Vanessa - posted on 11/02/2008 ( 6 moms have responded )
I am a single mother of two boys with different fathers. Ones dad is gone til 2011 and the others dad goes in and out of jail. I pressed charges against one for beating me up in the middle of the mall and so he has yet to go to jail for that, but im wandering. How do you explain to a two and three year old where there father is? Also how do you choose whether to let them visit their dads in jail or to keep them away? I was told my responsibility as a mother is to do what is best for my children and to protect them at all costs. So I think its hurting them to keep letting their dads come in and out of their lives. Its leaving emotional scars and I dont want to do that. But am i leaving less scars keeping them away or more scars filling that void by visits? I dont know right from wrong and what is protecting them from hurting them. I know they need a man in their life but I dont really have time to date and its hard being a single mom with very little support from friends and family... What do I do?