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Mel - posted on 08/04/2009 ( 38 moms have responded )

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hey im Mel, im 20 yrs old engaged and have a 16 month old daughter. ive been around here for a while and ive enjoyed it on / off. im now editing this msg because im attempting to start over and behave like a mum and an adult, so i just hope we get a few more members here im looking forward to seeing some more people around and some more threads started. thanks everyone so much for all the support I have recieved

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Cara - posted on 08/13/2009

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Hi everyone, Cara here.. 34 (eeek) year old Aussie currently living in Sydney.

I am mum to 4 kiddies and have 2 step kiddies too.

Dont get a lot of time to post much but try to check in whenever I can.

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Melissa, from previous posts I've read, you've had a very traumatic upbringing. It's no wonder that it's slightly distorted how you view normal day to day relationships. If you spent your childhood having to fight for attention and approval, then anyone giving it unconditionally is going to be met with distrust. Something in your head will constantly be questioning what they want in return and searching for a hidden agenda.
We are not all like that, we really want to help you out.

JL - posted on 08/05/2009

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I do have to say that personally I like the DM community and I don't find the people over there too judgemental. I have read stuff that was stated out of meaness to just be mean on so many other communities and DM doesn't go there. I think that many people on DM are not shy about expressing their opposing opinions and that they are very passionate, but they don't want to be mean for the sake of being mean. It is hard when many people disagree with you. I belong to another community where I am in the minority with my opinions. You should feel safe about expressing your opinion but you should also realize that if you are stating things that come off as worrisome to some people then they will respond out of compassion for what you are going through. I don't think anyone over in DM particularly hates you and I am sorry that you feel that way.Maybe you can turn this community into something that is positive for you and others. I just hope that this community doesn't become a place where people vent in a hurtful way about other people, because slamming others would not be in the spirit of COM.

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Yvonna - posted on 12/13/2010

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Hello, my name if Yvonna, and the best thing that ever could happen to me, happened cause I was on facebook, one of my biological grand daughters found me and hooked me up with her sister they are the children of my deceased son, Byron. The younger one, Brandi, looks just exactly like him, big lips and all the beautiful grayish green eyes! I'm an old Granny type, of Native American extraction, and my love for these children runs very deep, I thank God for the reunion, and I will be keeping in touch with both of them here on Circle of Moms, thank you so much for starting it, Mrs. Donnelly

Carrie - posted on 10/16/2009

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Hi i am Carrie, I am 27 yrs old Married to a wonderful Man, mother to 3 beautiful children that are 7 yrs, 2 yrs and 7 months. We live in Northeastern North Carolina. I am a stay at home at the moment. I have an Associate Degree In Medical Billin and Codin. I am here to have contact with other moms (since all see is little people all day) and help other moms with my advice. Nice to meet you all and look forward to helpin as much as i can.

Lea - posted on 10/12/2009

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Hiya ladies! I am Lea from Sydney. I have a darling daughter, a spoilt dog and a butthead husband to keep me busy. Then there is my job. Looking forward to venting with you all 8)

Jessoliver87 - posted on 09/28/2009

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Hey, I'm Jess, 22, single SAHM of a 9 month old boy called Cameron. I'm from Western Australia

Renae - posted on 09/23/2009

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hi, im renae, 24 years old, engaged to my man of nearly 8 years, live in south australia and have an almost 8 month old son named zack

Charlie - posted on 08/13/2009

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hey i am Loureen , 25 Australian SAHM , i have a 9 month old boy Cooper .

~Jennifer - posted on 08/13/2009

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Hi, I'm Jenn....SAHM to a 2 & 4 year old, married and happy....but there's a few things that tick me off, and I'm glad to have a place to come to rant about it.

Thanks Mel!!!

Heidi - posted on 08/13/2009

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Well Ashely I am in Cambridge so about 5 or 6 hours away from you. I am in Ottawa every summer for a weekend for my sons football or my husbands ball hockey tournament. I am there in July so I won't be back till next summer now. Do you ever make your way here?

I love these forums because you can meet so many new and interesting people and gain some advice and knowledge.

Deanne - posted on 08/12/2009

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Hi everyone, I'm Deanne, 25, from Western Australia. Have been with Craig (my fiance but no plans to marry - ??!) for 12 years in December 09. We have a boisterous 4 year old boy named Ryley & a just-started-walking 15 month old girl Gemma. I am a SAHM & loving life :-)
I have the best mother-in-law!! She always wanted a daughter & HERE I AM! So I get spoilt! hehe

Jennifer - posted on 08/12/2009

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They are always interferring. I thought it was just some. But when i got engaged and talked to others who were aswell, they said the same thing. We got along just fine before i got pregnant. But when i had my son, everything just hit the fan.

