when does the terrible 2's end
Dawn - posted on 04/02/2010
As Nana now I really believe they are not the terrible two's but the terrible 3's which seem to sneak up on you as you think you have missed the terrible 2's. Just keep consistent with what you are telling your child and hopefully all will go well. My daughters and I have a great relationship now 1 has children of her own and 2 are still at home with mum and dad.
Corrina - posted on 04/01/2010
my stepmom told me that at age 4 all 4 of her boys blossemed into great little people that gave me hope...well that seemed to ge the case with my first 2 boys but the 3rd one was a little different...when he was 3 1/2 i asked her to tell me the "story" again about when they turn 4 and she did then 1 wk befor his 4th bday at thanksgiving dinner i asked her again laughing of course and she said that because he was a premie maybe we would have to adjust te time a little laughing with me...he was great about the time he started school and hasnt really been a problem since my daughter is now 5 ad we are riding the storm at home but she is great at school and others houses so i guess thats ok. it will end your 2 is simply finding his/her own footing and soon enough oull wonder where it all went. so enjoy and love them.
I was going to say, miy two didn't start the 2's...it was the terrible 3's and was great at 4. But the 3's required more disciple to keep the balance of them learning it's ok to show your emotion, but have to learn to control it. Whew. hard work!
My son was in his "terrible 2's" between the ages of 18 months and 6 years. He because a really good kid then. A lot of it was me learning how to talk to him and around him. I'm ashamed to say that he was imitating the vocal tones and manners that he saw around him. When I began to model the behavior I wanted him to show things got better. It helped that we could talk and discuss things calmly. It did take a while for him to "unlearn" the bad behavior.
Alicia - posted on 03/19/2010
Possibly when they have one of their own going through the 2/3's. I must say 2 was not a problem for mine but 3 was like toddlers teen years, they were still babies but thought they could do anything cause we still told them they were a big kid now and had to act like it. 2's they just test 3's they do.
Lori - posted on 03/17/2010
I found that around 4 you will find things get better. My 4 year old loves to help mom, when he wants to, but as someone said wants some control over what he does. The 2s seem to go on forever, but they will change. Every child's twos are different.. Some are worse than others. My first child who is now 8 seemed to be the worse at the time. My daugher's was much easier, but she sometimes whines now at 6. She can be very sweet and helpful. You will do fine. Just realize that the time goes quickly and enjoy some of it and try to have a sense of humor. It goes better with that. I know that at the time it seems like forever.
Natalie - posted on 03/16/2010
i didnt have any problems with my girl with the terrible 2's. she is 3.5 now. as a later mum and a child care worker i found from watching my friends and other parents that what they really want is some control. they want to have some say in the decisions that are made.
for example, its bed time but they wont go to bed. now is time for a choice. you say you can be a tiger or a snake, you can crawl like a tiger and growl or slither like a snake and hiss. how do you want to go to bed?
when they have some sort of input in their lives things dont seem so big. another example, you want to go for a walk to the shop but they wont put a coat on. same deal, do you want to wear the red coat or the blue coat? if they still have a hissy fit, say we are going for a walk and the choice is yours to choose what coat you want to wear and walk off. sing some songs, have a drink, come back and ask the question again, which coat do you want to wear.
i have never spoken to my girl like shes a baby. i think it demeans them. if i can see that she is starting to get upset i stop, ask her what is the problem and see what we can do togeather to fix it. this works 99% of the time and if it doesnt then i just walk off.
try with the choices. remember that these are your options that your giving to stop the tantrum. blue coat or red? snake or tiger? they are still doing what you want but they think they have made the decision.
Aliska - posted on 03/16/2010
The 3s are worse, from memory, more power struggles. Pick your battles you don't have the time, energy or patience to fight them all so pick the ones that are important to you and consistently deal with it, the others you have to ignore even though they may be ones others (like grandparents) think you should be tackling.
Debby - posted on 03/16/2010
lol When they get old enough to move out...lol....actually i have 3 children...17...25 and 27. I think theyre finally thru them. lol Sorry..i remember that stage and figured you needed some humor. I always appreciated it when i went thru them..lol Good luck, no child is alike and they all get thru them at their own pace. And sometimes it all depends on how the parents handle them. It wouldve been awesome to have had internet back then and been able to come to a site like this for advice...i think idve had more hair and less of it gray..Again...Good Luck!
Lura - posted on 03/15/2010
Relax and pick your battles well... you want to give space to learn but draw the line when it gets too close to the danger side. The less you pay attention to the irritations of childhood, the sooner it will be over. If your child needs to stomp and cry fine, let it be, stand by and wait.. then pick your child up and move on to a quiet down place... do not let them know it can irritate you into a arguement of anytype.
They go from the terrible 2's to the terrible 3's and many people will say that the 3's are worse. I think there are more control issues when they are 3 and my son has been more stubborn at that age. Now is the time to establish clear and consistent rules with consequences for breaking them. A two year old can sit in time out for 2 minutes. Teach boundaries so they learn which lines they should not cross and offer choices whenever appropriate (choices help avoid tantrums and power struggles).
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