't care if your 80, you'll always be my baby!". My oldest is 23, a pilot in the USAF and can be very condescending at times. But when he hurts, he hurts deeply and it breaks my heart. My second is 21 and the mother of 2 boys but she has had a very hard time actually becoming her own person. She has moved in and out of my home so many times I can't count but since I am going through a divorce myself, she is having to force herself to do it alone. She becomes so overwhelmed and I just want to reach out to her and say, "It iwll all be fine, You can do this!". No, you never, ever stop being a mom!