how do you feel about the main page getting new admin and mods

Esther - posted on 08/10/2009

Oh, don't worry Yvonna. I have no problems with my age at all. I had my son when I was good and ready and I have no regrets (just a lack of energy sometimes ;)

Yvonna - posted on 08/10/2009

Hey Ester and Mary, I would take advice from all of the older women, who are Mom's cause you got it goin on. You have the experience, the stamina and the intuition and love and all the other stuff it takes, don't be beating yourselves up, you have forgotten more than a lot of our Moms will ever know. right??

Yvonna - posted on 08/10/2009

Quoting Esther:

Quoting Mary:

Ohhh...I have a suspicion that I should be glad I am too old for the Young Moms community! There are SOME advantages to be an older momma, lol!!

LMAO Mary - that's EXACTLY how I feel. Whenever I go to that community - I feel ancient. But in a good way - haha.

Yvonna - posted on 08/10/2009

I didn't even know about all of this, but if you can keep your head in all of this confusion, then you don't know what's going on. I'll keep it that way. lol Keep up the good work yall.

Yvonna - posted on 08/10/2009

You think??

Esther - posted on 08/10/2009

Quoting Mary:

Ohhh...I have a suspicion that I should be glad I am too old for the Young Moms community! There are SOME advantages to be an older momma, lol!!

LMAO Mary - that's EXACTLY how I feel. Whenever I go to that community - I feel ancient. But in a good way - haha.

Mel - posted on 08/10/2009

lol Mary I am exactly the same. i would most definately not have what it takes to be a mod even if I wish I did lol.

Mary - posted on 08/10/2009

Ohhh...I have a suspicion that I should be glad I am too old for the Young Moms community! There are SOME advantages to be an older momma, lol!!



And Chris...please note that I said disappointed; I'm not overly concerned. In the grand scheme of my life, CoM is just not a big enough factor for me to get all that worked up about. You are right...people should not bitch about something they don't feel strongly enough to fix themselves. That is why I expressed my opinion in a forum designed expressly for the purpose of venting, and not on the main page, or in a more public forum. I could be wrong, but it seems as if you interpreted my post as a more personal commentary instead of my general assessment of the new admin and modS. I'm going to offer you a bit of unsolicited advice...when you accept a postion like this one, you knowingly put yourself in a place where people are going to criticize just about EVERYthing about you, and every decision you make. It's probably similar to being an elected official...everyone has an opinion about your actions, and it's not always constructive, and often not very nice, either. My best advice is to grow a thicker skin, and learn to ignore and rise above some of the more juvenile jabs that are inevitably going to be aimed at you. I wish you success in this endeavor, and most of all, luck! =)



As for me being a mod? I recognize that my life does not allow me the time required to tackle this daunting task...I work 32 hours a week in a rather challenging job, am a FT momma to a 9 month old and my 2 big, goofy rescue dogs (no daycare for ANY of them), and still try to find the time to maintain my volunteer committment to the Humane Society. I am on here sporadically at best, when my schedule, and the naptimes of Molly allow. I think I would enjoy the challenges being a mod would bring, but I concede that it is something I just don't have the proper amount of time for. Not to mention my bitchy streak, which I have yet to master the art of fully containing, LOL!

Mel - posted on 08/10/2009

ok thanks i just dont want to see anybody upset you either

Cathy - posted on 08/10/2009

I'm stating an opinion in response to her responses and the subject of this thread which you started. If she feels attacked I will happily discuss my reasons with her.

Mel - posted on 08/10/2009

Cathy - please dont diss other members of my group I want Christina to feel a welcome part of Mums Who Need To Vent. Shes a lovely person doing her best. Thankyou

Cathy - posted on 08/10/2009

Christina .... many people have complained higher up. With all the legitimate reasons being deleted it's very hard to prove anything.
Your first appearance was on the young moms community offering your opinion to a scenerio you knew nothing about. You knew nothing of the context of the comments Missy had called out as offensive yet you felt first day in you had the right to judge. This is not an attribute of a good Mod.

--- - posted on 08/09/2009

Well melissa as far as being blocked. these things are supposed to be discussed about between mods and admin. No one said anything to me. I am going to try and figure out what is going on. from what I have seen you have not broken the terms of the page.

