When should I have my next baby??

Amy - posted on 02/11/2012

my oldest is 5 and my youngest 15 months and i think itd the perfect gap. I have 2 girls and the oldest was 3 when my youngest was born and i think it was perfect be the oldest could understand what was going on. but babys are amazing!!

Katie - posted on 12/07/2010

Im usually good at advice giving but im just gonna be honest and speak straight from the heart on this one!

I have a one year and 10 day old daughter who is a handful cos now shes trying to walk she has been crawling for a while and she just never keeps still,and it drives me mad sometimes when i just need 5 mins to breathe lol. But as a mummy and a bloody good mummy at that i am now custom to never having any time to my self,i am a stay at home mum but i love every minuete of it. I get broody especially now as my best friend has just had her 3rd child,1 of 3 who are 3 years 2 years and the new addition,,but then i hold my child in my arms and i just think i love her so much and adore our time together and i actually dont want another child at this point in my life.

At the moment my little girl is very poorley and i couldent imagine myself coping very well if i had 2 sick children to look after especially a newborn and a 1 year old that would be the worst combination !,also my husband and i want to buy house a home for our future and plan to be living in our house by the end of next year and think it would be just perfect to bless the new house with a new addition to the family (or two who knows)so were waiting i have a lot of time on my side :)

Jamie Lee - posted on 06/15/2010

I have three children all relatively close in age. My oldest girl is 4years 3 months, my son is 2 years 11 months, my youngest girl is 14 months. My oldest daughter was 17 months old when my second (son) was born. And my son was 21 months when my 3rd was born. I love all my children dearly... they are all bestfriends and look out for eachother. They are all nurturing and love eachother dearly. The only thing I have had a hard time with in my experience is the diaper situation.... but only 2 babies at a time as my oldest was potty trained when my third daughter was born. it is alot of work.... but it is worth it!!!! honestly it depends on your finacial situation, your household situation, your mental compasity (as sometimes you will feel yourself going crazy.... LOL), your family and spouse support, time and energy to care for two babies (and two toddlers and eventually two teenagers) and most importantly what you want!!! Some people think wait so you can spend more time with that child and spoil it. I say why not have them and spoil them all together... let them enjoy eachother. Do it when you are ready and not just because you miss having a newborn. LOL. talk with your spouse and do whats right for your situation.

Erica - posted on 05/12/2010

My son will be 14 months in 5 days and I can't even THINK about having another baby right now. Tho, I do want one, the soonest we plan to try is a year from now. My mom had my 3 younger siblings close in age. 16 months apart and 11 months apart and I watched her struggle. For most of my life, I thought it was cuz she had 5 kids and I never wanted 5 kids, but as I got older, I realized it was cuz they were so close in age.

Leah - posted on 05/10/2010

My boys are a year and 9 months apart. my oldest was 20 months when i had my 2nd little boy. they have their day were they just can't get along for anything and then they have were they can't get enough of each other. The other night my oldest stayed the night with my cousin and when it was bed time he was crying for his bubba. My 20 month old was doing the same thing when he got up the next morning. i want to try for a girl but i'm going to wait untill my 20 month old is potty trained. If i were u i'd wait till he was potty trained cause having 2 babies in diapers isn't fun at all. But its up to you i like having them close together.

Danelle - posted on 12/20/2009

hi i am 20 years old and i have 3 boy my oldest is 3 and half the middle child is 2 in jan and my youngest is 4 months old on the 24th of this month and i love it my 2 old ones are best firends they have there fights every now and again but they look out for each other and i am stay at home mum and have eanough time to spend time with each of them and if i could go back i would do it the same way everytime

Erica - posted on 11/26/2009

I never wanted my kids havin' too big an age gap. I want them to be close but I don't want two in diapers. My mom had 3 one year apart and I wouldn't do that. Too hectic. My son is 8 months old and I can't even imagine havin' another baby at this time. I decided the earliest I wanna get pg is a few months after he turns two. Also, tho, this is your choice. One person's opinion or choice may not be the best thing for you.

Megan - posted on 11/08/2009

Quoting Limara:

my first child was 21 months when her baby brother was born. She was a year old when I fell pregnant with him. It was hard work, with her so young, because of morning sickness but she doesn't remember him not being there so we've had no problems with jealousy. I do have to say that I feel that I have missed out on a joyous stage in both they're lives. Kayla (my eldest) is talking and playing alot now and it's like I never have time to join in because I always seem to be feeding/changing the baby, and Ollie seems to have grown so big so quickly, Kayla seemed to be a baby for a lot longer and his first birthday seems to have come round a lot quicker. I think that the different age gaps have pros and cons... but I will say this (and it may only be in my family) the three year age gap is the worst because, at thrre, the child is aware of his/her surroundings and is the centre of your universe and then all of a sudden there is a new baby to contend with. and (in england any way) three is when they start pre-school and it's like they think that you're getting rid of them to make way for the new baby. There is three years between my brother and sister and she has never forgiven my mum for having him. And my cousins are three years apart and the eldest used to get really vicious, he used to bite, slap kick and pinch his little brother. But as I said before it may only be my family, lol.

If you could change when you had your second, when would that be?
Because thats what I don't want, to miss seeing each child as baby.

Marihett - posted on 11/07/2009

My son is now 9 months & I would personally wait till he is just over 2 and a half years. Then I know I don't have to give him that constant attention. Having 2 small babies, I think is hard work. I see now with this 1 how much it takes out of you. Your baby is also eating, walking & talking & doesn't need you as much as earlier. I just wanna give my son the best in these early days before I have to turn my attention to another baby.
Remember when parenting feels like it is hard work, then you know you are doing your best, when it's easy to be a parent then there is something you are not doing.

Limara - posted on 11/07/2009

my first child was 21 months when her baby brother was born. She was a year old when I fell pregnant with him. It was hard work, with her so young, because of morning sickness but she doesn't remember him not being there so we've had no problems with jealousy. I do have to say that I feel that I have missed out on a joyous stage in both they're lives. Kayla (my eldest) is talking and playing alot now and it's like I never have time to join in because I always seem to be feeding/changing the baby, and Ollie seems to have grown so big so quickly, Kayla seemed to be a baby for a lot longer and his first birthday seems to have come round a lot quicker. I think that the different age gaps have pros and cons... but I will say this (and it may only be in my family) the three year age gap is the worst because, at thrre, the child is aware of his/her surroundings and is the centre of your universe and then all of a sudden there is a new baby to contend with. and (in england any way) three is when they start pre-school and it's like they think that you're getting rid of them to make way for the new baby. There is three years between my brother and sister and she has never forgiven my mum for having him. And my cousins are three years apart and the eldest used to get really vicious, he used to bite, slap kick and pinch his little brother. But as I said before it may only be my family, lol.