Death of a friends child

Mary Helen - posted on 04/03/2013

Jody - posted on 10/14/2009

hello, sorry to hear about your friend and family loss, but never feel that it's unfair

that you still have your lil girl, cause your best friend would never want you to feel or think that way also, it is so sad when someone you love feel's the pain of loss, because you also do, when i was preganant with my last baby in that 9mth's it was my 1st time that i ever lost anyone in my family, and it was my sister who loss her 3mth old i know how you feel about it being unfair because i also did i was only 2mth's preganant, but all i could do be there for my sister as much as i could she lost her baby to sids,its a cruel thing a death of a child, but thank god for great mate's like yourself and family it takes time, wish you both well take care all the best xoxo

Colleen - posted on 10/02/2009

I had alot of complications with my son. He was born at 27 weeks. He was 1lb 2 oz. He lived for 1 month and 2 days. My sister had my nephew 6 months before I had my son. My nephew was my strength through all of it. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to go through. I didnt want anyone to feel wierd about me if they had children because my son was sick. He ended up wit pneumonia and his little lungs couldnt fight it. Your friend just needs someone to be there for her..and it seems like you are a good friend. Theres nothing more reassuring then having family and friends around you.

Kylie - posted on 09/07/2009

One of my bestfriends lost her little man, he was still born he passed away the day before he was due to be induced, I was pregnant at the time and out babys were going to be about 6 weeks apart, Mine was my third her, her first. It was and still is the most devestating thing we have all been through, I still cry about it when i think about it, I feel a bit guilty too that i have 3 beautiful boys and she doesnt have any, Its such a cruel thing a death of a child, and im so sorry for your friend too.

Marquita - posted on 08/03/2009

Sorry to hear about ur friend loss...GOD BLESS

Rachael - posted on 08/01/2009

hiya deanna, i had a similar experience. my sister-in-law lost her little girl last december aged 12 weeks, at the time i was 6 months preganant i felt really guilty that my baby was still here, i also found it really hard to talk about my little girl. My daughter is now 5 months and my sister -in law is the best part of her life, she is now trying again for another baby and she seems to be progressing with her lose.

Rabaab - posted on 05/07/2009

hi, i am sorry about your friends loss.. it does not get any eaiser for her .. I understand what you are saying, . i have some friends who have lost there children and when they are the same age as mine, it is so sad.. i have other friends whose children are a bit older then me and are disabled and when i see my friends it just makes me very upset..

Laura - posted on 04/14/2009

I know how you feel. When my son was 2 months my mom called to tell me that one of my friends went into labor when she was 5 months pregnant and the baby was a still born. I never balled so hard. I knew how much she wanted a baby. And after I got off the phone I just held my baby and balled for 2 hours. Now my friend has two beautiful children. And she has never been happier. And that makes me happy.

Jessie - posted on 03/23/2009

im so sorry to hear about your friends loss and family's too.. you shouldnt beat your self up abouut it though.. losing a child is never easy for anyone.

your friend is probably tryiny to distract hersle from her loss when seh askes about your daughter. and shes is probably thinking that her little girl wouldve been doing simliar things!

but u cant beat yourself up about it. somemany things are out of our control and all we can do is pick ourselves up and get through each day.. i hope your friend is doing ok

Nadine - posted on 02/11/2009

Hi i would just like to say how sorry i am for your friends loss, I lost my son 10 years ago he was 16, it does'nt get any easyer, but you begin to live with the pain every day, Don't feel terrible when she ask about your family cos she knows that life still goes on for other people, even though at this moment in time it stops for her, my family and my close friends have always been there for me, even though some times when they visited me, i would just sit there not saying anythink, Iv got to say its hard but in time she will be able to, how do i but this live again, its not that you stop living but its the pain in your heart, I speak about my son every day because he was in my life for 16 years and im so proud to have him as my son, i wish i could say more to you but its hard, Take care xxx