Mel - posted on 08/09/2009

i agree with Amie 100% i really think the person chose as administrator for such a big group should know us all and have experience on the site she is still learning. i dont believe shes good at what she does she does say she is sick of what is going on and i think if she is sick of it she she really not have taken this position. someone with a long history on the site whose fairly active and can be impartial and with proper grammer like Mary said should have been it. alot of people (such as myself) have been around along time and are active but just could not cut it due to not always being able to be impartial and not always being professional etc but there are some who would just be excellent. But i Dont know we just have to accept the choice and see how she goes. Personally I am being blocked from the main site every day to every second day when Katherine logs on (and I dont know if its still happening I havent checked today) but i believe if a person wants to be a good mod/admin they do need to be able to send a polite message saying why and how long someone will be blocked for. just my opinion though

Amie - posted on 08/09/2009

There have been a lot of complaints that I've heard about but it seems the new admin can't keep up just like the old one couldn't. She's also new to CoM's too in case anyone hasn't notice and that's fine. But I think before you become an admin to such a large group you should have some experience with it all. But that's me. Hopefully the mod situation works out somehow. I agree with Mary 100%, no one should be appointed a mod unless they've proven they can be level headed and non judgmental in all capacities of their posts.

--- - posted on 08/09/2009

mary if you are concerned about the choices maybe you could ask to be a mod so you can have some influence. The best way to fix something is not to talk about it but to act on it. If any of you do not like the choices and have legitimate reasons for those feelings than complaining to a higher up (like lisa) would be the best thing to do.

Mary - posted on 08/09/2009

Hmmm...have given this some thought, and although I acknowledge ahead of time that what I'm about to say sounds a bit patronizing and condescending....here goes!

Yes, the main page desperately needed some guidance and controls, and hopefully, the new Mods will achieve this goal. Perhaps this a reflection of my age and education, but I was a little disappointed about some of the choices, however well intentioned they may be. IMO, a moderator should be someonw whose previous posts have reflected her abilty to control her temper, and express her opinions in a thoughtful, mature and well thought out manner. She should be able to rise above the pettiness, ignorance and immaturity of others, in order to impartially mediate disputes. I fear that not ALL of the new mods posess these skills to the same degree, as evidenced in a few of the threads last week. And, although this is a personal hang up of mine, I wish that they all had a decent hold on grammer, punctuation and the overall usage of the English language...I believe people respect you more when you present yourself in an intelligent fashion. Again, that's just MY personal preference.



Regardless, I wish them all well, and am grateful for the efforts they put forth.

Mel - posted on 08/09/2009

thankyou for joining Christina im so glad to see you hear and I like your comment. I really hope you guys succeed and I hope that I can work hard to change myself also. your right about the small groups but im realy hoping this can be a good one and have enough members to have some nice discussions and some support for others

--- - posted on 08/08/2009

I feel happy to be a part of the main page and sorry that people think I am rude and power hungry. Myself and the other mods are working together closely to make the main page a more inviting place. The good thing about the main page is that there are sooooo many members so if someone is looking for a variety of comments the main page is the place to be. I have joined smaller groups and found them either a) way to cliquish or b) to small or inactive to generate enough responses from people. I think many people are upset about having new mods because for so long the main page has been left as a place for people to dump on each other and get away with it. no there is rules and people don't like it. It will definitely be a change, hopefully it will get rid of the trolls and bring back some of the decent people.

Mel - posted on 08/06/2009

your could be right Cathy and i have seen her be jumpy too but i really think she just tries her best and i admit when she first joined i had seen things that suggested she would be difficult but ive been met with nothing but her being honest reliable always there to help and to fix up the bad threads its fantastic. glad Jennifer is on though ive always liked her even though today was first time ive chatted with her in months still waiting on Kylie though

Cathy - posted on 08/06/2009

I agree that Kylie and Jenn would be great mods too!

JL - posted on 08/05/2009

It is about time because things were getting out of hand on some of those threads.That is why I was not taking an active role on the main page, but now I am starting to venture back since there is some control now.

Mel - posted on 08/05/2009

she locks threads she thinks are gossip and i have seen people write nasty comments to her about it. anything that is not completely related to children is locked and deleted. a thread we were all enjoying was locked. i just think that is a little over the top.

Esther - posted on 08/05/2009

I think it was desperately needed! Too many threads on the main page just got totally out of control. It has certainly driven me away so I don't even know how well or not the admin & moderators are doing as I rarely go there anymore. Why do you say Katherine isn't doing a good job?