When got added to this group, my mother inlaw was the reason why. there is always something new to vent on when it comes to her!

Mel - posted on 08/12/2009

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oh Jennifer i actually saw a tv show today saying women never get along with their mother in laws because the mother in laws are always interferring lol. welcome though and I love your picture. hope to see you around

Jennifer - posted on 08/12/2009

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Hello, My name is Jennifer. I'm 19 years old. I have a wonderful family. A 4 and a half old son, and a fiance! As of now I'm a stay at home mom, but will possibly go back to school in the fall.

I always have major problems with my mother inlaw. She hats me, ever since the day i had her grand-baby..

And a mother who doesnt want me to marrie my fiance. Whom i love every much!

Ashley - posted on 08/12/2009

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hey everyone. i'm ashley, im 23 and i have 2 boys. they are 15 months and 5 wks. i have been with my bf for 2 1/2 yrs. he is going to be a stay at home dad so i can go back to school..:). Heidi where abouts in Ontario are you?? i live in Ottawa

Heidi - posted on 08/12/2009

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Hi There, my name is Heidi. I have 2 sons ages 4 and 10 and a stepson that is 18. I am happily married for the past 8 1/2 years. We live in Ontario. The land of cold winters and unpredictable summers. I am looking forward to getting to know all of you!

Mel - posted on 08/11/2009

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Chris was removed because some of the DM members i will not name names on here, but they decided to message admin to imply Chris was being unfair as a mod. Katherine messaged Chris and told her she was getting annoyed with getting those messages of complaints and that it was easier to remove her as a mod. shes helping to moderate my group now and I am looking for some other impartial mods as well as Im reluctant to remove any flagged content until I can get some other people's opinions on the matter. Chris was venting and angry when she started the posts on the main page I dont think she meant any harm but is doing her best to make this group a good one now after her bad experience on that community.



I am with you most of the women I love to bits on the DM group Jenn and others but there are just a few that seem to be bullying and it is not right, but we can do nothing about it and need to just stay clear of them and enjoy our time in this group.

Isobel - posted on 08/11/2009

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Hi, I'm from Toronto, Canada, I know it can be difficult on DM, but I have to admit, if you can get yourself into the right frame of mind (where nothing is taken personally) it can be a lot of fun...but then I like to argue. I am wondering, personally, what's going on with all the locked conversations. I noticed that Christine was removed as one of the mods and that several of her threads were blocked...but why???what did I miss?

Rebecca - posted on 08/11/2009

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hi there,
my name is rebecca, i am 23(24 in5days). i live in New Zealand
i have a 23.5 month old son called Jake. my partner(joel) and i have been together for 3.5 years during which time we have had our fair share of ups and downs. right now i can happily say we are at the best our relationship has ever been.

will be great to get to know everyone

Cassie - posted on 08/10/2009

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Hey everyone! I'm Cassie. I am a 23 year old SAHM. I live in Ohio with my husband and our 9 month old daughter. I have my bachelor's degree in Early Childhood Edu and will be going back to work this fall as a literacy specialist. I'm having a really hard time with going back to work but it will only be part time so I will still get to be at home with my daughter most of the time!! It's nice to get to chat with you all! :)

Mel - posted on 08/09/2009

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Hey Mary thanks for joining and contributing love your pic its gorgeous. 9 months is a great age they are just starting to use words and pull them selves up, so i hear. Hope to see you around

Mary - posted on 08/09/2009

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Hey, Mel!

You already know me a bit, but I'll review. I'm a 38 y/o L&D nurse who lives in Baltimore, Maryland in the USA. I have one daughter, Molly, who is just shy of 9 months old, and a true miracle for both my husband & I!! :)

Mel - posted on 08/06/2009

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Oh to Joy - I just saw your comment i guess i had missed that bit earlier i dont want this group to turn bad and I wont let it. I will make sure everything is done the right way I promise

Mel - posted on 08/06/2009

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thanks guys ;) your words are helpful. i want everything to be good now. I will try my best to make it that way

JL - posted on 08/06/2009

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When I am unsure of the intent of someones response because my perception of what they wrote may not be what they meant or I cannot decipher the tone in their writing I take the time to ask what it is that they meant before I react negatively because maybe they were just trying to be helpful but to me it came across as an attack but that was not what they meant.



Just remember when you read a response to really try to decipher the intent and if your perception is telling you that it is an attack then respond back asking them what they meant first that way you can avoid getting into an arguement over something that turns out was nothing big in the first place. And if it is just someone giving you advice that you don't agree with just move on and refrain from responding. We all have to learn to agree to disagree and that can be hard. I understand where you are coming from because I have been dealing with anger mangagement issues since I was a teen but with age I have learned that sometimes it is best to ask questions and other times it is best to just walk away. If they were met to be a freind it will all work itself out if they were not then what's the loss.

Mel - posted on 08/06/2009

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my problem is I react whether i believe what im saying or not and some would say its because of young and immature but its not its just genetic. my family are the same infact much worse. my cousin is 37 and even the men in her life are scared of her and not doing what she tells them to do. Maybe i am how I am because when i was a kid i was so damn shy never even talked til i was 10 (at school i mean), so maybe now that i am different very open and usually jump to conclusions about people before even finding out the full story. I think i push people away and i actually dont always mean to. its really strange and if anyne can make sense of it please tell me, but i have a mother and cousin who treat me like crap yet i am forvever kissing up to them, doing everything they say, telling them i love them wanting to spend time with them, its like i want that kind of treatment and i want to impress them, yet ive got a MIl whose the opposite and non judgemental never even says a bad word yet i do and say things to her and bitch about her like she is nothing. ive hurt her pretty bad. it seems when someone tries to be a mate i push them away. ahh confusing lol. Ok that was more then i expected to write. hope this doesnt back fire on me writing all this.

Mel - posted on 08/06/2009

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your kind of right not sure i have the courage though. i considered Amie a friend but i think thats over now shes upset with me however Melissa Anderson is really good and i used to chat to her on a regular basis just thru msn but shes really busy now with her kids. i Am a young mum and its how i like it. i made the choice even if sometimes i really wish i was still working on checkouts being a mother seems harder to me im not exactly sure why since you dont even have to do your make up and get into work uniform first thing in he morning and i get a massive break all the time because i have such a great fiance. But all worth it because I love it so much and I love her so much shes my world and I love showing her off to the world. I think ive benefitted from CoM , sometimes anyway but most definately if i could go back i would do things differently from when i first joined up.

Esther - posted on 08/06/2009

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Melissa - I agree with Joy. I think it's a good idea. What do you have to lose? I have found an amazing support system here on COMs. It doesn't replace my real life support system, but it's an invaluable addition, especially with my relatives all living far away from me. You are a very young mom, with a special needs child and you have been through a lot in your life. I think if you open yourself up to people and are willing to listen to what they have to say (even if it's perhaps phrased less than ideally) - you could really benefit from COM like I have.

Mel - posted on 08/06/2009

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i would just get laughed at but thanks anyway. i did think about that. but everytime someone posts something to me i see how it all gets marked with encouraging and helpful. but thats ok its just the internet :) real life friends are much more important of course and i have a great circle of friends where i am so that is alright

JL - posted on 08/06/2009

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Melissa maybe you should just post a convo on the main page of COM stating that you want to wipe the slate clean and start over seeing how some things with some people have gotten out of hand. Just put it out there and see how the responses go before you decide to quit.

Mel - posted on 08/06/2009

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thanks Cathy, right now i think im just having a hard time trying to figure out what to do. im thinking of leaving CoMs and if i dont i wish there was some way to wipe the slate clean but there aint so leaving may be only option. i was saying to kylie on facebook earlier i wish i could just start over new ID and all but that is wrong

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Hi I'm Cathy. I'm 29yrs old and live with my partner and my 6yr old and 7mnth old sons. Been on CoMs for a while although I also like to stick to smaller communities as I find the larger groups are filled with many arrogant and ignorant opinions.

I am a member of Debating Mums. I do think it's important to remember that the group isn't for support it's for opinions to be debated and it can be misinteruppeted as judgemental. I'm sorry if you have felt directly attacked Melissa, there are many strong minded people as members.

Esther - posted on 08/05/2009

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I agree with Joy. I have enjoyed the Debating Moms community quite a bit and haven't really gotten into any arguments there. I have gotten into my share of arguments on other forums though, most particularly on the main page. I think smaller communities generally force people to be more civil and I hope this group will bring that for you as well.

Esther - posted on 08/05/2009

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Hi, I'm Esther - proud mom to a 19 month old little boy, Lucas. I'm 36 years old, born in the Netherlands, but now a resident of New Jersey. I used to be relatively active on the main pages and the toddler moms pages but these days I tend to stick to smaller communities as I find the discussions there more meaningful.

Mel - posted on 08/04/2009

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its nice to see you here. the reason i made up this one i think is because i know alot of people hate me and theres a few people i feel strongly about also and i guess i wanted a place where i could talk to other members about things in a group which is safe. i really dont like debating mums cause its too judgemental so im hoping to get some more members here.

JL - posted on 08/04/2009

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Hello my name is Joy. I have a 6 year old daughter and a 23 month old son. Honestly I don't get as much involved with most of the discussions on the main page because of all the trouble making crazy crap that goes on in some of the posts. I stick mainly to certain communities because I just cannot deal with the ignorance and the mean people.

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